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I'm excited about baby;everyone else, not so much ..

danafromslopedanafromslope member
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I was the last of our group of friends to get married at age 40 we were together for 10 yrs and my friends were very much "been there, done that" when it came to my turn they didn't want to do showers or bachelorette because we were too old for such things so I felt a little robbed ... Now I am finally pregnant after trying for yrs and the few people who know only 3 months say things to me like, "well, if it works out for you, you'll be lucky" or "goodness I am tired of baby showers". I feel like not telling anyone till I have no choice cause I will just be disappointed all over again... How do I enjoy being pregnant?
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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City

    imagedanafromslope:
    I was the last of our group of friends to get married at age 40 we were together for 10 yrs and my friends were very much "been there, done that" when it came to my turn they didn't want to do showers or bachelorette because we were too old for such things so I felt a little robbed ... Now I am finally pregnant after trying for yrs and the few people who know only 3 months say things to me like, "well, if it works out for you, you'll be lucky" or "goodness I am tired of baby showers". I feel like not telling anyone till I have no choice cause I will just be disappointed all over again... How do I enjoy being pregnant?

    I don't know why anyone would say this to you!  It is so mean.  I don't have any advice but am sending you hugs Left Hug

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  • lovelyday39lovelyday39 member
    These don't sound like friends. :( Sorry they are acting that way.

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  • 3rdat403rdat40

    I'm sorry your "friends" are not more excited for you. That's really disappointing! You can still enjoy being pregnant, though. When you start decorating a nursery and buying little baby items, it will lift your spirits!

    I don't know why anyone would ever be tired of baby showers. I have been to so many in the past, and I still enjoy them! It's a fun social event with friends and/or family. What's not to like? I hope they throw you a fantastic shower, because every new mom deserves one!  

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  • danuli8danuli8 member
    Seriously, these people call themselves your friends? IndifferentHow incredibly rude of them not to support you. I think you should get some new ones.
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  • JilliansMomaJilliansMoma member

    Well if they are rude enough to say those things to your face, I would be rude right back and say something like "Well I managed to get through everyone's baby showers and wedding showers it's finally my turn!"

    And then I would go and get new friends that sucks! Sorry that you are dealing with this!

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  • jglenn4jglenn4 member

    imagelovelyday39:
    These don't sound like friends. :( Sorry they are acting that way.

     

    This.  Don't let others steal your joy.  Only surround yourself with people who support you.  If you feel as if you truly don't have anyone in your current circle of friends, join some different groups.  In NYC there a lot of pregnant/mom groups on meetup.com so there are probably some in your area as well. 

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    I agree with pps: your friends are canoes full of douche. They are not friends. My coworkers-- who have only known me for a little over a year-- are excited for me because they know this is huge for me and I've tried for so long to get pregnant. And my friends??? They are over the moon for me. 

    If your friends can't support you, then I say kick them to the curb and find some friends who are happy for you. What about your family? Are they at least supportive?

    And since your friends have failed you, I'm going to give you a huge "SQUEEEEEEE!!!! THIS IS SO EXCITING!" 

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  • MamaMiccichiMamaMiccichi member
    I have to say, Not Nice!  Real friends would stand around you and support you no matter what they have done already or not.  I wish you the best and hope that you can find super supportive friends or that your existing friends will come around.
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  • ShellBear+ShellBear+ member
    I agree with everyone that these don't seem to be real friends. It is definitely your turn and I guess you need to say that since they are being so rude. I almost can't believe everyone would have this reaction. I hope you have at least a few people who are excited and supportive.
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  • ba23ba02ba23ba02 member
    I am so excited for you.  Friends acting likes this?   Sorry to hear you have friends like these.  All moms deserve a baby shower no matter how old they are and especially for this first baby.  What about your family you did not mention them?  Hopefully when the baby comes you will meet new friends and you and your baby will have better friends.   I wish you a lot of luck and happiness.   
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