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katt3233
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Conflicted emotions
katt3233
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Everyone knows that pregnancy announcements to IFers suck and hurt. Well my sister is starting to TTC. Ugh! She texted me that they want to start but she feels guilty that she may have a baby before me.
I love my sister to death! For her to get pregnant easily and without any of the heartache I endured would be so great! However for her to be a mom before me, or her to be a mom and me never achieve that, really really sucks!
I realize its very, very likely that she'll get pregnant long before me, and while its what I want her to have for her life, it will hurt.
I hate you, infertility!
I love my sister to death! For her to get pregnant easily and without any of the heartache I endured would be so great! However for her to be a mom before me, or her to be a mom and me never achieve that, really really sucks!
I realize its very, very likely that she'll get pregnant long before me, and while its what I want her to have for her life, it will hurt.
I hate you, infertility!
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Re: Conflicted emotions
IVF with ICSI #1: BFP
TESE for DH 08/09/09
ER 08/09/09; ET 08/14/09; Beta #1 08/23/09: 150; Beta #2 08/25/09: 267
TTC #2: FET #1: BFP
ET 06/16/11; Beta #1 06/25/11: 282; Beta #2 06/27/11: 777
First u/s: Twins! Baby A stopped growing @ 9 weeks, forever in our hearts
TTC #3: FET #2: c/p lost at 4 weeks
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Yup.
My sister got pregnant 2 mos after getting married. My nephew is now almost 5 mos old. If I had her kind of luck, I'd have an almost 4 year old right now. Sh!t, I'd have 2 kids by now!
Thankfully, she's super awesome & motherhood hasn't changed her one bit but it's still hard. I'm kind of thankful we'll likely be having ER or ET around Christmas so I can have an excuse to be on bedrest because I don't want to deal with all of the "BABY'S FIRST CHRISTMAS!!!" crap. I mean, it's not her fault my ladygarden sucks, but it doesn't make it any easier.
I just KNOW this is going to be me! And honestly I know it's not fair to her to put her life on hold because I can't get KU and stay KU, but dammit it's just not fair!! I'm older, I've been married longer and I've been trying longer. I should be first! :[
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Ohhh this sucks katt3233. The one positive is that you and your sister are close enough that she addressed it immediately with you and shared her feelings. Some families would never have talked about the elephant in the room. It might sound terrible, but I think people should feel at least a little guilty or awkward if they are close to someone with IF and they conceive easily. I know when we thought we were pregnant the first month (the beginnings of 2.5 yrs of problems) I felt guilty thinking it was easy for us when it's so hard for some people. Little did I know I would be one of those 'some people'.
It's such a crappy heartbreaking situation. It sounds like the only thing you can do is maintain that honest communication and separate yourself when you need to.
Take care!
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Totally understand your situation. From family to friends who have announced they are pregnant. DH and I have gone through this for 6 years now.
Have you tried the free known donor registry? https://knowndonorregistry.com/ If you do try it or have tried it, let me know how it worked for you.