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stepper1725 · November 2012

What unpopular opinions do you have today?

My parents & siblings decided to not give presents this year for Christmas and I could not be happier! No presents, no stress, just good food & fun company : )

jamiah18 · November 2012

stepper1725:
My parents & siblings decided to not give presents this year for Christmas and I could not be happier! No presents, no stress, just good food & fun company : )

That's awesome! My family (extended) decided to cancel Thanksgiving! Yup, cancel it. I'm kind of bummed because it's dd's first but oh we'll I guess.

acbfreire · November 2012

I don't want to hear about perfectly sleeping babies when I tell someone our sleep struggles. I am just trying to survive.

Samiantha101 · November 2012

I'm ticked that my husband pretty much made me quit my job. The job was super flexible after I had the baby. I was only working 4 days a week and for only 5 hour periods. They even let me come in in the evenings, after he got home from work, so our baby wouldn't have to go to daycare. He just couldn't handle working all day and watching the baby in the evening. We don't share money, so I'm living off my savings and the money he gives me for "household" goods. I feel like a charity case asking him for money, so I don't. I got a phone call about a possible job, but because we're moving and won't be there until the end of this month, they took me off the interview roster. I don't want my baby in daycare, and I'm all sorts of torn up about it, but my bills are stockpiling. I guess this is more of a rant than UO.

Caleej · November 2012

Ugh me too! Most mornings I get up and feel like I just ran a Marathon, not slept.. feel your pain

Sigir · November 2012

Samiantha101:
I'm ticked that my husband pretty much made me quit my job. The job was super flexible after I had the baby. I was only working 4 days a week and for only 5 hour periods. They even let me come in in the evenings, after he got home from work, so our baby wouldn't have to go to daycare. He just couldn't handle working all day and watching the baby in the evening. We don't share money, so I'm living off my savings and the money he gives me for "household" goods. I feel like a charity case asking him for money, so I don't. I got a phone call about a possible job, but because we're moving and won't be there until the end of this month, they took me off the interview roster. I don't want my baby in daycare, and I'm all sorts of torn up about it, but my bills are stockpiling. I guess this is more of a rant than UO.

If he won't let you work, how can you not be sharing money??? This sounds crazy and scarily controlling, to me. Major red flag, sorry to say.

Samiantha101 · November 2012

He isn't controlling. I just have too much stubborn pride to ask for money, but then again, I feel as though he should have, on his own, added me to his accounts. It doesn't matter. I have my money. He has his. I am crossing my fingers to find a job ASAP.

thatoneredhead · November 2012

Samiantha101:
I'm ticked that my husband pretty much made me quit my job. The job was super flexible after I had the baby. I was only working 4 days a week and for only 5 hour periods. They even let me come in in the evenings, after he got home from work, so our baby wouldn't have to go to daycare. He just couldn't handle working all day and watching the baby in the evening. We don't share money, so I'm living off my savings and the money he gives me for "household" goods. I feel like a charity case asking him for money, so I don't. I got a phone call about a possible job, but because we're moving and won't be there until the end of this month, they took me off the interview roster. I don't want my baby in daycare, and I'm all sorts of torn up about it, but my bills are stockpiling. I guess this is more of a rant than UO.

This was a really awkward transition for us too. For a good year I felt dead broke because I felt weird using money that wasnt "mine." We also had polar opposite spending habits. It eventually evened out

I hate almost all modern portraits (although we have an appt to go do them for Christmas). I miss the days of awkward Sears portraits. There are way too many people with photoshop and a camera these days.

stepper1725 · November 2012

thatoneredhead:

Samiantha101:
I'm ticked that my husband pretty much made me quit my job. The job was super flexible after I had the baby. I was only working 4 days a week and for only 5 hour periods. They even let me come in in the evenings, after he got home from work, so our baby wouldn't have to go to daycare. He just couldn't handle working all day and watching the baby in the evening. We don't share money, so I'm living off my savings and the money he gives me for "household" goods. I feel like a charity case asking him for money, so I don't. I got a phone call about a possible job, but because we're moving and won't be there until the end of this month, they took me off the interview roster. I don't want my baby in daycare, and I'm all sorts of torn up about it, but my bills are stockpiling. I guess this is more of a rant than UO.

This was a really awkward transition for us too. For a good year I felt dead broke because I felt weird using money that wasnt "mine." We also had polar opposite spending habits. It eventually evened out

I hate almost all modern portraits (although we have an appt to go do them for Christmas). I miss the days of awkward Sears portraits. There are way too many people with photoshop and a camera these days.

I don't get the "his money", "my money" thing...maybe because I'm the breadwinner. Still, I would never consider it "my money", nor does DH ask for it. We both talk to each other about major purchases and decide together if we think we can afford things. Anywho, that sounds like a kind of crappy situation and I hope you find a good job soon!

Red, you should totally go get an Olin Mills or Sears family picture! Our family did that last Christmas, stiff poses with a fake Christmas tree in the background. It was amazing.

sam19 · November 2012

My SIL got my older daughter nasty, grungy goodwill clothes for her birthday so I'm tempted to do the same for her kids for Christmas. I won't because it's not fair to punish them for my SIL's cheap assedness but I want to.

Gismo123 · November 2012

Samiantha101:
He isn't controlling. I just have too much stubborn pride to ask for money, but then again, I feel as though he should have, on his own, added me to his accounts. It doesn't matter. I have my money. He has his. I am crossing my fingers to find a job ASAP.

I was the same way! I had to quit my job because it was too dangerouse to do when pregnant and then we were moving across the country 4 months after DS was born so there was no point in returning to work after.

I eventually ran out of money and was too prideful to ask. Eventually I came to my senses...being a SAHM is a job too! I cook all his meals, clean the whole house, do all the laundry, and take care of LO. If that's not a job then I don't know what is lol DH and I had a talk about it and he agreed that it's OUR money.

We have our own seperate accounts at the same bank and also a shared savings. He has an allotment set up so every 2 weeks a chunk of his paycheck goes into the savings and then I transfer it into my account. Easy peasy!

Also my UO is I HATE that people keep telling me that I need to give LO water. Uhhhh BM is the ONLY thing he needs right now tyvm!

Gismo123 · November 2012

sam19:
My SIL got my older daughter nasty, grungy goodwill clothes for her birthday so I'm tempted to do the same for her kids for Christmas. I won't because it's not fair to punish them for my SIL's cheap assedness but I want to.

I would do that for your SIL's bday hehe One turn deserves another!

thatoneredhead · November 2012

stepper1725:
thatoneredhead:

Samiantha101:
I'm ticked that my husband pretty much made me quit my job. The job was super flexible after I had the baby. I was only working 4 days a week and for only 5 hour periods. They even let me come in in the evenings, after he got home from work, so our baby wouldn't have to go to daycare. He just couldn't handle working all day and watching the baby in the evening. We don't share money, so I'm living off my savings and the money he gives me for "household" goods. I feel like a charity case asking him for money, so I don't. I got a phone call about a possible job, but because we're moving and won't be there until the end of this month, they took me off the interview roster. I don't want my baby in daycare, and I'm all sorts of torn up about it, but my bills are stockpiling. I guess this is more of a rant than UO.

This was a really awkward transition for us too. For a good year I felt dead broke because I felt weird using money that wasnt "mine." We also had polar opposite spending habits. It eventually evened out

I hate almost all modern portraits (although we have an appt to go do them for Christmas). I miss the days of awkward Sears portraits. There are way too many people with photoshop and a camera these days.

I don't get the "his money", "my money" thing...maybe because I'm the breadwinner. Still, I would never consider it "my money", nor does DH ask for it. We both talk to each other about major purchases and decide together if we think we can afford things. Anywho, that sounds like a kind of crappy situation and I hope you find a good job soon!

Red, you should totally go get an Olin Mills or Sears family picture! Our family did that last Christmas, stiff poses with a fake Christmas tree in the background. It was amazing.

Redhead family portrait 2012

I view the bank account as Dh's "kitchen." Just like DH knows that, of course, he can come get whatever he wants from the kitchen, I decide what goes where and need to know details of what is being used. Sorry to sound like a 50s housewife, but thats how I see it

Samiantha101 · November 2012

Gismo, is your husband in the service?

zinkyn14 · November 2012

I hate being a acquaintances with my coworkers. I would almost prefer to work at home and never speak with any of them. I swear every time I have small talk chat with them, I wish I had never spoken to them. Don't get me wrong, I'm far from perfect -but I work with some crazy people.

For example:
One of my coworkers has a son 3 months older then mine. He said he plans on poking him with a toothpick to prep him for vaccines. Then, maybe he won't be so frightened and upset when he gets them. Really?

Another one, just starting talking to me about how I should be a stay at home mom. She wants to set up a meeting to discuss Team Life. (Anyone know what Team Life is, other than a scam of course?) She got this glazed look on her face like she drank crazy punch and joined a cult. I have no idea what it is, but I'm not interested. Ugh!

My work is laying off people, because we lost a contract. Everyone is worried about their job, but I secretly wish they would pick me. Volunteering is not an option. I've felt like I've been in the seventh circle of Hades, since I've starting working there. For the record, that was over 8 years ago. I've applied to places periodically, only to feel discouraged and start making excuses of why should stay where I am. It's like an abusive relationship. I desperately want out, but can't make the break on my own. Stupid, I know. Thanks for letting me vent.

Gismo123 · November 2012

Samiantha101:
Gismo, is your husband in the service?

Yup! 12 years in the Navy!

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