how early?

patrickandkim · December 2008

How early are people hosting/giving you your shower? How early is to early? My in-laws want to throw a dual shower because my sister in-law is 8-10 weeks ahead of me. That shower will put me around 22 weeks.

RoxyLynn · December 2008

Twenty-two weeks is REALLY early. Usually the shower is around 7 months.

Also, dual showers are tricky. If I were invited to one I'd feel obligated to get something for both Moms-to-be, whether I knew them both or not. And I'd feel awkward if it were my best friend and her SIL, because I'd want to get something really fantabulous for my best friend but may not know the SIL at all. Of course, if it's a family shower that should all be fine.

EastCoastBride · December 2008

In the end,it doesn't really matter - you need the stuff, regardless of when you get it. But yes, 22 weeks seems really early.

And I have to ditto Roxy on the dual shower thing. I personally wouldn't feel I "had" to give a gift to the other person if I didn't know them well, if I weren't really THEIR guest, but many people would.

Also- how would the gifts be done? You open at the same time, or one after the other? If it's the latter -wow, double the gift opening for the guests to sit through.....

Personally, I would decline the double shower just onthe premise of the guest list- you'll each have people that wouldn't normally be invited to the others shower and you dont' want to put ANY burden on your guests that they need to buy 2 gifts....

trinny · December 2008

I was barely showing at 22 weeks and no one could feel the baby. It is important to me to celebrate my pregnancy at the shower, so I would not have wanted it that early. Mine is 31 weeks. Of course, it is really nice of your IL's to offer to host a shower, and it would probably be convenient for OOTers. I would probably accept, but not invite anyone additional and plan something separate later on.

mlover14 · December 2008

I will also be having a co-shower with my cousin who is due 10 days after me. I live in CO and she lives in KC, so it will be nice for our family to have one at the same time. That way I also get to invite a few KC friends. I wouldn't worry about how early it is. Just make sure that people know that your SIL does not expect a gift from them. I was thinking of asking our hosts to write something on the invitation to indicate that.

patrickandkim · December 2008

I thank everyone for their thoughts and opinions. I really like Trinny's suggestion. I really don't want to step on toes, so I don't think there will be anyone additional besides their family and close friends. Also, my family wants to do something later on. It's just a frustrating situation. They are such a tight family that saying no would probably tick some people off. Thanks again ladies.

kaysuhdeeya · December 2008

my due date is in april, i'm having mine in february

sept04brideinMD · December 2008

That's tricky, like the other posters said. But, in reality - if it's a family shower, people will likely want to buy you and your cousin a gift. And for them, now they only have to go to one shower

Your IL's could do something creative, say tell the guests to bring the gifts "naked" (not wrapped) so that they don't have to sit through ALL that unwrapping. Or have it be a "floating shower" where guest just come and mingle - but not stay for a set timeframe...that way you can open gifts at different times.

Deegirl322 · December 2008

I just threw my sister-in-laws shower and she was 30 weeks. I will be having my shower at 31 weeks.

kdiguise · December 2008

I just had my shower this weekend and I was almost 29 weeks.

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