still wishing i could be sahm

brideinsummer04 · November 2012

I've been back at work since mid august and still have a hard time every day bc I wish I could be a SAHM. I'm a teacher and love my job but would rather be home with my precious baby boy. I feel like time goes by so fast and I don't get enough of it with him. I had thought being a teacher and being home by 3:30 is have a few hours with him each day but he refuses to nap for the most part with my mom who watches hum and then nurses when I get home and is out like a light by 4pm! He wakes every 3 hours or so to nurse half asleep but that's like all the time I get with him! Anyone else pining to be a SAHM? I wish it were an option for me but financially we just can't do it. :

meg_2006 · November 2012

Same situation here...I'm a teacher too. Fortunately DS doesn't go to bed until 8, but by the time I get home I have to make dinner and then clean up. I feel like I only get maybe an hour with him. If I could I'd stay at home, but we are not in a position to only have 1 salary

I just know as a mom I always have to do what's best for my kids. Right now, this is what's best whether I like it or not!

meltycheeseburger · November 2012

Yes I would totally stay at home. It doesn't work for us either. I just keep telling myself that I'm giving him what I never had I was pretty poor growing up. He's happy and healthy and growing. That's all I can ask for. I def feel for you!

talitha712 · November 2012

I also teach and would love to SAH. But I carry our health insurance because it is far too expensive at DH's company, so unless we figure out something else for insurance I'll have to keep working.

Brit's Luna154 · November 2012

LibraryChica:

HilarityEnsued:
Maybe you could have some more time with him at night if you work him toward a more typical schedule for a kid his age.

This. It's very hard when you feel like you're not getting enough time with your child. I don't want to stay home, but when my daughter was falling asleep at 7 I was only getting an hour a day with her and it broke my heart. With patience, I was able to slowly move her bedtime back in in 15 min increments to 8/8:30 and the nanny was able to get her to start taking a 5 p.m. power nap. We get more time together and DH appreciates not having to get up with her so early -- she now sleeps until 7:30. I hope you are able to stay at home one day like you want, but I think the key here is to work with your mother to get your LO to nap! Does she watch him at her house or yours? What soothing techniques has she tried? Is he put to bed solely by you -- maybe your DH could put him to bed on the weekends so he gets used to falling asleep with someone else? I really do think that if you could get him to nap at least once a day then you would all be much happier. Good luck.

All of this.

Also, whe my mom or my MIL watch LO, they are so obsessed with playing with her and entertaining her that LO never gets a chance to sleep. You know your mom, so you know if she is the type that would purposely keep your LO awake. My mom and MIL are definitely that type and we have had to make our wishes clear.

brideinsummer04 · November 2012

My mom tries really hard every day to get him to sleep. So does DH in the mornings after I leave for work (he leaves later than me). The problem is DS is near impossible when it comes to sleeping. I have been having sleep problems with him since 4 months. I've read 11 sleep books and nothing works except nursing to sleep and sometimes the stroller- my mom walks for miles and miles to try to get him to sleep. I've tried what pedi and even a sleep specialist say without success. So when I'm not home to nurse him to sleep he basically doesn't sleep or sleeps very little and then crashes when I come home and nurse him. I feel like it's a lost cause =(

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