Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Wrap loving mommas come in plz
1) I'm not familiar with them.
2) I normally just stuff things in my pockets, or if I need bulkier items I just use a satchel purse.
3) I like vatanais but don't find them very supportive for older babes. I'd look at a 50% linen wrap like agave by didymos. They're light but very supportive. I'd look at thebabywearer.com for secondhand wraps. You can pick up wraps at good prices and they're generally already broken in.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
1. Safety wise, yes. Many find them diggy with heavier kiddos. They can be comfortable (I've worn Callum in one at over 30 pounds) but they won't be the most forgiving.
2. I pack light and use some sort of messenger style bag. I prefer something fabric and floppy with a wide fabric strap.
3. Vatanai would be a good brand to check out. I prefer thin wraps so I have no trouble wrapping Callum in one. I personally don't think linen blends are a good choice for a first time wrapper - linen is sort of love it or hate it - I'm not a big fan and find that it's not really more supportive as it's not as moldable. Really I think all-cotton is the way to go if you've not tried any wraps before. I'd also consider buying used if price is a factor - there are lots of nearly new wraps out there for sale for under retail! My siggy link has some other info on brands that might help
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1. I've heard a lot of people like them.. but, me personally, I wasn't a fan of the Wrapsody Bali Breeze.. I was using it in the summer, since it's very thin, and DS was itty-bitty (<12lbs), but it just.. never wrapped great for me? I don't know how to explain it.. maybe a bit too thin?
2. Usually, I don't take a diaper bag. Or, I'll leave my regular diaper bag in the car and just go back if I need something.. Or, if DH is with me, he gets to carry the diaper bag
3. I love my girasol.. it's 100% cotton.. a bit on the thicker side (so I've been told), but wraps WONDERFULLY. DS is a HOT kid.. he sweats so easily, and gives off a TON of heat.. but, he enjoys the gira. It also helps that it's cooler out, too
Not sure how much of a fan he'll be in the summer.. we'll see.
I would recommend finding a babywearers group in your area.. go and try on as many different types of wraps as you can.. see what works best for you and your squish.. wraps are definitely an investment.. buying one without any experience can be a huge waste..
Best of luck
1. Absolutely preferred the woven. It was secure but lightweight.
2. I never used a diaper bag with my LOs. I just carried a really big purse. It worked out fine along with my LO on my front in the wrap. The purse was off to one side and toward my back so it didn't get in the way at all, at least when the babies were small and on my front & not on my hip. After that it was a li'l crazy having two heavy things on both hips but by then I didn't need to carry as much stuff anyway.
3. I wish I could, but mine was hand-made for me. It was wonderful because it gets very hot here and the wrap was really light weight and all in one piece (I hope that makes sense). Because it wasn't the tie-up kind of wrap, I had to have it made to my torso length and weight...I mean you can't adjust those, obviously.