Anybody else?

kpearse99 · November 2012

Does anyone else get upset/jealous when they hear people they know have successful deliveries that didn't have to end in a c/s?? Not in a mean way, but in a "ugh.... why couldn't I?" way....

Everytime I am at peace with how things happened with me, someone I know delivers a baby that is bigger than what DS was and had no complications, pushed only a few times...etc.... and I'm left thinking about mine all over again, wondering if I could have done something different.

Oh well! Just a blah day for me, I guess! Anyway, I am very happy my co-worker had a successful delivery and her baby girl is perfect and healthy! It just makes me wish and wonder and think about how the next time will end up being.....Just needed to vent!

alizabethanne · November 2012

I am happy how my delivery went (recovery is another story). After laboring for 30 hours and getting to 3cm I was so happy just to finally see DD and know she was healthy and safe.

What really gets me upset is when ppl say "Im so sorry! How awful not to get to deliver your baby..." Um...what? Thats really the only time where I have felt any kind of sadness about it. Its hard to hear that having major surgery to deliver your baby is something to be sorry about!

mavs41 · November 2012

I do. My sil was induced 3 weeks after me and her son came really quickly. She had some awful tears though. Not having to worry about tears was my biggest positive of having a c/s.

ExcitedAunt2b · November 2012

Not at all! I delivered my first the only way that was not going to hurt him, he had a heart defect and stayed breech the whole time. This time I am scheduled for a c-section as well and I don't feel at all cheated by doing a RCS.

emaddock · November 2012

With both of my children I still have trouble using the term "delivered" when talking about their births. I had easy pregnancies but both ended in csections after trying for vaginal deliveries. I know what I did was best for my children I just don't feel like I delivered them.

Worcbride · November 2012

I'm sorry you're having a rough day :-( I for one have never regretted it, loved my first c-section and didnt even consider a vbac. I never focused on how my babies came into the world...for me it was all about the end result. This may be cuz I'm an older mom and had to go thru fertility treatment for both my kids (a year's worth for DD, luckily 1 cycle for DS). Alls I wanted was to be a mom and have healthy kids--and I achieved that.

giraffe54 · November 2012

I still find it horribly depressing to think about, even though it was a smooth, healthy delivery. Every time I hear a friend's birth story, I'm overcome with the desire to cry. Selfish of me, but true. I feel like my pregnancy never ended and I'm still waiting for the big moment. Like I trained for a marathon for years and when the big day came, I flaked out and went to McDonald's for a big Mac. That being said, I don't dwell on it much anymore, only when I hear about other people's births. Luckily, I felt an instant bond with LO. Had I not, I suspect it would have been much more difficult to get over.

kpearse99 · November 2012

giraffe54:
I still find it horribly depressing to think about, even though it was a smooth, healthy delivery. Every time I hear a friend's birth story, I'm overcome with the desire to cry. Selfish of me, but true. I feel like my pregnancy never ended and I'm still waiting for the big moment. Like I trained for a marathon for years and when the big day came, I flaked out and went to McDonald's for a big Mac. That being said, I don't dwell on it much anymore, only when I hear about other people's births. Luckily, I felt an instant bond with LO. Had I not, I suspect it would have been much more difficult to get over.

This is EXACTLY how I feel! word for word! Thank you for sharing, crying is what I wanted to do all day! I'm Better now and I too focus on my time with my ds, it's just gets to me when anyone I know goes into labor....

ladybugpjb · November 2012

The worst for me was watching those darn Huggies "Enjoy the Ride" commercials in the hospital - I was there extra long, and watched the hospital's baby channel quite a bit.

The lady in the commercial had a vaginal birth, of course, and then was all glowy and happy afterwards - it was like a slap in my face every time I saw it.

I don't watch any birth shows anymore, even over a year after.

kpearse99 · November 2012

ladybugpjb:

The worst for me was watching those darn Huggies "Enjoy the Ride" commercials in the hospital - I was there extra long, and watched the hospital's baby channel quite a bit.

The lady in the commercial had a vaginal birth, of course, and then was all glowy and happy afterwards - it was like a slap in my face every time I saw it.

I don't watch any birth shows anymore, even over a year after.

I try not to, but sometimes I flip through the channels and "A Baby Story" comes on and I can't turn it off... then I get all depressed haha stupid stupid show!!!!!

lovebug33 · November 2012

I don't read birth stories any more because every time I read that somebody had an induction and then a succseful vaginal birth, I just get angry and bitter. I don't know when I'll ever get over this!

MamaKitty3 · November 2012

Everyone is different and has a different level of regrets. I can understand where there is a level of regret for not having a natural birth. I delivered both my girls c/s and this new one will also be c/s. I think of it as meh, they came out of a hole, just not the vajayjay. I think I was pretty much dispelled of any natural birth regret notions before hand anyway. I was in the room for the birth of one of my best friend's children, if I had any regrets, they went bye bye. I saw the baby crown and enter this world. Absolutely beautiful and absolutely shocking. I did not know the hoohoo could get that big! It is much different live. My first I was in labor for almost 20hrs and did not get past 4cm. Course, then the doctor goes, "Yeah, your pelvis was too small anyway." Wha-TF! So c/s it was. I don't regret it. The babies became big girls and they are healthy and smart and beautiful. If a woman can do natural birth I think that is great but a woman is no less a woman or a mother for having a c/s. Pregnancy and motherhood isn't about how you give birth but the journey it took to get there and what happens afterward. Be proud of yourselves.

alizabethanne · November 2012

MamaKitty3:
If a woman can do natural birth I think that is great but a woman is no less a woman or a mother for having a c/s. Pregnancy and motherhood isn't about how you give birth but the journey it took to get there and what happens afterward. Be proud of yourselves.

AGREED!!!

kpearse99 · November 2012

MamaKitty3:
If a woman can do natural birth I think that is great but a woman is no less a woman or a mother for having a c/s. Pregnancy and motherhood isn't about how you give birth but the journey it took to get there and what happens afterward. Be proud of yourselves.

Very powerful words... thank you so much for that!

ewilliams1127 · November 2012

alizabethanne:
MamaKitty3:
If a woman can do natural birth I think that is great but a woman is no less a woman or a mother for having a c/s. Pregnancy and motherhood isn't about how you give birth but the journey it took to get there and what happens afterward. Be proud of yourselves.
AGREED!!!

Amen!

It's been a year and I'm just now coming to terms with my cs. I felt robbed of my birth experience. I feel like I made the wrong decision about allowing them to induce me. I will say the one thing that makes me feel better about "giving in" after 15 hours of labor is that my DS's umbilical cord was tied in a knot. The OB said we probably would've gone to an emergency CS if I tried to deliver him vaginally. Either way, he's healthy, I'm healthy and that's all that matters. It just gets depressing sometimes.

giraffe54 · November 2012

klasala318:
giraffe54:
I still find it horribly depressing to think about, even though it was a smooth, healthy delivery. Every time I hear a friend's birth story, I'm overcome with the desire to cry. Selfish of me, but true. I feel like my pregnancy never ended and I'm still waiting for the big moment. Like I trained for a marathon for years and when the big day came, I flaked out and went to McDonald's for a big Mac. That being said, I don't dwell on it much anymore, only when I hear about other people's births. Luckily, I felt an instant bond with LO. Had I not, I suspect it would have been much more difficult to get over.
This is EXACTLY how I feel! word for word! Thank you for sharing, crying is what I wanted to do all day! I'm Better now and I too focus on my time with my ds, it's just gets to me when anyone I know goes into labor....

I'm sending you internet hugs

FWIW, I meant a mama who vaginally delivered a footling baby (like mine), and though LO is fine now, she basically went through days of hell. It's terrible of me, but focusing on that story makes me feel better.

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