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What do you think about this? (kinda long)
My 7 month old goes to a school. They don't call it a daycare (same thing essentially). We had a parent teacher conference on Friday and he got a great report card 
We love all of his teachers and LO loves them. They are great with him. He knows some sign language already and they teach spanish. However, this really bothered me on Friday...
One of his teachers is very old school and doesn't really understand breastmilk. I like the care he gets so I deal with it. Yesterday she told me that we are lucky because at 7 months some babies refuse breastmilk because it tastes bad and they have to drink formula. She told me at 11 months I need to start mixing formula with his breastmilk to get him weaned off of it. She also says we don't send enough food for him. LO eats eggs or something at home for breakfast, 2 oz. yogurt mid morning, 2oz puree veg for lunch and usually real food for dinner with us. He drinks 3 5oz bottles at DC.
We do BLW at home, but purees at DC right now. Anyway, these comments really bothered me. I told her formula was too expensive and there was no way he was getting any unless I magically stopped producing milk. I also told her if he needed more food, or if I was starving him, he wouldn't be gaining weight so well. I love this teacher but I am really bothered by all of this.
Ugh. Just wanted to vent. Thanks!
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Re: What do you think about this? (kinda long)
WTF?!? about breastmilk/formula comment!!! How on earth did babies grow for centuries before it? Continue to send the breastmilk. And continue to breastfeed for as long as it works for you and your family. I personally plan to BF beyond a year, maybe two, maybe more...depending on DD, and if I get pregnant before then.
Regarding the food, how much does he eat at home if you feed purees/yogurt? Is he showing signs of hunger? I would question if they would stop feeding when he is giving cues that he is full.
I know this isn't the point of your post, but how much time at the daycare is spent "teaching" and how much time are they given freedom to explore their surroundings and play freely? I have misgivings about doing an October first term "reportcard" in kindergarten... let alone at 7 months. For the first 5-6 years, play is crucial. I wonder since they call it a "school" if there is too much rote work happening?
Wow. For 7 months, your child is eating a LOT of solid food. DS was eating about 3Tbs of cereal or puree at that age and then nursing or taking bottles of expressed milk. I sent expressed milk until he was 15 months old (in a sippy at 12 months instead of whole milk.) The average age to self wean from breastfeeding is between 3 and 4 years old, so don't listen to crazy woman. I weaned DS at 19 months because I am pregnant and didn't want to tandem nurse. Seeing as how a 7 month old still mostly eats, sleeps, and plays in a stationary space, I would be very upset if my caregivers weren't on the same page about feeding. We actually switched daycares over feeding/food issues. Don't let them bully you into doing something with your child that you don't feel comfortable doing. You are the mama.
I agree witht he others about sticking to your guns over the BM. Also is there a reason you don't want to send extra solids? What makes them think he needs more?
out of curiosity, what does the report card cover?
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
I know those comments would bother me too, but isn't it crazy how people used to be taught that formula was man-made and "scientific" and therefore better?
Sometimes, I'm hilarious.
Thank you all for making me feel normal. I feel like LO is eating a lot of solids for 7 months as well. They tell me he cries when they stop feeding him... which is not true because my IL's tell me on the days they have him that he is perfectly fine with the food we send. This lady just thinks the child will starve. Ugh. He doesn't get many solids on the weekends and is only at DC 3 days a week so as long as he is still drinking his milk, I'll keep sending the amount of solids I am sending.
The report card covers milestones he should be reaching for different areas of development... social, emotional, physical, etc. He gets a N for never, S for sometimes, and A for always. My FIL checks on him a lot during the day. They do get a lot of free play time as well. I think I answered everyone!
In general, I'm totally with you on this. I can't see why she would be concerned with you sending in breastmilk instead of formula - should be just as easy for her to deal with either way.
However, the bolded may or may not be true. DD is more "into" eating solids when she's with her friends at day care - I think because she's interested in what her peers are doing. At home she's most interested in eating what DH and I are eating and completely uninterested in eating if we're not.