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Emotional Non-Eating

sknygrydg07sknygrydg07
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I'm 20 weeks along, and having a growing problem with not wanting to eat.  I've never had any major food issues before, and I've been within a healthy weight range (between 145 - 170 at 5'6") all my life.

I know it's completely emotional based (the rest of my family is dealing with another crisis at the moment), and once I DO eat, I feel fine.  But it's the getting myself TO eat - nothing looks good!  I go to the cupboards and refrigerator, and everything there looks like it's too much trouble to peal or wash or cook or assemble, etc. Usually I really enjoy eating, but now hunger pangs are coming to my brain as 'annoying' and 'irritating', rather than the invitation to do something pleasant.

Any older, experienced moms out there that can give me a gentle, 'kick in the pants' to help me get over myself?  I need a firm reminder that it's not about 'me' anymore.

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  • danuli8danuli8 member

    Is there something special to eat that you associate with good times? It doesn't have to be something that you cook. What about making a date with a friend to meet her for lunch or dinner? Or have your SO take you out and spoil you? Eating with someone I like is good for my appetite.

    I sometimes have the problem that I want to eat, but nothing sounds good. I either keep rummaging and thinking "What do I want?" until something registers or start thinking where I'd like to go out and grab something. (I love me some Panera--pretty healthy choices and lots of variety.) Going out doesn't have to be all that expensive.

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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City

    Are you depressed?  If you feel down about things other than food, please talk to your doctor about it very soon.

    It could be that you are just buying the wrong food in the grocery store, which is what I was doing.  By the time I get home from work, I am so tired that I just don't feel like cooking like I used to.  I asked my mother where the 2nd tri energy was that I was promised.  She said that she never had much energy either.  I have started to buy more things in the store that are pre-made or shortcuts.  I am also eating more cereal.

    I am also taking more help which is really hard for me.  DH is now doing a lot more of the cooking and I am accepting that it is edible and that is good enough right now.

    Good luck, I hope you feel better soon.

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  • sknygrydg07sknygrydg07

    You know - I didn't think about it but this may be a symptom of.  This pregnancy was a bit of a surprise - I'm 42 and misread pregnancy cues as pre-menaoupause, I was so SURE that I was never going to have a biological child.

    I over think everything, and am processing A LOT of baggage right now - issues with my mother, the fact that I had terminated a pregnancy years ago and still am wracked with guilt, along with all the normal mom to be feelings of worry, anxiety, and self doubt. 

    I really like the idea of getting ready made meals.  I think that combined with a schedule and preset menu (have food decisions already made) will help me keep the 'brain' out of it, and let me eat healthy without thinking about it.

    Thanks for the hope! 

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  • kegkeg member
    I know I'm late to this, but I had this issue, particularly with my last pregnancy (twins).  I didn't have morning sickness, but nothing sounded good...at all.  Now, trying to come up with something to fix is a challenge, and meat doesn't sound good at all.  Anyway, what I've done is try to have high protein easy to eat stuff around--protein bars, Greek yogurt, lots of toast with PB and honey, etc.  I've also been eating more cereal and I've found that paneer is appealing to me, so I've been getting a bunch of Indian frozen meals for lunches.  I also drink a ton of milk and last pg I would add protein powder to my milk.  This time I'm not as paranoid about protein intake with just a singleton, so I'm just doing carnation instant breakfast.  Oh, and, if something sounds good, I go for it if I can.  So far that's been Arby's one day and Chipotle another and a lot of Caribou decaf. :-) 
    2004-Started TTC; Nov 2007-Lap with endo removed; Jan 2008-Ectopic (mtx); April 2008-IVF #1 (bfp, twin girls); March 2011-FET (cp); June 2012-IVF #2 (bfp, singleton, EDD 3-19-12)

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