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One upping?

MrsL0908MrsL0908 member
in September 2012 Moms
Lately I feel like MH and I are playing a game of one upping. Like, if I say I'm tired he is more tired. Or if I ask him why he left dishes in the sink, he says he always empties the dishwasher. I know these things are petty but I feel like he doesn't appreciate all that I'm doing right now or how tired I am from EBF and being with the kids 24/7. I just don't want to fight, but can't seem to help it. Anyone else feeling this way?
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  • linzeek44linzeek44 member

    We call that "pity poker." 

    It is like "I'll take your no sleep and raise it with getting pooped on."

    DH and I did this and we're both getting frustrated. Now we just say "me too" and move on. Am I more tired, sure thing, but a simple "yep, we are exhausted" avoids a lot of drama.  


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  • ovechkiumovechkium member
    imagelinzeek44:

    We call that "pity poker." 

    It is like "I'll take your no sleep and raise it with getting pooped on."

    DH and I did this and we're both getting frustrated. Now we just say "me too" and move on. Am I more tired, sure thing, but a simple "yep, we are exhausted" avoids a lot of drama.  

     DH kept saying how tired he was and I snapped at him. He got pissed saying that just because I'm tired he's not allowed to be? I said no, you're just not allowed to complain about it to my face everyday. I'm the one that gets up several times at night with DS and when DH sleeps we camp out on the couch to let him rest properly.  

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  • JessicaxLynn87JessicaxLynn87 member
    DH and I do this a lot, and it doesn't always involve LO. It is very frustrating. He says I tend to do it most, and I would agree. He will say, "Oh is this a pissing contest?" Meh, we need to work on it and I need to be more aware of when I am doing it. 
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  • SalleybelleSalleybelle member

    Non stop. It's so frustrating, the main issue is that darn dishwasher.  I mean seriously... who cares if you emptied it last, the dishes need to be put up and the baby needs a bath, we all know who isn't going to give him the bath...SO, if he feel like the dishes need to be put up before supper, he should just do it! gahhhh  He literally called me this morning to bring to my attention that he fixed his breakfast, lunch and started on supper all before he left for work at 6:30am.  Whoopty doooo, I was ironing his works clothes, did laundry, swept and swiffered the floors, nursed Knox, vaccumed, made the bed (like I do every morning) and cleaned the bathrooms all before I left for work at 8am, but I didn't call to tell him.

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  • jbBeansjbBeans member

    imageSteph+J:
    It happens more in our house than in yours.

    Yes

    I like "pity poker."

    MH, I feel, has always done this. It's annoying. But I'm also trying to learn to just ignore it/get over it because it's not worth a fight or being pissy about it.  

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