Vent about jerky boss

MBush4 · November 2012

Last Friday night I came down with either food poisoning or a stomach virus. It got to the point where I was unable to keep anything down and became dehydrated. My Dr told me to go to L&D and sure enough, I was so dehydrated I spent the better part of a day getting 5 bags of IV fluid in me. I came home late Saturday night and spent most of the day yesterday sleeping and trying to keep a few things in my body. Last night I still felt pretty crappy so I emailed my bosses (I'm an advisor to two different academic programs and as such report to two different gentlemen) letting them know I wouldn't be in today (I still wasn't able to keep food in my for very long although I had stopped throwing up... if you catch my drift).

I felt bad doing so because in the past month and a half I've had to take off almost a week's worth of days because I've been hit in two accidents and been ordered on bedrest for three days and also had to take my GTT test which I failed and will have to take the 3-hr test. I know it puts them in a bind because while they aren't incredibly busy men if I'm there, it's registration week and lots of students are coming in last minute for advising, thus creating more work for them.

One boss emailed and texted saying it was okay and to let him know if I needed tomorrow off as well. He's been very supportive. The other emailed saying, "Well thanks, this sure comes at a convenient time. Feel better." He's just been such a jerk since I told him I was pregnant that I honestly want to ask him one day, "WTF?!" To give you an idea, when I told him I was expecting his first response was, "Was this an accident? If I were you I wouldn't have planned it." and every time I need to take time off for appointments he lets out a huge sigh and comes up with more work for me to do to make up for my "time off". Why are some men such @$$holes? He has two kids. He's mentioned many times that he's a model husband and father, so what gives? My other (supportive) boss is a life-long bachelor who admits to not caring much for kids (unless they give him a reason to like them) but at least he s supportive and asks how I'm doing, etc.

Okay, end of vent.

MBush4 · November 2012

Ugh! That would suck! I'm sorry!

KD79 · November 2012

I'm so sorry! First of all, I hope you feel better soon.

Second, is there anyone you can talk to about how that boss is treating you? That's completely uncalled for. I work for a college, so I understand what you're saying and how registration time is crazy, but come on! It's not like you WANT to be sick.

mendota67 · November 2012

I think it might be a good idea to get a note from your OB to either present to the jerk or just keep in your back pocket. Sounds to me like he might be insinuating that you dont really need to be at home. I'd have the note to show him if he questions you about it or just to show to HR if he complains or reports you. I'm a lawyer, so maybe I am just over cautious about this, but seems like good protection for you :-)

MBush4 · November 2012

mendota67:
I think it might be a good idea to get a note from your OB to either present to the jerk or just keep in your back pocket. Sounds to me like he might be insinuating that you dont really need to be at home. I'd have the note to show him if he questions you about it or just to show to HR if he complains or reports you. I'm a lawyer, so maybe I am just over cautious about this, but seems like good protection for you :-)

As wrong as it sounds, I plan on showing him my different pricks and large, dark bruises from the 5 different times they tried to get an IV in and failed because I was so dehydrated.