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WWYD: rescheduling shower

musicalmegs424musicalmegs424 member
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So my church shower was supposed to have been November 4 but I was in the hospital. So my pastors wife called about rescheduling which is difficult with all holiday stuff coming up. She said it would have to be on a Saturday or during the week which I'm fine with. Then she brought up several times waiting until after LO arrives. She left it up to me. I don't want to wait until after she comes because I don't know what life with a newborn will be like. I would rather have it now and get all my stuff together. I already have things I need so its not expecting them to provide for the baby I just would rather have time to have the party without worrying about having someone to watch baby or everyone passing her around at flu season. How do I voice my concerns without sounding bratty.
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Re: WWYD: rescheduling shower

  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member

    I would give her a list of a few weekdays and Saturdays that would work for you (pre due date) and tell her those would work best.  If she presses you for an after baby shower, just let her know that you think you'll be very busy with the baby and family visiting for awhile, and it's going to be hard for you to plan that.

    If it seems like an after baby shower is the only date that will work, I'd leave baby at home with DH and ask that if it can be a shorter shower (1-2 hrs). 

    I don't think you'll sound bratty as long as you're being polite.  I think people can understand not wanting to bring new babies out in bad weather and cold/flu season.

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  • jeffsjaymejeffsjayme

    I'd do it after since:

    1) You have what you need already.

    2) The holidays are here.

    3) You're likely to want to take baby to church anyway,so it's not like these are additional people to see the munchkin.

    I'd just tell her that after the baby is born is fine, but way after - like a month after you've figured out what life is like.  Chances are that the church ladies will understand you not wanting the baby touched too much.

    If you really, really, really don't want to do it after the baby is born, then just tell her that you'd really like it before so that it isn't one more "to do" on your calendar.  If you can't agree on a date with her given the holidays, just say "well, sorry it doesn't work out, but thanks so much for trying - my hospitalization just complicated things too much!"

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    imagejeffsjayme:

    I'd do it after since:

    1) You have what you need already.

    2) The holidays are here.

    3) You're likely to want to take baby to church anyway,so it's not like these are additional people to see the munchkin.

    I'd just tell her that after the baby is born is fine, but way after - like a month after you've figured out what life is like.  Chances are that the church ladies will understand you not wanting the baby touched too much.

    If you really, really, really don't want to do it after the baby is born, then just tell her that you'd really like it before so that it isn't one more "to do" on your calendar.  If you can't agree on a date with her given the holidays, just say "well, sorry it doesn't work out, but thanks so much for trying - my hospitalization just complicated things too much!"

    I agree with this.  If you have everything you need already there's no reason to rush putting a shower together around the holidays.  Let the new year come and settle in.  I wouldn't not bring the baby to the shower though, people will want to see him/her.

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