Moms with boys chime in

RussianMommy · November 2012

The more I think about it, the more I'm convinced I'm having a boy. I come from a huge family and the majority of them are boys. I know boys are great and funny and all that, but as soon as my little cousins want to play with tinker toys, blocks, cars, dinosaurs etc, I'm like "ok I'm just going to let you play".... I don't know how to build cars and big structures and I'm not creative enough to get involved with "boy toys". I'm worried I'm gonna be a boring mom if I have a boy. I like dolls, tea parties, playing dress up, nail polish and all things girly

Anyone with boys want to chime in??

AFBTB · November 2012

I had this same fear before DS was born. But as PP said you adapt. DS is VERY into cars. So most of the day is spent driving cars in circles around the coffee table. Also, simple set ups work great, you don't have to go into elaborate ramps and stuff for the cars. I tip a pillow of the couch and we use that as a ramp, DS loves it. And yes, I do spend a lot of time playing super heroes too. Not really my favorite, but DS loves it and that makes it fun for me, to watch him having fun and to be a part of it.

So, try not to stress if you have a boy, you'll find ways that work for the both of you to have fun

HTH!

lifesadance · November 2012

I felt the same way before I had my son. I am sure you will adapt, once you get to that point.

I am now an expert on everything Thomas & Friends, can build awesome tracks and towers, we play with rubber bugs and I've gotten used to him wiggling his fingers on/at me and saying that he's a spider on me/coming to get me.

That said, he does also play with "girl" toys. We are really opposed to gender-stereotyping his play so we let him choose what he wants to play with and watch. Sometimes he watches "Mighty Machines" or "Thomas & Friends" but other times he watches "Strawberry Shortcake" or "My Little Pony". In addition to typical "boy" toys he has a kitchen set, he has a baby doll that he carries around and takes care of, he has a Lalaloopsy play set, about a half dozen My Little Ponies, etc. that he has chosen. He does tend to prefer his "boy" toys but plays with the other things daily as well and integrates them -- sometimes his Lalaloopsy rides on Thomas and his doll helps him build train tracks.

You will come to love the "boy" toys too; I know I did.

mommysangels · November 2012

Just as people have mentioned, you adapt and learn from your kids. I didn't know what I was going to do with my son for I have never really liked playing sports, cars or rough housing. We'll I do everyday. We play cars and not just pushing cars we will act out seens of the movie cars 2. He loves it. He likes to rough house and we do (I take caution of the belly though), like throwing him in the air or spining in the chair, playing his version of tag, lol. He is all boy and I love it. With my daghter she is more laid back and while she's only 9 months she loves this 1 doll I got her from Lamaze. I can't wait for her to start showing interest in things and we can all play together. This will be very interesting. So all in all. watch the movies your son is interested in, get involved. All you have to do is be with him, the rest comes naturally.

KatieKim0815 · November 2012

You'll get used to it!! I Amos into trucks now! Boys are so fun! And, if he is interested, why not get him a doll. My son has one.

boys ar fun, easy and so attached to heir moms!

watermellens · November 2012

if you have a boy, you'll learn and love every second of it!! Besides, you might have a girl that loves to build or a boy that loves dolls. Just go with the flow.

doremi29 · November 2012

Boys are awesome! DS is totally into everything "boy" and I find it much easier to play with him. He doesn't really even want me to imaginitive play with him. It's more like I create a track for his cars and he drives the cars around. Makes my job easy!

Even though he's "all boy" he is also the most snuggly, loving kid ever. He gives me "smooches" and hugs all the time and loves to cuddle.

I'm super excited to be having a girl this time around, but it definately took a moment because I was anticipating another boy and was very excited about 2 boys (and I would never have thought I'd feel like that- I'm a girly girl)

emriley84 · November 2012

I was the same way when I found out DS#1 was a boy. I only had sisters growing up, and only have nieces. I thought, oh no, what do I even do with a boy???

Now, he's 2, we got him a train table for Christmas and I think I'm more excited about it than he will be. When it's your own child, and you see they joy in their face, and how excited they are to just have you play by their side, it doesn't matter what you're doing. You'll quickly be saying vroom, choo choo and holding your breath as your little daredevil attempts an ER trip once daily. (At least that's how my days go! haha)

Hesterlicious · November 2012

Cars and dinos are meh to my DS but we have had a few epic lightsaber battles. You get inspired by them.

MotherMayEye · November 2012

My six year old son is too much fun and he is hilarious. Sure, I have to pull his finger about ten times a day; play video games with him; and kiss him, Mario and Luigi goodnight -- but I also get asked to marry him about once a week, he tells me I am funny, pretty and how much he likes a girl with a big soft belly, and when he shares his most secret-secrets with me instead of his dad, it melts my heart.

Boys are something special and you will love your little guy if you are having one!

wren444 · November 2012

I think my son turned out to be easier than a daughter would have been. Boys are so practical...they can turn anything into a toy (e.g. a stick, a wooden spoon or a cardboard box.) My son loves to cook, so we can really bond over that. And he was easily entertained with arts & crafts and music too. My attention for trains, legos, building forts, etc. was always limited but he didn't need much of my energy to get into it and then he was off. I remember getting so bored playing dress-up and make-believe with the little girls I used to do childcare for too. Maybe it's just my personality, but raising a boy has been a blast and pretty easy...and like PP don't rule out dolls based on stereotypes - my son went through a doll & stuffed animal phase. He loved doing tea parties when he was little too.

spring_time · November 2012

I grew up with two sisters and only girl cousins. I really had no idea what I could possibly do with a boy. However, all babies are born pretty gender neutral. They don't have many preferences at birth, and they are not gender specific. As your child grows, you grow with them. Naturally you start becoming interested in the things they are interested in.

I never thought I would play with trains, but we are obsessed with Thomas in this house. We play cars, we play chase, we discover rolly pollies, we dig in the sandbox, and I know more names of construction trucks than I ever thought I would know. However, my DS also likes to play dress up, cook with me, sing songs, make crafts, and take care of stuffed animals. I don't think I will ever be one of those people who has an interest in wrestling, monster truck shows, fishing, or camping, but that doesn't mean I can't introduce him to the things I like.

My DH is a guys guy, and sometimes I wish someone had given him the feminine touch somewhere along the road. Girls can do just about anything now, but little boys also need to be well-rounded. Who better to do that than their moms?

RussianMommy · November 2012

Thanks everyone! I feel better now

blush64 · November 2012

Babies are babies and little kid are little kids. You don't need to worry about boys vs girls. I knew nothing about "boy" stuff but I had two and raised them without their father.

First, girls also like blocks, dinosaurs and many toys you think are "boy" toys. Let them lead. My sons liked to play dress up and most little kids like some sort of tea party. EDIT My sons didn't ever call it a tea party but they loved to serve me water from little cups and make play-doh food.

I have found my boys were a bit more active than my most of my nieces were and my boys didn't like dolls although I did buy them one. It made no difference when we played. They loved Hercules and DragonballZ but they love Pochahontas, Mulan and my oldest was absolutely were obsessed with the Little Mermaid, even had the sheets.

Don't raise just boys or girls, raise children.

EDIT What others have said is so true. When you are plaing with a son and he is giggling and having the best time ever it won't matter what you are doing, you'll love it.

jasminej613 · November 2012

My son is 3.5- in the beginning, baby toys are basically the same- until they start showing interest in "gender based" stuff anyway.

And honestly, you figure it out- when I play Legos with Jacob, I don't build cars. I make houses, because that's what I like to build. He makes cars and he's ok with that.

Honestly you'll grow into it- or you won't- but the kid won't know the difference and won't think you're boring...

RussianMommy · November 2012

I really really wanted a girl, I knew it was a 50/50 chance, but I just could not see myself NOT having a daughter. I wanted that whole mother/daughter relationship, where we would paint each others nails, and bake, and i would go wedding dress shopping... you know that whole thing.... i just come from a big family of boys that i just wanted to have a little girl. I grew up with a little brother and I have tons of boy cousins, so it's not like I dont know how fun they can be

I guess I should add.... we saw our midwife today and she was going over the results of the U/S..she was trying to hide the gender part coz she knew we were waiting till saturday... but i saw "male".....so now im pretty sure it's a boy.

blush64 · November 2012

My sons are teens now and we are still close. While I don't paint their nails we do bake together sometimes. Although a mother-daughter relatinship might not be exactly the same as a mother-son relationship it can be just as close and just as special. Even a mother-daughter relationships will differ from one daughter to the next. To be honest even if you had a girl she might have grown up hating all "girly" stuff. Having so much planned out for a girl that's not born yet is a bit much pressure. A girl might end up hating dresses, loving bugs and cars and sports. Even with a girl you might not end up with what you were dreaming of. Same as men who assume their sons are going to go into the sport they have always loved and end up with a son who prefers the band or video games.

My mother is much closer to my brother than to me. They have always got along better and been more alike.

It's fine to be feel a bit down for what you think you might be missing but don't stay down too long.

RussianMommy · November 2012

blush64:
My sons are teens now and we are still close. While I don't paint their nails we do bake together sometimes. Although a mother-daughter relatinship might not be exactly the same as a mother-son relationship it can be just as close and just as special. Even a mother-daughter relationships will differ from one daughter to the next. To be honest even if you had a girl she might have grown up hating all "girly" stuff. Having so much planned out for a girl that's not born yet is a bit much pressure. A girl might end up hating dresses, loving bugs and cars and sports. Even with a girl you might not end up with what you were dreaming of. Same as men who assume their sons are going to go into the sport they have always loved and end up with a son who prefers the band or video games.

My mother is much closer to my brother than to me. They have always got along better and been more alike.

It's fine to be feel a bit down for what you think you might be missing but don't stay down too long.

ya my brother and my mom definitely have a different relationship than I do with mine. i see your point

evelyntaylor · November 2012

I love having a son. He is so much fun. You just kind of learn as you go so I wouldn't worry about it.

jannv11 · November 2012

Once you have a boy you'll be happy playing anything with them. My son also likes to play with his kitchen and have tea parties. And he has had his nails painted more than a few times

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