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March 2013 Moms
Am I being difficult??
My mother and cousins are putting together a baby shower for me. They asked me specifically where I would like to have it. I just told them that it would be more convenient to have it around where I live because it will be easier to get people to help bring back gifts to our house. So now apparently (I shouldn't even know these things), they plan on having it in the town where my mother lives (which is 45 minutes away from my house) so its better for her. When I found this out I said something about it because the ONE thing I asked for was to have it close to home. I'm not trying to be a brat, but why should it be more convenient for my mom? DH and I are the ones who will need to be transporting the gifts and all back to our house. (My mother isn't going to help!!) If it's closer to my house then we can have more people help because we know people who live close to us. I'm not trying to be unappreciative, but come on! I should have known this crap was going to happen because they started drama with my bridal shower to. lol I can't win!
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Re: Am I being difficult??
I don't really think this qualifies as "drama." But I do think that you can probably handle your shower being 45 minutes away. Are you really expecting such a tremendous amount of gifts that you can't possibly wrangle them into the house one or two at a time? I think you guys will probably manage just fine - if you are really worried, you can always ask someone who lives near you to help you on the other end if they're available.
Instead of getting mad about the location of the shower, try to focus on the fact that this is a really nice thing for them to do for you. No one has to throw a shower for any of us - they're doing it out of kindness.
p.s. If it makes you feel any better, before we found out we were moving 700 miles away (to where my family lives), any shower someone might have had for us would have involved bringing the gifts back on a 13 hour drive. Yikes. As it is, if my MIL throws us a second shower as it seems like she might, that will still involve a 6 hour trip each way. I don't really care - it's just so sweet of her to want to do that.
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Yikes - that too. Things like platters of food are way harder to transport than gifts.
Another vote for taking a deep breath and relaxing. 45 minutes isn't a big deal and if you need help getting things into your house/apartment/condo, etc just give your neighbors a heads up and I'm sure they can help you on that end. If your Mom is making food and prepping tray of things, etc. it is much easier for her to do that at home (or nearby) than worry about transporting it to you and keeping things warm or from getting ruined in transport And - if the guests are primarily closer to her, that makes sense too.
It sucks that she asked for your opinion first, and then went against it so she sort of set you up to be upset about it. In the grand scheme of things though, this isn't something to sweat in my opinion.
We live 2 hours away from all of our family, so i figured it was easier for us to drive 2 hours than to bring 2 big familes on a 2hour drive to where we live.
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I can see it being annoying if you get, for instance, a car seat and a stroller. I would not want to make multiple car trips of 45 minutes to pick up gifts. However, if there really are that many gifts, you can probably just leave some of them with your mom and pick a few up every time you visit.
I am spoiled, though - I moved to a location where I never need to drive more than 10 minutes at a time. So my opinion might not count.
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