Sleepover and pull ups

ccm1203 · November 2012

DS was invited to a sleepover, however we are hesitant to let him sleep over because he still wears a pull up to bed and you know how kids can be. So what does the Bump think?

ppants · November 2012

I have not experienced this, but does he wear the more underwear looking pull up? How old are the kids? Mine are 6.5 yo and I don't know they would even notice anything since tolieting is private. I would talk to the parents ahead of time and if you are both comfortable going after talking about it, I'd go.

Littlejen22 · November 2012

How old? I am personally against sleepovers until kids know what to do if they are uncomfortable so probably 10 or so.

neverblushed · November 2012

Oh, man -- Have I ever walked a mile in your shoes!

They do make "big kid" pull ups for exactly this purpose that are fabric-y on the outside that look like boxer briefs. Make sure your son knows exactly what to do if he does have an accident at night. He'll need to change out of the pull up in the morning and dispose of it. I always pack my son a trash bag or ziploc bag, in case there are any wet clothes. He can take his whole backpack into the bathroom to change, and just tuck any wet clothes away.

My son doesn't usually have accidents when he's sleeping at someone else's house or on vacation -- he just doesn't sleep as soundly when he's not in his own bed, and it's the sound sleeping that is causing the night accidents.

My son has one friend that he does sleepovers with pretty frequently. I know I can trust this mom, so I told her about it. That way she can make sure my son has privacy in the bathroom to change, etc. Fortunately, he's never had an accident at her house... knock on wood!

neverblushed · November 2012

Littlejen22:
How old? I am personally against sleepovers until kids know what to do if they are uncomfortable so probably 10 or so.

I"m not sure if you mean sleepovers in general or just if the child wets the bed. My kids both started doing sleepovers at age 7, and that seems pretty common among their friends. Waiting until age 10 might cause a child to miss out on a lot of social interaction that goes on in those years.

If the only reason you'd wait that long is because of the bed-wetting, I think that's impractical. If you say 'no -- you can't go because you don't know how to handle your bed-wetting' the poor kid feels like he's being punished for bed-wetting. Believe me, as a mom of a kid with this issue, you really do not want to come off as though you're punishing the child.

I think it would be better to come up with a plan to help the child feel more comfortable coping with the bed-wetting.

jlw2505 · November 2012

My nephew trained at night pretty late. He would wrap it up in his PJ's and just go into the bathroom and change. He just told anyone asked him why that he didn't like changing in front of anyone. It was never an issue and no one ever knew. Heck - he slept at my house once and I knew and never even saw him with it - he just went and changed and that was it and did the same thing in the morning. His mom always packed a plastic bag for him to put it into so he didn't have to toss it at his friends/family where he was sleeping/

ccm1203 · November 2012

Thank you all for your responses! Neverblushed, I was hoping you would respond to this post Big Smile

Littlejen22 · November 2012

neverblushed:
Littlejen22:
How old? I am personally against sleepovers until kids know what to do if they are uncomfortable so probably 10 or so.
I"m not sure if you mean sleepovers in general or just if the child wets the bed.  My kids both started doing sleepovers at age 7, and that seems pretty common among their friends.  Waiting until age 10 might cause a child to miss out on a lot of social interaction that goes on in those years.
If the only reason you'd wait that long is because of the bed-wetting, I think that's impractical.  If you say 'no -- you can't go because you don't know how to handle your bed-wetting' the poor kid feels like he's being punished for bed-wetting.  Believe me, as a mom of a kid with this issue, you really do not want to come off as though you're punishing the child.
I think it would be better to come up with a plan to help the child feel more comfortable coping with the bed-wetting.

I mean in general, I would never punish a kid for besetting. We will see how it works in practicality as they age.

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