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October 2011 Moms
missyishere
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Ca we do UO or Judgment today?
missyishere
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Since us in the states will be busy tomorrow, I thought maybe we could get it started a day early...
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Re: Ca we do UO or Judgment today?
My UO would be I think grave sites are over-rated. I don't think going to a headstone is how I see remembering someone would connect you to them. If I want to have a moment remembering my mom, I take out some of her items, I look through pictures, I talk to my sister, etc. Standing over someone's dead body creeps me out.
I agree. I also am not the type that wants to be with a person when they pass. When my grandpa was passing from cancer, it was at the point when he was in the hospital and couldn't remember you were even there. I had vacation plans and went to the hospital to say my goodbyes. At that point he still looked the same and could hold my hand and everything. I was hoping he would pass while I was on vacation. He didn't, and against my better judgement, I went back into his room when I got back. He didn't look the same, was ash colored, eyes rolled back, and was gurgling, it was awful. That was about three years ago. I still regret going back in there. Spirit wise, I'm sure he knew I was there....physically, and mentally he didn't. It didn't help that my mom was demanding that I give him a hug and a kiss while he laid there and I stood there horrified. I loved my grandpa dearly, but seeing him in that state and as my last memory of him.....it was extremely hard on me. I can't get the image out of my head. When my other grandpa passed from cancer, I happened to go in there a few days before and he was having a really good day. Was sitting up and talking, joking around, and he got to meet my SO. We spent hours in there. I didn't go back except to be in the hallway while he was passing. I am glad my last memory was of how he was a few days prior and not of him actually passing in front of my eyes.
Well.....you win. This judgement is just too amazing!
I have a confession instead of a UO. I love to eat turkey skin. I know some people think it is gross but it is so good! Screw the meat I just peal off all the crispy skin!
Hahaha! I love you. And I'm sorry. I hope you bought a case of wine for tonight and tomorrow.
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
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"There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
I agree! I have been to "see" my dad once since he died. But I look at pictures and think about him everyday. I talk to him when I want, I don't think I should have to go there for him to be remembered. My sister goes all the time though and then I feel bad!
I also judge how they put scanning codes at grave sites now so you can scan it and it'll take you to a website dedicated to that persons life...
Yes!
I judge people who decorate their car for Christmas. If you have a Rudolph nose on your grill and antlers on your windows, I automatically think "dork".
O_O
Say what?! Seriously?!!! Uhhhhhh no. Just no.
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
***BFP Chart***
"There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
My brother in his oh so assholish attitude likes to give me sh!t for not going. He kind of sucks. And the whole scan codes for grave sites is ridiculous. I wonder if someone profits from that somehow.
In fact, it is the only thing I really like about turkey!
I think "dork" is letting them of a bit easy, don't you think?
I too like the skin. But only if it is crispy.
Confession: I bought an Elf on the Shelf today. My SD is super excited. It has been in my house for about an hour now. She is creeping me out and I feel like she is really watching me (We got a girl elf). This makes me feel foolish.
UO: I am not a fan of pumpkin pie. I think it is okay, but I prefer other pies over pumpkin. I'm making a cheese cake instead.
I also dislike doing a large family T-day dinner. I did one last year and wanted to rip my skull out (drastic). I'm so anit-family social when it comes to my side of the family. Going against what Pear said, I like my in-laws better and do not judge them. (Well, maybe a little).
Maybe that's more of a confession?
Me too. Its funky mushiness makes my taste buds have the heebies.
SO and I saw a really nice Benz go past us the other day, and SO's jaw dropped when low and behold, there were like 100 stickers plastered on one of the backseat windows.
ITA, and it bugs me in people's houses too. I used to babysit for this fairly wealthy couple, sometimes at their condo and sometimes in my home. I can see letting your kids decorate their toy boxes or kiddy furniture with stickers, but they had them all over the wallpaper, the expensive furniture, the appliances... When the kids tried to do it at my house I nearly had a fit!
Confession. I let my DD do this. But I usually peel the stickers off when she is done. I don't let them stay there and we don't have wall paper. Two days ago when I needed to do some work I let her sticker my office downstairs. Considering my office is also a craft room/play room I decided to go with it and left the stickers there. Today she found more stickers and went downstairs to put the stickers on her sticker wall. I may regret this later but for now I am fine with it.
I do not however let her sticker the car. That's just odd.
I always visit my mom's grave when I am at home. I find it to be peaceful. I know it probably sounds odd but the cemetery is such a peaceful place. There are always birds singing and there is a fountain near by. So I just sit on the bench and talk to my mom. But I can understand why people think it is odd.
I agree about being with people when they pass. I was with my mom the last two weeks of her life and I was the one that found her in the morning. It was the most traumatic thing I have ever experienced. I HATE that I can still close my eyes and see her that way. It is horrible.
I understand why people do, I just really don't dig it myself. I am sorry you had to see your mother like that. It's hard enough losing a parent. I guess the only "good" thing about losing my mom so suddenly is that I didn't have to see her in that manner or have to watch her suffer.