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April 2013 Moms
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S/O Padsicles
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It came up in the feminine product post below, a FTM inquiring why one would need something like that. Have we discussed yet WTEWY have a vaginal delivery? Is it time for us S+TMs to get real or do the FTMs not want to know what to really expect?
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Re: S/O Padsicles
Anyone ever have really rough sex and the next morning think, oh, I'm a little sore down there.? Well take that X 100000000000000000.09 and you MAY have an idea.
For those of you that do tear. It's not fun. Your vag is like Frankenstein, all patched together. I tore from front to back. My midwives had to call the OB in from the office because she didn't want
To attempt it herself, even though she stiches up women all the time.
Your first poop after birth? It's like giving birth all over again. Trust me, you will want an ice pack to numb yourself before the big event.
Does that help?
I am a FTM but definitely not naive to all the "fun" stuff coming my way. From what I have been told, this sums it up perfectly!
I was lucky enough to not tear. But things were still sore down there for a couple weeks. The worst part for me was the stinging that came with going pee. I used the little squirt bottle the hospital gave me with warm water when I went. That helped dilute the sting a bit.
Those little hemmoroid pads were such a soothing relief. I'd fold a couple up and stick them in my pad each time I changed it. My advice is get a big tub of those!
Also, the first week I wet and froze newborn diapers and used those too. The cold helped soothe any swelling and the diapers are super absorbent.
Everyone hypes up that first BM. It's not that bad or scary... For me it was all in my head. Get on stool softeners for the first few and you'll be fine.
What else.... The pads and net underwear thst the hospital gives you are not glam, but they worked awesome for me. I even asked the nurse for an extra box to take home.
Sadly, i was a totally naive ftm. My mothers birth stories, either she really didn't have those problems, or she didn't remember. She talked of just hopping off the delivery table to walk to
the recovery room. The only problem she had with her first was " not knowing how to push" so she pushed for a couple of hours and they had to use forceps. She broke blood vessels in her eyes. I had a very different idea of birth than i do now! Lol
I delivered a 10lb, 8oz monster baby. I surprisingly only had a 2nd degree tear (not all the way back, but pretty far) but had a massive hematoma. I wore a newborn diaper shoved with ice as a pad for about a week, and each one was topped with Tuck's pads and, for the first few days, a numbing cream (I don't remember the name of it but it was a Rx from the hospital). I made the mistake of taking a pocket mirror down to ladyland the day after delivery and it was just a bloody mess; I recommend not taking a mirror down there and just use your imagination.
As PP said, the first poop was like delivering a small baby as it aggravated everything that already ached.
I wore the ice packs on and off for about 5 days, maybe a week. I never used anything more than ibuprofen as far as pain meds go. It was awful and our birthing teacher definitely didn't prepare me for the possibilities of all the wreckage, so it was somewhat but not entirely shocking. I'm a person that would rather be prepared for the worst and not need it then be prepared for "like a heavy period" and get what I got. If that makes sense.
Ditto PP. I had a 2nd degree tear. I loved the padsicles for about a week.
And the poop was horrible. I swear I needed the epidural for it. I sat there for so long trying to convince myself that I could do it. The worst part for me was that I had to have a nurse waiting outside the door (needed help getting to the potty), so she just kept asking "Everything ok? Are you done yet?"
Also, I would recommend NOT looking at your girly bits for at least 6 weeks afterwards. I got curious and used a hand mirror. It was not pretty, and I cried to DH about how my womanhood was ruined.
Oh no! I was pretty upset too but remember thinking that I was glad I wasn't single because DH has to love me despite the wreckage but someone new would run.
I had a second degree tear on the inside and I agree to use everything they give you! The numbing spray and Tuks pad were amazing, so were the padsicles, definitely take a bunch of those home! I only used a mirror to look right before my 6 week pp appointment and at that point it wasn't bad at all but I will never look before that!
Oh, and I also passed a HUGE clot of blood a couple weeks after delivery! Luckily my SIL warned me about that so I wasn't too horrified but I did call her after and was like holy sh!t I think I'm dying!
After my doctor was slow to cut, I tore bad.
I was stitched and the next morning I got to hold my baby for a second time I wanted to pick him up out of his bassinet in the hospital...wrong move.
I popped a stitch and it was down hill from there peeing was so hard, popping impossible. I was so scared and so worn from the pain by a week I was just done. Mind you I was never told about ice or pads ect. But it did not matter. I went to my gyn and his face and question told me everything.
What happened, how long have you been like this ect.
Well my stitches all unravelled little by little I had everything pretty much hanging out.
I was burned closed hot ice...4 sessions. My story pretty sever however if i would jhave known about ice packs n so forth after decongetant close up I would have had amen easier time healing.
I had two very different labor and delivery experiences but based on the two here are a couple of things I strongly suggest....
Bleeding: It was rough after DS was born...don't know why. The dog training pads (they are way cheaper than the ones they sell in stores for incontinence...I have a doula to thank for that suggestion) were awesome for our bed or anywhere I would sit....they are also really helpful for the car or anywhere else you might be if your water breaks.
Pooping: Ask for colace immediately after delivery. Drink as much water as possible and watch what you eat. I knew this going in to the birth of our second LO and it made all the difference.
Peeing: Squatting is a must and so is the squirt bottle.
Sore Lady Bits: Padsicles are a must! I tried to make my own at home but they were nowhere near as awesome as the ones that the hospital provides. I asked for extra after DD was born before we left the hospital along with a couple extra pairs of mesh undies. Lose clothes really help. And if you are in pain ask for something, it makes it a lot easier to take care of a baby if you feel half way decent.
A lot of this might sound scary but you will survive...just look at all of us that are doing this for the second, third...time.