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February 2013 Moms
dbowitz
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What did DH/SO say when you told him you were pregnant?
dbowitz
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I totally stole this from another board, but it's a good one: What did DH/SO say when you told him you were pregnant?
I had a miscarriage a few months before and it was our second cycle of trying. I took a pregnancy test on a Sunday, the earliest day I could, and it was negative, so I figured we just didn't get pregnant that cycle. On Mon and Tues, my sense of smell was overwhelming, so by Weds I decided to take another test. It was a Wondfo (one of the cheapo tests) and at first was negative. I left it on the counter and a few hours later there was kinda sorta a second line. I asked DH and he thought it was positive, but neither of us were sure. I decided to take a digital test in the morning.
The next morning I woke up at 5am and couldn't get back to sleep. I took a digital, and there were definitely two lines. I woke up DH at 5:15 and told him "I have a secret to tell you..." He had the biggest, goofiest grin on his face!
Married 2/15/09,
BFP #1 02/03/12 - EDD 10/13/12, Missed M/C 03/15/12@9w5d (measuring 8w3d)
They weren't kidding when they said "Beware the Ides of March"
BFP#2 06/13/12 - Emily Samantha born on Feb 9, 2013!
BFP#2 06/13/12 - Emily Samantha born on Feb 9, 2013!This discussion has been closed.
Re: What did DH/SO say when you told him you were pregnant?
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Metformin 1500 mg Femara 5mg + Trigger + TI Round 2 = BFP!
Beta 13DPO: 115, Beta 16dpo: 561 BFP Chart
DS born: February 2013
TTC #2: Nov. 14
Chemical pregnancy 09/16/15
BFP: 12/25/15 EDD: 09/04/16
The first time, we had been trying for a few months. I found out that I was pregnant a couple days before his birthday, so I kept it a secret until then. I bought him a video camera and the card was signed "Julia & Baby {last name} due 11/3/10." DH was so surprised and so happy. I secretly recorded the whole thing and it still makes me a little teary.
This time, we had barely started trying. I gave the test to DS to take to DH. What I didn't realize was that DH had stayed up most of the night playing video games and was grumpy and a little out of it. He was mostly confused. It took him a few hours for it to sink in and be happy about it.
I had had a m/c in April. That BFP had surprised me b/c we spent over 2 years TTC and weren't even trying anymore since adopting our son. I didn't expect to get pregnant again, but I was a few days late so I decided to use a cheapy ovulation test just to see. It came up positive, which I've heard can happen if you're pregnant. So I got the last digital out and it came back yes!
It was early in the morning on Father's Day. I turned the light on to show DH the digital test window. He lifted his head up, looked at, gave me a high five, then went back to sleep. LOL
Lol... it was our very 1st time NTNP so he was a bit in shock. We both expected it to take a lot longer! The next morning and ever since, though, he has been super sweet and excited! Now he is over the moon about his little "copilot"!
BFP1 (DD): Something along the lines of, "Well, that line's so faint, let's wait until the doctor confirms."
BFP2 (m/c): I came out of the bathroom, looked at him changing DD, and said to DD, "You're going to be a big sister in November!" DH smiled at her and sang a made-up "You're going to be a big sister" song.
BFP2 (this LO): After the 2nd day of getting a BFP, in the midst of another conversation I just sort of said, "Well, I'm pregnant again." And his reply: "Oh" (in a positive tone). We were both still cautious from the m/c.
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
I tested the day before my brother's wedding - out of total curiosity to know if I could drink or not with the other bridesmaid's.
I showed DH the test, he thought the 2 lines meant negative (even though we'd been pregnant a few months before, and he saw the test then so he should've known!) and told me "sorry babe, I guess not this month". So I said, "um, honey, no. This means I'm going to be the designated driver tomorrow night and there won't be any drinks for me for the next 9 months or so". He jumped up for joy and then kind of paused - we had to take it a bit slow to digest the news because we were afraid of another m/c - but all is good and healthy!!
My super all about me birth story:
Then: Fraternal twins born at 26 weeks in 1983. Me: 640 grams. Brother: 840 grams. Family kept watch in the NICU for 5 months before being allowed to go home. On oxygen for a year and a half after being released.
Now: Me: PhD student and married. Brother: Lawyer and married.
Dad's wedding speech: Thank you to all the family who stood watch and prayed for our children's survival. Well now the little scrawny chicken is married. Who would've thought? (Thanks dad for making me laugh and cry at the same time).
My BFP Chart
My symptoms hit hard and early, but it was our first time trying so I chalked them up to coming off birth control. I took a digital really early and it came back positive so I handed it to DH, who was still in bed and he smiled and said "Told ya!" ....He had been telling me I was pregnant since the moment we conceived.
I told him I was late on my period which for me isn't uncommon but I just wanted to take one in case and we had been trying for 6 months so we'd taken a few pregnancy tests before and they were obviously negative so we both really didn't think it was gonna be different but he stayed in the bathroom with me and we both got to see it say pregnant
We just looked at each other and smiled and hugged and then called everyone. lol
We had been advised by our Dr to wait till DS was 8mths before TTC as I had a Csection.
But as we thought we wldnt fall straight away, we thought we wld start trying when we came back from holiday when DS wld be about 7mths.
May is a very sad month for me as it?s the month my parents died and it?s also the month of my father?s birthday.
As it turns our we more than likely conceived on my father?s birthday 25th May after a few days of trying
My dad wld have been super pleased with a little grand daughter.
Dh was super chuffed when i showed him the test - especially as he knew how significant the dates were for me. Although I think he was secretly happy that we had fallen so quickly - what with his super sperm!!!
The first time I had been sick for a week.MS, He kept jokingly saying that I was pregnant. I would shove it off, as no, just the flu. He would laugh, get down on his knees and talk to my belly saying "FLU, you be nice to MOMMY!" Lol. well nothing could make me stop throwing up, so one day when he was sleeping at my house, (i still lived with my mother, 18 at the time) I went and took one of the first response tests I had gotten. Immediatley there were to lines. I lauged and went to my room, woke him up and just handed it to him and walked to the closet. He immediatley realized what it was and came and gave me a big kiss. He was so excited about it.It was a major suprise.
This time we had discussed that we were ready for another child, It was the begining of May. We figured DS would be just a little shy of the 3 month mark if we started trying this time. I had not had a period in over a year due to some medicines I was taking. I had stopped them back in Feb, but still no period. I thought ok, this is when I was having a period and went off and calculated a ovulation calander. I figured that the next weekend would be when I was ovulating. I told him and we went for it. Only got to try once though, because somet things came up the rest of the weekend. a week later, I decided to take a test for the hell of it. I had bought a whole bunch, thinking it would take us some time. 1 minute and a faint second line came up. I looked at it, and thought maybe it was faulty. I waited a bit and looked at it agian and it was darker. I sent him a picture and told him to wait because i was going to take another test. I did and it was deffinitly there. I waited until he got home and showed him the 2 tests I had done. He laughed and said that I plan well and how great it was that we were able to conceive so fast. Then I had to convince him not to post it to facebook. Over the next week I took 7 more line tests and 4 digitals. I had already booked an OB appointment. The U/S was unable to spot the baby for another month, but my levels were there and jumping. My OB laughed and said that I have to be as fertile as frog. Lol.
Ahh these stories are totally making me tear up at work. So the short answer to the question is "WHAT?!?" But I really really want to share the whole story!
So first some back story.. at the end of April we went on vacation to Italy...I had just finished a pack of bc pills.. so there was some discussion about how it would be cool to conceive in Italy etc and ultimately we decided I wouldn't start another pack and we would try just for the month..and then probably wait another 6 months to year before trying again. We have been together for 10 years and have never had so much as a scare and I was on the pill for a long long time, so we figured our chances were pretty low.
I took a First Response pregnancy test on a Wednesday morning after expecting my period on a Monday. Negative. I knew the chances were pretty slim on our first try, but I was DEVASTATED. I sat in the middle of the living room sobbing for 20 minutes. DH was home for all this, but didn't say much. He never expected a positive. Well come Saturday still no period, so I figured I should test just in case so I could go back on the pill. This time I had very little hope. I snuck into the bathroom because my mom had stayed over the night before, and took a test. BAM instantly two pink lines. I couldn't believe it. And CRAP, my mother was over, and I did NOT want her to know yet. So I made up an excuse to run to Target to buy more tests. Back to the bathroom, all positive. During all this, my DH is asleep.
Well, 1) I had to wait for my mom to leave and 2) DH had expressed some concerns after our negative tests about finances etc. So I thought maybe I should wait until Father's day to tell him, as by then we would have the vacation all paid off. So I kept it to myself all day....that night we were watching Bridges of Madison county and it was just KILLING me. So I said, let's take a cuddle break. Then randomly a few minutes later. I said, Hey honey? We're pregnant. And he looked completely dumbstruck, and said What? I could see in that moment that some part of him was convinced (as I was) that we would never get pregnant. It took him a few minutes to wrap his brain around, but we were both sooo soo thrilled!
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Well, we were not actually TTC but were not doing anything to prevent it either for about a year. I have stage 4 Endometriosis and we were given pretty much no hope of ever conceiving on our own. Then in February this year I had a 9cm cyst and my right ovary removed so we REALLY thought we wouldn't have a baby on our own. I actually cried and got really depressed the first three periods I got after having my surgery because I kept thinking I would never get to be a mom.
Well I was working overnights at the time at CVS Pharmacy and my supervisor and I were really close so I told her I was late and REALLY wanted to know for sure so we bought 4 pregnancy tests and headed to the bathroom. I peed on three before we were convinced (Neither of us had a clue what we were doing btw). 3 BFP after having just had an ovary removed.
When I got home I woke up SO and told him I think we're pregnant. He got up really quick started getting dressed and asked if I took a test I replied well yea 3 of them. He just stared at me. BLANK. then went outside started pacing and was out there for about ten minutes! Well I sat on the couch and started crying because I thought he was upset. When he finally came in he was shocked to see me crying and just came and held me and kept saying "everything's gonna be ok, we'll be fine" That made me cry harder because I was like DUH! Now looking back he said he was really scared so he started stressing right away. But he couldn't be happier now. After our first sonogram all he would talk about is how his son (SO said he knew it was a boy since we were 4wks along) looked like he was just dancing in there and for about an hour drove around to go tell some of our friends and show them the video we got on our phone. I think though out of everyone my OB was most surprised! The look on his face was priceless when we came in for our first appointment and he cried with us when we saw that little blob on the screen.
I didn't even get to tell him. We'd done IVF, so we were both waiting until it was long enough to test. I had woken up at like 4:30 in the morning, and figured I'd pull out a HPT because it was my FMU. When I crawled into bed a few minutes later he asked "are we having a baby?"
That said, due to my prior m/c, neither of us got really excited until our 3rd u/s at 10w when the baby really started to look like a baby.
DX: 6/9/2011: Azoo ICSI/IVF only option for biological child
IVF #1: ER - 9/26 * ET - 10/1 * beta#1 10/13 - 140 * beta#2 10/17 - 477 * beta#3 10/20 - 1101
1st u/s at 6w6d - one hb * 2nd u/s at 8w3d - no hb detected 11/10/11 * natural m/c 11/13/11
FET #1 Jan/Feb 2012 - 3 delays - cancelled 2/13
FET #1.2 - May/June 2012 - ET 6/6/* beta#1 6/15 - 95 * beta #2 6/19 - 322 * beta #3 6/22 - 940
7/6 1st u/s @ 7 weeks - one beautiful hb - released from RE
EDD 2/22/2013
PAIF/SAIF/PGAL welcome
I had my weekly phone call with my mom who randomly told me she dreamt I was pregnant. I jokingly told her well I will let you know in about two weeks if I do not get my period. During this time my husband was in India for a family wedding and I was at a mandatory training for work.
I came back from my training on Friday (my usual start date) and I felt like crap. By Saturday still no period and I was in bed sick. My black lab kept coming over to me and laying on my belly. I have no clue why she made me think 'maybe I should take a test.'
Sunday morning I was in Walmart buying a test. I took it that morning and sure enough it was positive. I took another one on Monday and still positive. I was so excited but freaking out because I could not contact my husband due to the time change. So I had to wait patiently for him to call me. He called that night and I really wanted to wait to tell him in person but I couldn't.
Over skype I showed him a picture with the two positive tests and it said 'positive proof you will be the best daddy in the world'. He cried! Then he asked me about ten times if I was busting his balls. I let him know this is not something I would joke about when he is literally an ocean away.
Married: 05/14/2011
DS Was Born: 02/10/2013
EDD: 10/19/2015
Make a pregnancy ticker
Neither of us were exactly happy since we were pretty sure we were going to go down the ectopic pregnancy road yet again and it would delay the IVF we had planned to start the next month. I had been told because of scar tissue from my tubal reanastomosis (reconnecting fallopian tubes after a tubal ligation) and only having one remaining tube I had to do IVF if we wanted a baby. We had just met with the fertility doc the day before to schedule all the IVF stuff.
A little over 2 weeks later we found out that we did in fact have an intrauterine pregnancy. THIS is when DH was beaming, b/c it was hard for either of us to get attached before then. He was practically giddy after that ultrasound.
He told ME I was pregnant ...
I was cramping and bleeding randomly one morning and called DH to pick up a HPT on his way home. I never cramp during periods and I was feeling pretty crappy, so once I peed on the stick, I set it on the toilet tank and still sat on the toilet.
He stood facing me (and the test) and I saw his face change and he said "I want you to know I love you so much (eyes get really big and huge grin appears).... we're going to have a baby!!"
I would have loved to surprised HIM with the news, but seeing my jokester of a husband have such a sincere, tender moment with me was so special. Such a great memory.
This is going to sound bad... But I can't remember DH's reaction. I think I called him while he was at work. It was all just a big blur because we had a miscarriage in February. I remember that reaction way more than this pregnancy. I think we were just too blown away that we got pregnant again to really get super excited about it. It was more about worrying about the possibilities of things going wrong again and not wanting to get too excited before we knew everything was okay. We even had an ultrasound at 9 weeks and the doctor's two thumbs up at 12 weeks and he still didn't want to share our news with his family.
I think I called him, then took a second HPT test the morning he got home from his night shift. I showed him both tests and told him that they instantaneously went positive the second I tested. And maybe we hugged? I know the first time I remember flying down our basement stairs when he was on the phone with a friend and made him hang up so I could show him the test. We were grinning ear to ear and we had our mushy moment. It's sad that with this being our sticky baby that we didn't have the same excitement.
I honestly don't remember what he said....I do remember what I said though. I apologized my head off!!! Let me explain: this was an unexpected pregnancy because we had JUST given up after over 2 years of trying. We got married a little later in life, and wanted to have one child together. We actually got pregnant on our very first try WAY back in March 2010, but it was a chemical pregnancy :-( We kept trying but couldn't get another BFP....I was temping, using preseed, drinking weird teas you name it!! Nothing was working so I decided to get checked out thinking maybe it was some type of hormonal issue. Well, turns out there was a 10cm fibroid inside my uterus that was interfering both of my tubes. I had the fibroid (along with 3 more they found in there) removed in November 2011, and was told to hold off for at least 3 months before we could TTC again. We actually started trying in January...nope. February...nothing. March...nothing!!! By March we decided that we just couldn't go through it any longer...I met with a specialist in April and talked about clomid and IUI, but neither of us felt right about it. We decided to stop the madness and focus on what we DO have....I felt relaxed and happy for the first time in 2 years, and started enjoying our life finally!!
Next thing you know it's June and I was feeling strange.....like very bad PMS....and my husband asked me 3 days in a row to take a test. I didn't want to because I just KNEW it would be waste of money. I mean, I wasn't even tracking ovulation...how could I have gotten pregnant without trying??? Impossible, I thought. Finally on the 4th day, I decided to humor him....I POAS first thing in the morning on a Thursday, and then hopped in the shower. A few minutes later I looked, and to my utter shock there were 2 pink lines.....and that darn test line that I used to search for in every different types of lighting but was never there....well it was twice as dark as the control line!!! I yelled my husband's name like a crazy lady several times (he was still in bed!) and started crying and shaking, almost falling out of the shower! He ran into the bathroom expecting to see me lying on the floor with blood everywhere... I just handed him the test and kept crying and apologizing!! Since we had moved on, he had been happier too and I was afraid he would think I tricked him into getting pregnant....I was so irrational at that moment....I remember that he got in the shower too and hugged me (more like held me up from passing out) and told me I had nothing to apologize for.....but we were both in such shock!! Sometimes I still cannot believe how it all worked out!!!
My DH and I weren't trying (but weren't not trying either) and I took my first test on his birthday. He worked nights so I saved it for him, and made a note that said "Congratulations Daddy!" and left it where he would see it when he came home that morning. He was so excited he woke me up at 5:30am whooping.
We had a m/c in April, four days before my college graduation. My Dr. didn't say anything about waiting beyond what "we felt comfortable waiting" emotionally, so we started trying immediately again. This time around I was almost afraid to believe the positive. I had 7 positive tests for 7 straight days before I mentioned to DH that I was pregnant again.
His response? "Well it's about time you tell me!"
Ironically, that is the same response we got from all of our parents, too!
I sprung for the expensive one since I knew I'd be testing early because of the day it was on. I tested on Father's Day, and it was positive, I had woken up early as I always do on Father's day(we were actually at my parents' house visiting) and so I sneaked out the door and ran around town to find a shirt that said "world's greatest dad" and two that said "World's greatest grandfather" and I sneaked back in the house and gave my husband his(this is our first and also the first grandchild for both sets of grandparents) and it took him a second (I woke him up with it)... he was actually in shock for a few days I think because he barely reacted. I think he said something like "cool"
With our first, it was a complete surprise. We had just bought a house and a brand new car. I was also super sick with bronchitis. It was December 22nd, and we had just exchanged our Christmas presents. We were going out of town for Christmas, so we celebrated early. I had felt dizzy all day, and due to my PCOS, I had a stash of pregnancy tests because my cycle was irregular and I always tested before drinking.
Anyway, I went up to the bathroom and tested. I was shocked. I called DH and told him to come upstairs and said that I had one more present for him. I'm pretty sure he just said, "What???"
With #2, we had tried for over a year and were seeing a fertility specialist. Again, I felt super dizzy the day I tested and it was positive. I don't remember what he said, but I remember hugging and we both cried.
With this pregnancy, I tested the day before we left to go on a camping trip for memorial day, again feeing dizzy. We had been trying for awhile and were talking about giving up, so I wasn't really expecting a positive. Lo and behold, it was. I walked out into the garage (DH was loading up our truck) and I said, "Well, we need to figure out an excuse for why I won't be drinking this weekend." He looked at me and said, "Shut up!" He was ecstatic though. I think he was happier about this pregnancy than he was the other two.
I said, "I just took a pregnancy test."
He said, "You're pregnant?"
I was nervous. He was excited. I don't think I'll forget it ever.
I took the first test on Saturday really early in the morning. I had been noticing that I had been having to get up in the middle of the night to pee a lot the past few days and I calculated that Saturday was the earliest I could test.
I took the test and it was negative, so I threw it in the trash, trying not to be upset. This was my 2nd cycle of clomid and I was afraid that if it didn't work this time we'd have to try more invasive methods (IVF or IUI).
I got back into bed and DH must have known what I was doing in there. He asked what it was and I said it was negative. We were really sad.
Later that day, I decided to go into the trash to check again. I looked at the test and there was a VERY VERY faint line. I asked DH if he saw anything and he said he absolutely could. So, we had hope.
The next morning, I took another test and we had another extremely faint line, but a bit more noticeable. I kept the tests on the counter in the bathroom for a few weeks since it was all so surreal.
The next week I went to my OB for my day 30 follow-up. I told them I had gotten 2 faint pregnancy tests at home and hadn't got my period yet. The OB explained to me that it could be just a chemical pregnancy or whatever. The way he said it made it sound like he was sure that's what it was. I was so nervous. They did a blood test and another urine test. The same thing happened with the urine test and the line was barely noticeable, even a week later. I guess I don't have good pee for HPT's!
Blood test came back positive and all my betas were doubling really well. We had 2 ultrasounds at 5 weeks, which really didn't show much more than a little line in there.
I was nervous through this whole thing, but DH was always confident that I was pregnant, even before we took any tests at all. He is so super excited to be a dad and has really taken on a lot at home (litter boxes, heavy lifting, cooking back when I felt sick, putting up a chair rail and painting the nursery).
Our conversation was a little odd since I was away on military duty. I called him and in the middle of our conversation I said "guess what happened to me today?" He asked me who was getting on my nerves today lol. I gave him the long story of how I found out my test results (Sgt/Cpt yelling at me during a training exercise about me wearing all my gear and carrying a weapon) and ended the story with "and that is how I found out I'm pregnant!". He said "hold on repeat that" then went on to say "I hope its a boy because I already have 2 daughters". We went on to have our normal conversation and he kept interrupting with possible baby names. lol
I didn't get to tell him, we found out together, but it's still a cute story. The morning of July 4th we had had some morning play time and he had noticed he could no longer feel the string to my IUD. I was kinda scared as it was recently placed (the previous month) and we had just stopped using back up birth control. They had said a week was fine but I wasn't really game for that so we waited a couple more weeks. I called the gyno office and they said I could schedule an appointment later that week the only thing they would worry about would be if I was pregnant. Well I have horrible luck and a very irregular period so I already had a test at home. I went into the bathroom with my man standing outside the door. I was an instant positive. No waiting period no is that maybe none of it it was VERY dark lines. I called back and they had me come into the hospital (it was the 4th of July the clinic was closed) immediately. It could be a false positive or it could be a mass moving the iud away and causing the positive. It could also just be positive. I was told not to freak out yet they would do a blood draw when I got there. I was put in a room with my SO at my side the whole time. They came in to do a blood draw and said someone would be back with results soon.
Then the messed up part happens. No one comes back with results a nurse and a resident come in with a portable ultrasound. The nurse sets up to start searching for my IUD and the resident steps out of the room. The nurse is doing her thing and my SO has my hand and is sitting next to the bed waiting to figure out if they can find the IUD and how complicated this is about to be. The nurse looks up and says "Well I can't find the IUD but would you like to see your baby's heartbeat."
ARE YOU SERIOUS
I didn't even know for sure I was pregnant yet and this nurse is telling me it has a heart beat. Neither of us responded and I'm gonna guess that's about when she figured out we didn't know. Queue resident coming back in. She looks at the screen then at the awkward stun on all of our faces and says something to the effect of "Well I guess you already know" Both of them try desperately for a minute to let us know this will be okay its early and we have options but before they go on any further they'll give us some time. I was trying so hard not to just burst out crying and they hurried themselves out. And I fell apart. Just hysterically crying what the hell are we going to do freak out mode. I finally look up from my hysterics and my SO and he's still holding my hand and just smiling.
WHAT ARE YOU SMILING ABOUT!?
He finally just hugs me as I'm still crying and says "Well, we're having a baby, shouldn't I be happy? We'll get through this"
Yup, I got a keeper. I very long hard rest of the day we find out I'm 8 weeks along, I can't get the IUD removed because of where baby is, and after much talking that despite the fact that we are young ourselves we can't let the opportunity to pass. Fast forward a while and I'm 27 weeks along, our daughter is growing great, and while we have no idea how we're gonna do this, I couldn't be happier that I have him to go through this with.