In Tears!

misscarter87 · November 2012

A little emotional this morning my babyshower is in 10days the godparent of my LO hasnt called yet to see if there was anything she needed to help out with or contribute. My mother..aunt..sis in law..sister are trying their best to get everything done purchasing food..decor. This hurts me so much because they arent the ones throwing the shower but they are doing the most for it.

jessrenee11 · November 2012

wait who is actually hosting the shower? I am confused. If it is the Godparents then your mom or aunt needs to be dealing with it. Honestly don't worry about it. You are still going to have a shower and that's what matters. Thankfully your family is taking care of it

Allycat11 · November 2012

LindsRockies:
Is the godparent normally in charge of throwing the shower? We don't do godparents in my religion, so I'm honestly asking. I thought godparents acted as more of a spiritual/faith advisor once the baby is actually born, rather than planning the baby shower.

I think you need to chill out a little bit here.

No. That is not a God parent's responsibility. I haven't even chosen God parents for this LO yet.

OP: I am confused. Did the God Mother offer to host the shower? If that is the case I am confused why other people just decided to take over. At first you said she hasn't asked what she can do to help which implies to me that she never offered to host. Either way I am fairly certain you are over reacting.

misscarter87 · November 2012

LindsRockies:
Is the godparent normally in charge of throwing the shower?nbsp; We don't do godparents in my religion, so I'm honestly asking.nbsp; I thought godparents acted as more of a spiritual/faith advisor once the baby is actually born, rather than planning the baby shower.
I think you need to chill out a little bit here.nbsp;

yes the godparent offered to host the shower throw the babyshower thats the main reason i am having it nxt wkend because she will be into town on that date!

karen_loy · November 2012

The baby shower is not a God parent's responsibility (unless they offer to host it); you are totally over reacting

misscarter87 · November 2012

Allycat11:
LindsRockies:
Is the godparent normally in charge of throwing the shower?  We don't do godparents in my religion, so I'm honestly asking.  I thought godparents acted as more of a spiritual/faith advisor once the baby is actually born, rather than planning the baby shower.

I think you need to chill out a little bit here. 
No.  That is not a God parent's responsibility.  I haven't even chosen God parents for this LO yet.  
OP: I am confused.  Did the God Mother offer to host the shower?  If that is the case I am confused why other people just decided to take over.  At first you said she hasn't asked what she can do to help which implies to me that she never offered to host.  Either way I am fairly certain you are over reacting.  
 

yes she picked the date of the shower..planned on throwing it and everything..she offered asked me to host it also..but hasnt made any means with me on getting things for it so thats why my family and in laws have step in to get the things! We have talked about it since october she offered to host purchase decor food since shes throwing the shower!

misscarter87 · November 2012

karen_loy:
The baby shower is not a God parent's responsibility unless they offer to host it; you are totallynbsp;over reacting

Yes she offered to host the shower lasr month thats what i'm trying to say here!

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · November 2012

I am confused. If she offered to host/throw the shower she shouldn't be checking in to see what she can do, she should be running the show. So I don't understand how your mom, aunt and the rest got involved. Did the godparent offer to host and then do nothing? Did other people take over, in which case maybe she feels like she got pushed to the side. I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here so it's hard to tell what is going on.

brianabrad · November 2012

I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.

misscarter87 · November 2012

CherylAnn789:
I am confused. If she offered to host/throw the shower she shouldn't be checking in to see what she can do, she should be running the show.nbsp; So I don't understand how your mom, aunt and the rest got involved.nbsp; Did the godparent offer to host and then do nothing?nbsp;Did other people take over, in which case maybe she feels like she got pushed to the side. nbsp;I feel like we aren't getting the whole story here so it's hard to tell what is going on.

that is my whole point yes she offered to host throw the shower but didnt do anything yet!!!!

misscarter87 · November 2012

brianabrad:
I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.

thanks so much u seem to be the only one that understands..i just feel sad because she offered to host the shower..throw the shower all..picked the date time but did nothin else yet so my mom sis has no choice but to help because nothing was done yet we only have 10days!

Pink253 · November 2012

I agree.....a little overreacting. I would just be grateful to be having a baby shower! Originally my best friend and sister offered to host my baby shower and its been my mom and sister that have stepped up and done most of it. My bf hasn't even offered much to do anything. Relax....its still over a week away and i bet everything will come together.

misscarter87 · November 2012

Pink253:
I agree.....a little overreacting. I would just be grateful to be having a baby shower!nbsp; Originally my best friend and sister offered to host my baby shower and its been my mom and sister that have stepped up and done most of it. My bf hasn't even offered much to do anything. Relax....its still over a week away and i bet everything will come together.

believe me i am grateful for having shower also with this being my first baby i am truly grateful! My bf has helped out mostly with things also besides my mom..aunt..sis in law doing the major things! I will relax til nxt saturday..try to feel better about it!

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · November 2012

misscarter87:
brianabrad:
I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.
thanks so much u seem to be the only one that understands..i just feel sad because she offered to host the shower..throw the shower all..picked the date time but did nothin else yet so my mom sis has no choice but to help because nothing was done yet we only have 10days!

I'm sorry, but the reason we didn't understand is because you didn't fully explain the backstory and there were holes we needed you to fill in. Now that you have: I would be upset too if someone offered to throw the shower and then my mother and aunt and other people got stuck doing all the work. But, like brianabrad said, try not to stress. It sounds like a shower is coming together and it will be a great day for you and your family/friends. Just try to relax and enjoy it.

misscarter87 · November 2012

I do apologize that i didnt fully explain that yes the godparent offered to throw the shower also host it in face she picked the date also!!! Nothing has gotten done yet..so this is why my mom..aunt..sis have stepped in to get things ready by nxt week!!!

simplein06 · November 2012

the majority of my shower planning occured during the last week (food selection decoration selection etc) so don't stress

leller00 · November 2012

Try and relax and be grateful that family is picking up the slack. I know where you are coming from. My best friend is a flake (I love her regardless lol) and planning my shower was a nightmare! Certain friends had personality conflicts so I had to pick and choose who to invite, at the last minute my friend decided to do a pot luck instead of having it catered, I recently moved 200 miles away so my involvement was minimal, and when the day finally came some of the husbands, mine included, ate the candy for one of the games! But in the end it was a lot of fun and I'm sure yours will be great as well. And for the record there is no such thing as overreacting for a pregnant woman, at least not in my book

Chocodoxies · November 2012

misscarter87:
brianabrad:
I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.
thanks so much u seem to be the only one that understands..i just feel sad because she offered to host the shower..throw the shower all..picked the date time but did nothin else yet so my mom sis has no choice but to help because nothing was done yet we only have 10days!

Whoa, just because other posters don't agree with you doesn't mean they don't understand. A shower is a gift, and thus isn't your responsibility. When they call you to whine, give them the God-mother's phone number. This has NOTHING to do with you other than you are the guest and thus you arrive where and when you are told to. You ARE overreacting because it isn't your responsibility in any way shape or form. Show up, say thanks, move on.

EAMommy · November 2012

misscarter87:
brianabrad:
I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.
thanks so much u seem to be the only one that understands..i just feel sad because she offered to host the shower..throw the shower all..picked the date time but did nothin else yet so my mom sis has no choice but to help because nothing was done yet we only have 10days!

I don't think you're over-reacting... She offered to throw it, chose the date and then it sounds like she dropped the ball. I'm glad for you that your family members have stepped up, but I can understand your hurt and frustration. I hope it works out perfectly in the end and you have a beautiful shower celebrating your LO...

misscarter87 · November 2012

Thanks alot..i am just going to chill hope things get done right overall i am happy grateful that my family in laws have steppped in to start getting things done well everything done by nxt wkend! Hoping the outcome is great me LO are thankful for the ppl who have stepped in to help without them nothing would be done!

misscarter87 · November 2012

Chocodoxies:
misscarter87:
brianabrad:
I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.

thanks so much u seem to be the only one that understands..i just feel sad because she offered to host the shower..throw the shower all..picked the date time but did nothin else yet so my mom sis has no choice but to help because nothing was done yet we only have 10days!
Whoa, just because other posters don't agree with you doesn't mean they don't understand. A shower is a gift, and thus isn't your responsibility. When they call you to whine, give them the God-mother's phone number. This has NOTHING to do with you other than you are the guest and thus you arrive where and when you are told to.  You ARE overreacting because it isn't your responsibility in any way shape or form. Show up, say thanks,
move on.  

first off i didnt say jusy because ppl didnt agree with me they dont understand..yes now the shower is my responsibility in all shapes forms because my family had to do all these things this very lst week because nothing was done yet not even invites so yes i have responsibility as of now with the shower even though the godparent picked the date..offered to host it..make invites..get everything for it!!!

misscarter87 · November 2012

leller00:
Try and relax and benbsp;gratefulnbsp;that family is picking up the slack. I know where you are coming from. My best friend is a flake I love hernbsp;regardlessnbsp;lol and planning my shower was a nightmare! Certain friends hadnbsp;personalitynbsp;conflicts so I had to pick and choose who to invite, at the last minute my friend decided to do a pot luck instead of having it catered, I recently moved 200 miles away so my involvement wasnbsp;minimal, and when the day finally came some of the husbands, mine included, ate the candy for one of the games! But in the end it was a lot of fun and I'm sure yours will be great as well. And for the record there is no such thing as overreacting for a pregnant woman, at least not in my
book

Thanks..Wow now thats really something..i am just going to pray all gets done in time!! just smile be happy for with the ppl who are helping out this lst week..

Chocodoxies · November 2012

misscarter87:
Chocodoxies:
misscarter87:
brianabrad:
I'm sorry dear. Try not to stress. It will all come together and it will be a great day for you and baby. I would also say that stress before the baby shower is kind of normal. I had great host who were on top of everything and I was still stressed! I think the idea of being the center of attention got to me especially since I was feeling less than attractive during the days leading up to the shower.
thanks so much u seem to be the only one that understands..i just feel sad because she offered to host the shower..throw the shower all..picked the date time but did nothin else yet so my mom sis has no choice but to help because nothing was done yet we only have 10days!
Whoa, just because other posters don't agree with you doesn't mean they don't understand. A shower is a gift, and thus isn't your responsibility. When they call you to whine, give them the God-mother's phone number. This has NOTHING to do with you other than you are the guest and thus you arrive where and when you are told to. You ARE overreacting because it isn't your responsibility in any way shape or form. Show up, say thanks, move on.
first off i didnt say jusy because ppl didnt agree with me they dont understand..yes now the shower is my responsibility in all shapes forms because my family had to do all these things this very lst week because nothing was done yet not even invites so yes i have responsibility as of now with the shower even though the godparent picked the date..offered to host it..make invites..get everything for it!!!

Okay. It's your party and you can cry if you want to.

lakreuz · November 2012

If she offered to throw it, she should have. That's not really a good sign she's going to be a great godparent as well.

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