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September 2011 Moms
toriwc
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Update on me and the babe - Long
toriwc
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Not sure if I have updated the board, so I have a few minutes and will.
I have what is called placenta accreta in addition to a full placenta previa. This is a great danger to me, but the baby is fine as long as we can keep him cooking in there for as long as possible. Pre-term labor (which I had with A at 30 wks) could be catastrophic for both of us. As a result, I will be having my scheduled c/s at 35 weeks, making this March baby a February baby. I will be having a full hysterectomy immediately following the removal of the baby, and all of this has to be done an hour away with doctors I don't know. It is likely going to be done under general anesthetic, so neither DH nor I will "be" there for the birth. However, this hospital has one of the top five NICUs in the country.
I was informed last week that I am looking at hospital bedrest as soon as after Christmas (27ish weeks) at that hospital an hour away. DH is freaking out about being alone with A for 8 weeks, plus my recovery time after. There is no way he'll be able to bring her down during the week, so we'll skype and I'll see her on weekends. My MOPS group is already organizing meals, babysitting (to give him a break occasionally), and other various things. We're going to buy me a laptop so I can actually do quite a bit from the hospital, such as pay bills, organize people to help him, etc.
School hired my sub this week, so in that sense, I feel like I have a tiny bit of control. He and I are meeting tomorrow for the first time, and he's often in the building, so I'll be able to prep him a lot between now and Christmas.
Because of the way my contract works, my remaining sick days, and district policies, I am going to have to do most of this unpaid and without my health insurance which we are on, so we are going to have to go on DH's (much more expensive) plan. I have a friend/colleague willing to donate 30+ days to me, which due to the specifics, would allow me to keep everything through August 30th. I am waiting on a ruling from my superintendent, which will then have to be approved by the Board.
I haven't ordered a single thing for the new baby's room, so DH is freaking. He cleared it out this weekend (it's currently his man cave), we're going to paint soon, and I have to get this furniture ordered this week. I also have to get a list of other things we need to my MIL asap (my parents are providing the nursery, my inlaws everything else. We are very fortunate).
I am trying to soak up every second with A, but she isn't making it easy because she has been really tempermental lately. Normal, I know, but doesn't allow for snuggles, hugs, and kisses, which I desperately want right now.
So there we are. This week, I go to my OB Tuesday (with u/s), the new docs at the new hospital Wed (with u/s), and to my current MFM Saturday (with u/s). I am hoping for some good news (mainly no hospital bed rest), but it seems that every time I talk to someone these days, the news gets worse. Thanks for letting me get this all out.
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Re: Update on me and the babe - Long
So, the goal is to get to February.. You can do this. I know you are strong. I am hoping for minimal bed rest for you.. and that G can handle A. It sounds like you have a lot of support to help him, so that is good. Feel free to vent or talk to us as much as you need! I don't know that I will always have the right thing to say, but I know that it can help tremendously to just TELL someone! so don't hesitate to just talk.
I'm keeping you, baby, A, and G in my thoughts.
"What did my fingers do before they held you? What did my heart do with it's love?"
Thanks guys. You are all very sweet. The main thing you can do is to allow me to vent and entertain me when the bedrest comes
I've said it before here, but I hate that I whine and complain so much here, but I don't really have an outlet in real life. I am a firm believer in not involving family/close friends in marital issues (ie, DH is being an ass) for fear of tainting them against him forever, so I often use here instead.
Moosey, I thought I told you! OB told me when she called Tuesday (or whatever night chicken-gate was). She'll be staying in day care, so it'll just be evenings he has to deal with. He's forgetting that he cared for her full time for three months, so he's got this and is completely capable.
I'm going to miss my pups too, aholes that they are.
Wonderful. Isn't there a food eating song/dance you are supposed to be showing me?
Hang in there, mama. You'll get through this!
"Because when you stop and look around, this life is pretty amazing."
~Dr. Suess
Thanks for sharing this. My understanding is if I can get to 35 weeks and if all of this can be done under perfectly controlled conditions, it should go smoothly like for your friend. If you think of it, could you find out if her upcoming surgery is related to this? My other organs are at risk if my placenta decides to leech on to them too.
Thanks all. I am a pretty tough cookie, but sometimes I just need to vent or I'll explode. Oh, and no name yet. All the ones I listed a while back are still in the running.
Tori, I am so sorry you are dealing with so much at one time. You have always sounded like a very strong woman, and I can tell you are on top of everything as much as you can be.... Don't ever feel like you have to take on the world. We are all here for you, and as a group we can always come together and help you in anyway-- big or small yo name it!
I am hoping for the absolute best for you and your family. You all will get through this tough time! Tons of hugs from Savannah, Ga!
Rox said it well... I have always thought of you as this organized strong mature and loving person - these vents just prove how dedicated you are to those you care about.
Im so sorry about what you're going through - you will be in my thoughts over the next several months! The reward at the end will be so much sweeter. Back at home with A, holding a sweet little one in your arms and tons of people cheering you on!
Hugs Tori!
This for me as well.
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. Huge (((hugs))) to you. I cannot imagine all the emotions you are going through. Like PP's have said, you seem very collected about it, tough cookie! However, if you have a "weak moment" don't hesitate to come here! We will always welcome some complains! You are in my thoughts and prayers, as is A and YH. You can do this! I am really hoping for some good news for you over the next few days/appointments. But remember, even with some bad news, there will always be good news in the end...your sweet baby boy!
::crosses fingers::
Oh Tori!
I will be thinking of you and your family. You are such a strong woman!
? Voted Cool Cat ~ 2012 Sweetpea Mom Awards ?
That is a lot for one person to deal with! I'm so sorry you are having to go through all of this. It is awesome that you have a coworker willing to donate that many days to you, I hope the board approves it quickly with no issue. We will do our best to keep you entertained while at the hospital.
Many T&Ps for a happy and healthy baby and mom. You can do this!
I am so, so sorry to hear that you are dealing with this. How incredibly stressful! I hope that it goes as smoothly as possible and you are able to hold on to the baby until week 35. I will be thinking of you.
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for everything that your family is dealing with. I wish the best for you and your baby.
Wow Tori, there's a lot being thrown at you right now. I hope you're able to keep baby in for 35 weeks. It seems that you have some things working in your favor though, in that your substitute has already been found, you're within driving distance of a good hospital, and you have some supportive friends able to help with A.
"I am woman. I am invincible. I am strong. I am woman"!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivF-OM1MPcU&feature=fvst
You are and will be the best mommy for A and 2.0! Look how organized you are! Well done!
35 weeks will be here before you know it with a healthy family ready to take a "hello beautiful baby we are your mommy and daddy" photo! You know I am down to be your email buddy
Maybe you can teach me a few things?
Lots of Love and health,
Becca and Bo