Anyone else not want to tell?

sheacox · November 2012

So I told my hubby tonight that even though I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow I am not ready to tell. Not only am I not ready I don't know if I ever want to make an announcement. My parents know. His parents know. My two best friends know. But I don't really want to tell anyone else. At first I was terrified because of our history. Now I'm feeling more comfortable but I don't know. I'm excited and so looking forward to the baby but I kinda just want to not tell anyone and eventually tell will just know cause I'm huge or I post a pic of the baby. Is this really weird? What's wrong with me? Does anyone else feel the same?

ChristyD6 · November 2012

I don't think you are wrong to want to wait/not have a dramatic pregnancy announcement. We have told our parents, siblings and one friend but I really want to wait to tell anyone else. I know a few of my friends and my grandparents will be so excited, but I kinda like keeping the secret between us. I can't imagine telling "everyone" until I really feel or look pregnant whenever that is- be it 12 weeks or 15.

RedCherry1109 · November 2012

I feel the same way. I told DH that I will probably never announce it on facebook. If they ask I will tell but I want to be more private this time around. If we do tell, it will be after 20 weeks.

Bonjuju · November 2012

Yeah... we told immediate family but I don't want to tell anybody else....ever! The problem is I feel as though some people will be offended if I don't tell them before it's blatantly obvious.

dakardi12 · November 2012

Ya, I go back and forth about it. At first I thought it would be impossible to hold it in, and we only told my mom, his boss, and my dance coach. We are planning on announcing it this week to our families on the holiday. Its been so long that ive kept it a secret that it seems so weird to tell people. I am mostly nervous to tell my cooperating teachers and my University supervisor (I have one term left of college and its full time student teaching).

bottom line, you're not alone.

KHadden26 · November 2012

Really the only reason i want to "announce" is because I'm a yoga teacher and I think my students are going to think I'm getting fat until it's super obvious that it's pregnancy. I'm going to start telling them this week and try to prepare myself for the "oh yea you looked like you were gaining weight" or other rude comments that may come my direction. Better to tell them now than to have them talk to each other about it for the next month until I'm really showing.

lily_721 · November 2012

We have told our family and friends that we see. My IRL IF friends knew all along. Bascially, if I haven't seen them or talked to them recently, we probably aren't that close anyway. I thought I would do a Thanksgiving announcement. Now that it is this week, I'm less inclined.

Its perfectly OK to tell when you are ready -- whenever that may be.

homebird · November 2012

I'm not that excited to tell people who aren't family. Our family (immediate and extended) is very close, so I can't imagine keeping it a secret from them.

But everyone else ... eh.

musicalsilver · November 2012

I can definitely relate. DH continues to joke about not telling anyone until June. Of course, we haven't told our parents yet either, but we're waiting until after the NT scan next week to do that.

On the facebook/general friends front, I'm definitely leaning towards just letting it come out when it does - you know, a huge picture of me or a picture of a baby.

The only other reason I'm inclined to want to tell is so I can quit hiding the fact that I'm not drinking! I'm feeling a little guilty about pouring beers out to fill the bottles with water at social events. 2 beers sacrificed for the sake of secrecy. *sigh* May they rest in peace.

daisy19782011 · November 2012

I dont want to either. We have talked about telling on Thanksgiving, but I hate attention, and I am not a huggy person....I dont know...I have kind of enjoyed just out close family knowing.

Mommy2CB · November 2012

I find it really awkward telling people, especially in person. My 2 BFF's live kinda far so the morning I got my BFP I texted them a picture and said that our DS was gonna be a big brother

DH told his parents, and we told his sister on halloween (so awkward). I haven't told my family yet, and honestly I kind of just want to make a fb announcement and people can comment there. I hate surprises and being center of attention though, so I'm kinda weird. It's just the awkwardness that gets me i think!

Mommy Huff · November 2012

I've also gone back and forth. I texted my DH, Mom, and brother right after taking the test. His parents and brother found out shortly after. I told my close groups of girlfriends around 8 weeks when I knew we were having a girls night so I could tell them all at once. I am not planning to post on FB until 12 weeks. I think, not sure yet, that I'll let my boss know(our principal) right before Christmas break as I will be 12 weeks by then and let staff know during our "good things" discussion at staff mtg in December. Once it's on FB, almost the whole staff will know. I'm ok waiting until 12 weeks. If I was feeling nauseous and missing a lot of work I'd tell sooner but(knock on wood) I've been lucky. The prenatal vitamin is the only thing making me feel really BLEH which is why I take it right before bed. I also have a shutterfly account that I plan to keep family updated more rather than posting EVERYTHING on FB.

Que*Syrah · November 2012

I don't want to make an announcement either. No one but me and DH know I'm pregnant and right now, that's how I want it. We have a history of loss so I just don't want to tell anyone until I'm feeling more confident.

BnchaNums · November 2012

I dread telling. I did last time, too. I've had to come out to family earlier than I like because I'm so big and I'm not happy about it. We tell my parents tomorrow (9.5 weeks). Blah.

handsonthewheel · November 2012

I really don't want to do a big FB announcement either, but we probably will since we did with our DD and I worry people will think this wasn't a planned pregnancy if they think we are keeping it secret! We planned this baby to be born just a few months before a big international move, so I think a lot of people may assume it was an accident due to the timing!

lioness13 · November 2012

I don't feel this way but I have friends who didn't tell me or anyone they didn't see regularly until they were 7 months or more. I thought it was off but not a big deal. To each her own.

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