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So I gave my notice in at work, & a lesson in lowered expectations.

markhamgurlmarkhamgurl member
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I officially gave my notice in to work yesterday with my departure date for pregnancy leave, and couldn't be happier!  They knew I was pregnant but were still pushing to find out when I'd be leaving, which I held-off on telling them until we got our A/S results back and were assured that everything looked okay.  Handing-in my notice like that was not easy since full-time employment has always been a non-negotiable fact of life for me.  I still can't comprehend not coming in to work every day!

After I gave notice to my employer, I sent out a "short but sweet" email letting the rest of the office know about my departure and why I was leaving.  I received one congratulatory response out of the five people I emailed - and I'm wondering if I was expecting too much for people to hit 'Reply' just to say congrats, even if it's not sincere?

I wasn't expecting much as I'm not close with anyone here in the office (especially being that I'm in a supervisory-like position, meaning I may as well be the devil), but I thought they'd have something to say, even out of politeness. It's just left me feeling even more isolated than usual, and rather invisible.  It's not a nice feeling, and I wish it didn't bother me quite as much as it does!

 Has anyone else experienced something similar?   

 

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  • MelTweMelTwe
    When I was pregnant with DD, I gave notice and my coworkers were congratulatory and said they were excited for me, but knowing that most of them were catty and gossipy behind backs, it felt pretty empty to me.  Its possible some of them may resent the fact that you have the choice not to work, when they don't have the choice.  Motherhood can be pretty judgy.  Again, not your problem and in the big picture it won't matter much.  Be excited!
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  • SQuaidSQuaid
    Don't you think people will say something to you when they see you?  That is what I would expect and it would be more sincere anyway.  Don't worry about it and Congrats!!!
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    Honestly, they probably have their own things to worry about. You yourself said that you're not close with them. I'm not sure why you would expect fake-excited responses from them. I wouldn't send them to a coworker that I wasn't close with.
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  • Spacebunny19Spacebunny19 member
    I would guess more people will say something in person and/or when it gets closer to when you're actually leaving. It's not like this is your last day, right?
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  • markhamgurlmarkhamgurl member

    Thanks for the input and kind words, ladies .. it certainly is appreciated.  I sit in a quiet corner of the suite we rent in a very isolated office, and although a few people passed in front of my office door today, nobody stuck their head in to say anything.  So who knows!

    But if you worked with someone that you didn't like and that person announced they were leaving, wouldn't you be happy regardless of the reason - even if only because you wouldn't have to see them anymore?  In fact, part of me wants to ask them all why they're not happier I'm on my way out!

    On an unrelated note, does anyone else remember the "Lowered Expectations" skit on MadTV?  That was some funny stuff.  Especially when accompanied with a glass of wine.  Oh, the old days!

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  • caladpi02caladpi02 member

    I rarely respond to these sorts of emails in my office. I am not sure why you want people to say goodbye when you are still there. If I do not interact with someone much or just have a professional, cordial relationship with them I am not really going to care either way if they are leaving or staying.

    I think it is kind of odd you want them to say something to you and that you think they would be happy you are leaving. My .02 cents.

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  • SkyBeeSkyBee member

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    Honestly, they probably have their own things to worry about. You yourself said that you're not close with them. I'm not sure why you would expect fake-excited responses from them. I wouldn't send them to a coworker that I wasn't close with.

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  • feytalariafeytalaria member
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    I rarely respond to these sorts of emails in my office. I am not sure why you want people to say goodbye when you are still there. If I do not interact with someone much or just have a professional, cordial relationship with them I am not really going to care either way if they are leaving or staying.

    I think it is kind of odd you want them to say something to you and that you think they would be happy you are leaving. My .02 cents.

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  • RoseSnockerRoseSnocker
    Lowered expectations was my favorite skit!! On the lack of email response...well I also don't really understand why you didn't get at least some fake happy replies. In person or in email at that. The attention would have probably made you feel good and possibly sad to leave, darn co-workers letting you down!
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  • Beaglechon2012Beaglechon2012 member
    Uh sounds like you were "expecting much." Sorry you got disappointed.


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  • California Blonde 1984California Blonde 1984 member

    You have to remember that when co-workers quit it means more work for everyone else. At my company the training process takes about 6 months and it's at least a year or more until someone is fully up to speed. I'm happy for people when they leave for exciting reasons but sometimes it's hard to kick that feeling of having to start all over with training a new person again. I wouldn't take it personally, I'm sure you'll get a better response when you're actually leaving.  It sounds like you're not leaving for a while anyways, I would probably say congratulations to someone when I found out that they were pregnant and then when they were actually leaving, not in response to an email telling me that they would be leaving in a few weeks/months. That would be a little weird for me personally. Good luck! 

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