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Violence
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Just looking for some input.
DH got an email from BM this morning about SS hitting at daycare. Apparently he's been having this issue of hitting at daycare, and according to BM only at daycare never at her house. He hit another child with a toy and gave the kid a black eye.
Now, DS and SS argue like brothers but there is never any real violence. When they have their issues, we let them figure it out, if they aren't able to and it results in more than arguing they both sit in time out, apologize, etc. We have no major violence issues. They are 3.
What can or may cause this violence issue? I'm not okay with hitting a child with an object, not hands but object is pretty severe.
DH got an email from BM this morning about SS hitting at daycare. Apparently he's been having this issue of hitting at daycare, and according to BM only at daycare never at her house. He hit another child with a toy and gave the kid a black eye.
Now, DS and SS argue like brothers but there is never any real violence. When they have their issues, we let them figure it out, if they aren't able to and it results in more than arguing they both sit in time out, apologize, etc. We have no major violence issues. They are 3.
What can or may cause this violence issue? I'm not okay with hitting a child with an object, not hands but object is pretty severe.
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Re: Violence
Is he having an issue or did he hit 1 child?
At 3 it seems age appropriate to me. My 3 yo DD is not normally violent, but she has 1 cousin and 1 boy at daycare who can get her to just flip her lid!
3 year olds do not have the communication skills to fully discuss thier feelings, sometimes this leads to acting out physically. Just talk to him when it happens and help him understand the appropriate approach.
eg. - SS, why did you hit that boy? Next time we should tell the teacher if that boy does something to upset you. or next time you should ask the boy to share the truck, we don't throw toys when we're angry.
I agree, hitting is a normal approach to not being able to communicate. DS went through the same thing, we helped him learn to just breathe and take his time, it helped. We also started giving him choices and letting him choose his actions and consequences which has greatly helped him. However, we aren't in SS life on a daily basis, only every other weekend and I feel there is only so much we can do.
BM agrees and says that he hits at his sister when she bothers him but never actually makes contact...I think the act of swatting is not okay either, and I think she feels the same.
Thank you for the advice, I was really just looking for some input, not trying to blame SS or call him a violent child. Maybe he's seen it at daycare if he doesn't do it at home. DS started to try to bite a while back because he was bitten at daycare.
is this something that happens all the time? is it the same child?
DS used to bite a child at the gym daycare everytime the child was there. finally I got fed up and confronted the daycare lady and I guess the child he was biting was autistic and would walk up to DS and grab every toy out of his hand, eventually DS got mad and bit him, its the only way he could get the kid to leave him alone. he was only 2. I changed my gym schedule so I didn't go at the same time as the mother.