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Parenting after a Loss
Petunia844
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Married the love of my life 7/11/09 - Our first baby, Peyton Mark, was born sleeping 10/25/11 at 33 weeks - Our second baby, BFP 2/4/12, welcome to the world Raylan! Holy Moly, BPF 2/4/14, please be safe and sound little one!
Ugh DH
Petunia844
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DH was gone almost all day yesterday watching football, so I told him today I wanted to work out and take as long of a nap as I wanted. So I went to work out and was gone maybe 40 min, then he gives me a hard time about wanting to take a shower before he goes to the gym. Then he leaves for over two hrs to go swim and go to two stores, then when he comes home he eats lunch and DS was a little cranky so I didn't want to jus put him down. So finally I go take my nap but am woken up sooner than I want because DS is screaming...come out here and DH is just sitting with him on his lap doing nothing. Ugh. He almost never screams without being able to be consoled, you just have to try! DH claims he tried everything and yet Raylan isn't even swaddled...which is the very first thing I always do when he is cranky, DH knows this. After having the baby for 6 days without his help other than at night I just wanted a little less baby time today, but I hate to leave him with the baby if he will just let him cry like that. After I came out here I still had to pump so I said can you,just try to wrap him up please? Now he is swaddled and napping, go figure.
Married the love of my life 7/11/09 - Our first baby, Peyton Mark, was born sleeping 10/25/11 at 33 weeks - Our second baby, BFP 2/4/12, welcome to the world Raylan! Holy Moly, BPF 2/4/14, please be safe and sound little one!
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Re: Ugh DH
It's hard with DHs!!! I found with my first daughter that DH just could not console her. As soon as I took her from him, she calmed down. So now with DS, we have no choice - we both have to take turns consoling him (which is needed more often since he cries a lot more). I have to say DH is much better at consoling DS than he was with DD - maybe that's because I can't take DS from DH anymore because I'm feeding/bathing/changing DD.
Anyway - hang in there, I promise it gets better!
M/C Nov 9, 2011 at 11 weeks.... We love you & miss you
After 7 years of no ovulation...
BFP#1 10/24/11 ~ EDD 6/29/12 ~ Natural m/c 11/2/11
BFP#2 2/3/12 ~ Alice born 9/26/12
Honestly.. I would say plan a few daytrips and go out for the WHOLE day.. my DH used to do things like this, too.. but, then roles reversed, and I went back to work and he stayed home on paternity leave.. within a few days there was a remarkable difference!! I would even say he has a better ability to soothe DH most times than I do! All it took was for him to be "forced" to do it, because I wasn't there..
When I was home, and he only had DS for shorter periods of time (even if I was out for like 2 hours), if DS cried, and DH didn't soothe him, he knew I would once I hear him freaking out.. when the choice was, soothe him myself or feel guilty that the baby is screaming, he quickly learned what to do
And, FWIW, the ways DH soothes DS are verry different than how I do.. and sometimes if I try doing something that works for DH it won't work for me, or vice versa! Babies are funny
So are DHs!!
yea, in Feb I am going for a girls weekend with my sisters and I know it will be good for DH to finally see what an entire day alone with him is like...but that's not for a while!
Married the love of my life 7/11/09 - Our first baby, Peyton Mark, was born sleeping 10/25/11 at 33 weeks - Our second baby, BFP 2/4/12, welcome to the world Raylan! Holy Moly, BPF 2/4/14, please be safe and sound little one!
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