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May 2012 Moms
littleredfish
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Insane ILs Update
littleredfish
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So after my post below happened and DH had a few days to get his balls together (he's a mommas boy BIG time so the idea of having to talk to her made them run for the hills momentarily) he finally spoke to them today. He called them and put it on speaker without telling them so I could hear but they wouldn't try to address me directly because I wanted no part in this discussion; I knew I wouldn't be able to hold back a second time.
Anyways, it basically went as I expected. His dad pretty much apologized right off the bat when he said why he was calling. FIL said he could sense the tension (no sh!t) and felt bad so he apologized for not listening then basically got off the phone.
MIL on the other hand was like a 2 hour ordeal. She was crying saying we should know she would never put DD in harms way and she raised 4 kids so how can DH think she doesn't know what she's doing. Apparently I'm too sensitive and need to learn how to take friendly advice. DH rightly corrected her and said that it was not ADVICE I was being given, our directions were just being blatently ignored for her own way of doing things. There was a lot of other discussion, basically rehashing everything because she wanted 3 examples of how she has just gone behind our backs and done something inappropriate to which he gave her the 3 from that night alone and then about 6 more.
I'm just basically proud of DH, he really came through for me. He stuck to his guns and told his mother that it would be a while until she gets time alone with her; she'd have to prove to us that she can follow our wishes. She asked how that was possible if she wasn't allowed to see her and DH told her that was not his problem (I almost high fived him). Then there was about 45 mins of her crying about how she'll never see her grandchild again, and it's the only one so how can we do this to her. Very dramatic. I left the room for that part and DH just calmed her down but stuck to the point.
Christmas should be awkward but I really don't care. They needed to know they overstepped and it wasn't fair to either of us. My parents are seperated so there are 3 sets of grandparents and the other 2 have had no issues with our direction so they have no excuse. I just hope this is the end of it because I don't want to get into this further with her. I've never had a problem with them before and I hope we can still have a good relationship, but on this I will not budge. MY child. She had her 4 and this one is MINE.
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