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Toddler rejecting everyone but mom

aeshipleyaeshipley
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Hubby and I have worked to ensure that our toddler and us have a strong loving bond. Lately however hubby has been out of town a lot for work, this is their busy season and most of the caregiving has been up to me...not a problem. What is a bit of a problem is that our little one will not let anyone but me help her with anything. She goes into a complete meltdown screaming momma do it if anyone tries to help her with anything from putting on her boots, helping her into her car seat, getting her a drink. My poor hubby is devastated. He used to put her in bed and they would cuddle until she fell asleep and now she only wants momma. Is this just a phase? Does anyone know what we can do to help ease her out of this? 
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Re: Toddler rejecting everyone but mom

  • KateLouiseKateLouise member

    My DH travels for work too, and DD1 goes through something similar when he comes home. It's like she clings to me because I'm "reliable"

    My DH goes away for a week at a time every month or two. I find she eases back into wanting him to do things too once he's been home a while.

    It can be a bit tough on our feelings, but I think it's pretty normal and understandable for them to feel out of sorts when one of their caregivers keeps randomly disappearing, and they don't understand why or when they'll be back. 

    ETA: when he's home we offer both of us doing something eg Mum can you read you a book, OR mum can read you a book AND then dad can read you a book so you get two books.  Also Dad just tags along on things. eg if I'm bathing the girls, DH comes and hangs out and chats so he becomes a positive part of things while I'm still there doing the main caregiver bit.

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  • Angela814Angela814 member
    I think it's a phase. DD2 is going through it right now. It's completely exhausting for me. I'm going to be starting curling on Tues nights and already have concert band on Sun nights. I'm hoping by leaving more often, she'll get over this phase faster. 
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