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kimmygirl77
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SS turned 18!!! EEEK!!
kimmygirl77
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SS turned 18 on Friday. So, last weekend was our last weekend. :-( DH and I sat him down on Sunday night and explained to him that since he was 18 that he was no longer required to come over on the COed time. Told him that it was no longer DH's time, it was SS's time. So it was up to him to let us know when and if he was coming over. We let him know that we loved him and that he was always welcome to come over anytime.Stressed that he still had a room over here that is his.
I cried like a baby..... I was so sad. I still am. I have loved that kid since he was 6 years old and my heart hurts. He didn't say if he was going to keep coming over or not. We left that up to him. It is so hard to watch your kids grow up, LOL.
On a separate note, he told us on Sunday that BM was already nagging him about not coming over to our house for Thanksgiving. It is our Thanksgiving this year and my younger SS will be here, but BM was telling our 18 year old, "You know you don't have to go over there this Thanksgiving.... You get to choose now, so you can stay with me..." We told him that whatever he chose is fine with us. Funny that the manipulation is still going on on BM's end. She is pulling him one way. We are not going to pull back. We will remain neutral, like always. On Sunday he indicated that he would be coming over, but BM has a couple days to work on him so I don't know which way he will go. I guess we will see tomorrow when we pick up younger SS.
This is just a new experience for us, so I still feel weird. I am sure it will all work itself out. I told DH that we have to work at not looking disappointed when he chooses not to come over.....
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Re: SS turned 18!!! EEEK!!
Tears in my eyes! SD turns 17 in Jan and this day is getting way to close for us. Reading this made my chest tight.
I hope SS comes for Thanksgiving! He is an adult and hopefully he will find time for both families. My heart goes out to you. I am not looking foward to this!
This!
and as hard as this all is on you guys, you are doing the right thing by not battling BM. Kudos to you! I hope you guys have a wonderful thanksgiving!
I am sorry for you that BM is trying to guilt him into things.
I feel fortunate that my SS ( just turned 19) is coming to Thanksgiving at our house. We never metioned it...he is home from college- staying at his moms house- but told us he would be over on Thursday. DH reminded him that Thursday is Thanksgiving and he acknowledged that he knew it...and is still coming over. He came to dinner last night and asked what time we would be eating on Thursday.
DH is thrilled.