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Loss three babies

pawinnapawinna
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Hello to all of you, i am as well really sorry for your losses, no words can describe the pain that parents feel after losing a child, let alone three.

We lost our triplets after 22 weeks of gestation, it was a neonatal death due to incompetent cervix. Our children were healthy but they just needed two more weeks to be able to go to NICU.

I live in Iceland and the doctors refused to perform a cerclage or give me medicine to avoid early contractions. 

They were born naturally on the 13th and 14th of September of this year.

Here is the link to our full story www.apmedia.is/triplets please feel free of sharing it as we do not wish that other families will suffer as we have done it so far.

 

i am planning on opening a support group in Iceland for english speakers as there are only groups in Icelandic. Hopefully i can help other moms who have lost their children and that are foreign in Iceland. 

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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member

    I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. I read your story, and I cannot imagine what you are experiencing now. My husband and I lost our first daughter Patricia in March of this year. She was stillborn at 31 weeks and the doctors were not able to find a cause.

    I can relate to some of your story. I am from the US and I met my husband when I studied abroad in Denmark. I went back to the US to finish my degree and then moved to Denmark to live with him. We got married and lived there for a while but three years ago we decided to move back to the US where we are now living. I also have PCOS and both of my daughters were conceived on medicated cycles. I cannot imagine how difficult it was for you to go through this so far away from your family and friends. 

    I think starting a group is a great idea and I hope you will be able to find some support and ideas here on our board. When you have a difficult day, we are here for you. When you are ready to try for another child, we are here for you. When you become pregnant again, we are here for you. I am sorry you have to join us. 



      Our Angel Patricia born sleeping 3/30/12 at 31 weeks
    Our Fighter Anna born early 1/8/13 at 26 weeks
    Hoping to bring home #3 due 9/9/15
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your triplets. I think that is wonderful that you are going to start a support group, as the PP said, it is a wonderful way to honor your triplets by helping out others.

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  • Bread09Bread09 member
    I'm so very sorry for the loss of precious babies.  The ladies here are wonderdul and supportive.
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  • pawinnapawinna
    imagejbranden12:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. I read your story, and I cannot imagine what you are experiencing now. My husband and I lost our first daughter Patricia in March of this year. She was stillborn at 31 weeks and the doctors were not able to find a cause.

    I can relate to some of your story. I am from the US and I met my husband when I studied abroad in Denmark. I went back to the US to finish my degree and then moved to Denmark to live with him. We got married and lived there for a while but three years ago we decided to move back to the US where we are now living. I also have PCOS and both of my daughters were conceived on medicated cycles. I cannot imagine how difficult it was for you to go through this so far away from your family and friends. 

    I think starting a group is a great idea and I hope you will be able to find some support and ideas here on our board. When you have a difficult day, we are here for you. When you are ready to try for another child, we are here for you. When you become pregnant again, we are here for you. I am sorry you have to join us. 

     

    Thhank you once more, which medication did you use? do you know how can i know if the PCOS will be a problem for my next pregnancy? doctors say "wait a year before start thinking about it" but probly all of you know that it is kind of impossible to do this. I would like to get pregnant not to fforget my children, they will always be there, but because that was the objective of the pregnancy, getting living children.  

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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    imagepawinna:
    imagejbranden12:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. I read your story, and I cannot imagine what you are experiencing now. My husband and I lost our first daughter Patricia in March of this year. She was stillborn at 31 weeks and the doctors were not able to find a cause.

    I can relate to some of your story. I am from the US and I met my husband when I studied abroad in Denmark. I went back to the US to finish my degree and then moved to Denmark to live with him. We got married and lived there for a while but three years ago we decided to move back to the US where we are now living. I also have PCOS and both of my daughters were conceived on medicated cycles. I cannot imagine how difficult it was for you to go through this so far away from your family and friends. 

    I think starting a group is a great idea and I hope you will be able to find some support and ideas here on our board. When you have a difficult day, we are here for you. When you are ready to try for another child, we are here for you. When you become pregnant again, we are here for you. I am sorry you have to join us. 

     

    Thhank you once more, which medication did you use? do you know how can i know if the PCOS will be a problem for my next pregnancy? doctors say "wait a year before start thinking about it" but probly all of you know that it is kind of impossible to do this. I would like to get pregnant not to fforget my children, they will always be there, but because that was the objective of the pregnancy, getting living children.  

    It is totally normal to want to try again as soon as possible. Some of us have found that our doctors recommend waiting longer for emotional reasons and not physical reasons. I recommend you definitely continue to have conversations with your doctor about this. To answer your question, I have been on metformin since I was a teenager for the PCOS and we used clomid to get pregnant with both of our daughters. 



      Our Angel Patricia born sleeping 3/30/12 at 31 weeks
    Our Fighter Anna born early 1/8/13 at 26 weeks
    Hoping to bring home #3 due 9/9/15
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  • ally2011ally2011 member

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet babies.  We are all here for you as much as you need.  Some books that helped me that you could probably get easily online are Grieving the Child I Never Knew, The One Year Book of Hope, Empty Cradle Broken Heart and Good Grief by Westberg.

    Be kind to yourself, the grief journey is long and full of ups and downs.  We are all here for you as much as you need.

    Hugs,

    Jenn 

    We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013.  We love her to pieces.  

    We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011.  She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.


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