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Late Term and Child Loss
TheBump ate my profile. Oh well. New and improved.
Intro
Hi ladies. I am so sad to be joining this board, though I have heard incredible things about you all, so in a way, I'm comforted to be joining you all here. I've been lurking for the past week, but have been hesitant to post until now.
Short story of my complicated pregnancy:
5w6d: Possible sub chorionic hemorrhage that was no longer visible 2 weeks later
17w5d: Diagnosed with low fluid - oligohydramnios
20w: Diagnosed with marginal placenta previa after a large bleed - spent 3 days in the hospital before being sent home on pelvic rest
22w: Diagnosed with Vasa Previa after a very heavy bleeding episode. Sent home on bedrest.
24w: Back in the hospital on bed rest after another large bleed. Bled very heavily for a week, resulting in a blood transfusion on 11/3.
25w6d: I went into labor and delivered our sweet baby girl. She lived for 8 hours before passing away.
I'm so sorry to see how many other women are here on this board dealing with their own losses. My heart seriously goes out to all of you. I am so heartbroken over all of this and wonder if life will ever be normal again. I'm still anxious all of the time because of the constant stress and worry, bleeding and repeated hospital visits I experienced while pregnant. Even now..
My first born was a perfect pregnancy, labor and delivery and this one was riddled with issues. Most of which we still don't understand. We hope to be able to conceive again in the future, but we are absolutely terrified of this happening again. We don't know when we should try again and at what point my body will be ready to support a healthy pregnancy to term. We have millions of questions at this point.
Thanks for reading. I will probably be here quite a bit.
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Re: Intro
Hi mama. I'm sorry to see you over here but glad you decided to intro.
I too had a full-term, uncomplicated pregnancy with my first. My second pregnancy was actually uncomplicated as well, until we just suddenly lost the baby. They didn't have any answers for me; I just went into labor too soon and our son didn't survive the delivery.
Losing Nathaniel was by far the most gut-wrenching, awful thing we have ever been through. I am forever changed. It takes a while to figure out how your loss will change you and to let the dust settle. In the meantime it just plain sucks. EVERYTHING was hard for months. I was obsessed with getting pregnant again and terrified of it all at the same time. Our priorities shifted, we lost friends, all of our relationships are different now. It's all really unfair.
I reached out to you over on the HR board; please don't hesitate to contact me if you want to talk. I'm very open about my loss and having someone to chat with/text was a huge help to me. Just page me here or over on HR.
I wish you comfort as you and your family begin to walk this new road.
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. It is totally normal to think about trying again as soon as you can and we can all understand your fear. I think many of us will tell you that our lives never returned to what they were before because we are forever changed by the lives of our children. However, our routines return and the world keeps turning.
I am so sorry to welcome you to our board but hope you can find some support here.
I am so sorry for the loss of your little girl. I, too, had normal pg's with my boys and with Brianna. With my last boy I also had low fluid and they wound up inducing me 2wks early. They never showed any concern with Brianna's fluid levels so I didn't think anything about it. I should have asked, I know I will in future. We found out at 25wks she no longer had a hb and I lost all the fluid. I also had an asymptomatic infection.
I am so sorry you find yourself here. But we are all here for you whenever you need anything. These ladies have been a wonderful help to me, and I hope for you too.
Thanks so much for the support, ladies. It brings me a lot of comfort to know that this board is here and that so many of you have already started down this road of your own. I hate that anyone needs to go through this. But I can't tell you how much it means to me to have others to look to, who have already been where I am right now.
Thank you again.
TheBump ate my profile. Oh well. New and improved.
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. You have come to the right place to find some amazing women who can offer so much support and understanding. As much as none of us want to be here, you are welcomed with open arms.
I wondered the same thing about life ever being normal again after our losses. What I was told and have found is my new normal with sprinkles of my old normal finding the way in daily.
Be gentle on yourself and know there is always someone here to listen and talk to.
HUGS
-Shawnna
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
TheBump ate my profile. Oh well. New and improved.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. My heart aches just reading this.
If you ever want to talk please feel free to PM.
xoxox ((hugs00
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your little girl. As for life being normal again, it won't be the same, but you'll gradually find a new normal. I think of my son every single day and I always wonder what life would be like if he were here with us. I'm sorry you're joining us here, but welcome. I hope you'll find the board to be a source of comfort as you move through your grieving process.
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12