Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
MotherMayEye
member
Re: Middle name for "Audrey"
i like the idea of a middle name that means something special to the couple. could be a song, a flower, a name in the family. Do you know your moms favorite flower or favorite song? maybe you could incorporate that.
audrey rose, audrey iris.. ect.
im very sorry for your loss, and i'm sure she would be proud that her little granddaughter is going to be named after her.
I met a two year old last night named Audrey Ella and loved it.
Audrey is our #1 girl name (DD is Ella) and we are either going to use Grace or Caroline for the mn.
Audrey Fee sounds too sing song-ish to me. And Audrey Ella is just meh.
Audrey Brynn, Audrey Mae, Audrey Piper, Audrey Calla, Audrey Willow, Audrey June
Are there any names on your DHs side that you'd like to incorporate?
With Audrey having so many vowel sounds already, I'd lean toward names that have more solid consonant sound to them. I'd also lean toward having a 1- or 3+ syllable MN to counter the 2-syllable FN:
Audrey Sloane
Audrey Grace
Audrey Ann
Audrey Elizabeth
Audrey Caroline
Audrey Louisa
Audrey Floriane
Audrey Cameron
Audrey Jessenia
Funny, you say that because I chose "Fee" because it is the title of a Phish song. My MIL's middle name is also "Ann" and her first name is "Beverly" so that is a no on both of those. I have dug through other family names on both sides and can't come up with one I like.
My mom was a big believer in reincarnation...for that reason, "Audrey Rose" has to be a no. It's the title of a movie about reincarnation.
My mom's favorite flower was a Daisy...Audrey Daisy -- too close to Oopsy Daisy. But thank you for the thoughtful suggestions.
"Grace" is my grandmother's middle name...I should add it to the list. Thank you!
Obviously, you and I are on the same page. And I am adding "Grace" to the list. TY.
I like Audrey Sloane out of the names you listed. Ella as a mn always sounds like a smoosh name when said out loud with a fn. So I hear Audreella but that's just me.
My brother has Audrey Rebecca picked out for a future daughter. I think it's cute.
Already thinking about baby #3
FWIW, Audrey Piper just leapt into my mind when I read the post title.
I love the name Audrey and I'm sorry for your loss.
I love Audrey Skye, its adorable.
From your list, I like Audrey Sloane, Audrey Isla, and Audrey Iris.
Suggestions are Audrey Victoria, Audrey Natalia, Audrey Noelle, Audrey Josephine, Audrey Sophia, Audrey Olivia, and Audrey Maren.