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Calling NICU mamas: One staying, one going.

yinyang124yinyang124 member
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Tomorrow Jace will be coming home after 20 days in the NICU. Damien is not far behind though. Hopefully only a few more days.

If your babies were discharged separately, I'm curious how you handled this. The nurses said I'm able to bring Jace to the NICU and that they understand if I'm not able to come as much as I usually do. My issue is that Damien prefers nursing over bottle and I want to be there to do that with him, but then I will feel bad having Jace in the car seat when I'm taking care of Damien. Seems like it would be so uncomfortable for him. I don't even know where I would change his diapers or what I would do with him while in pumping room. If I leave Jace at home, I'm time-restricted because I nurse him too. It seems like I'll be unhappy with whatever decision I make. Hoping someone can share their experience with this.

 

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  • Missa_gMissa_g member
    My boys came home together but we witnessed this situation a lot during our two month stay. Our nicu would provide a bassinet for the discharged twin and you could change and feed them as you saw fit.
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  • CourtneySueCourtneySue member
    We ended up coming home on the same day 17 but they said that they would of kept DS isolette all set up for him next to DD.
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    We ended up coming home on the same day 17 but they said that they would of kept DS isolette all set up for him next to DD.

    All the best to you!!

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  • Mrs. AliceMrs. Alice member
    My twins came home on the same day but in the NICU they shared an open crib and got to snuggle all the time.  Like above you can ask for another bassinet/crib if there is not room to share with his brother.  That's great he's going home and that you are allowed to bring him back.  My NICU's policy didn't allow that.  I hope brother isn't far behind!
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  • yinyang124yinyang124 member
    Thank you, ladies! I should have asked today, but they totally bombarded me with the discharge news and I got too excited. I am sure they would keep his spot open next to his brother as long as they can, so I'll ask about the bassinet tomorrow. Hopefully Damien will be coming home before they need the extra spot! He's so close, just struggling a little with feeding.
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  • denitabdenitab

    Congratulations on Jade coming home!

    My situation was a little different. I didn't breastfeed Derrick (my NCU baby); I pumped exclusively. He was supplemented with NeoSure because of his birth weight. I did breastfeed Dominic because he was never admitted to NCU.

    Since the twins were delivered via c-section, my husband went with me to the NCU each day. The best advice that I received from the nurses was to come once a day & then go home & rest. So that's what I did. We'd go & spend an hour with Derrick. I know some people went more often. I knew that Derrick was in the best possible hands (other than mine) & that I needed to concentrate on Dominic & my 15 month old at home. 

    Youll have to find the schedule that works best for you.  

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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member
    Can you bring whoever you would leave Jace with at home with you to the NICU instead?  We were allowed to have 4 people on our approved visitor list and every time I went to the NICU either H or my mom was with me. 
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  • meldoo2002meldoo2002 member
    We were allowed to bring Nathan back to see Joey too so I basically spent the same amount of time there as usual, just had Nathan with me.  The NICU did leave Nathan's crib set up in Joey's area so Nathan didn't stay in his car seat the whole time.  But I think he would have been fine in his car seat too... it's not like you can't take him out when the other baby is sleeping/content.  I did have to drag Nathan with me to the pumping room but all in all it wasn't too bad.  It seems like forever, but we only had to do it for a week.  

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  • Sunglow28Sunglow28 member
    We were able to take Jonas home first, and it was a long few days as we weren't allowed to bring him back when we visited Calder due to it being so close to RSV season. It sucked, but thankfully my mom watched Jonas and my husband and I took turns going in. I'm glad it only lasted for a few days, but we made it work!
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