Court update

Phantomgirl · November 2012

So it was today and not yesterday as I previously thought.

Last night DH put together some paperwork, I helped him with that and he seemed completely confident. He was representing himself (I have stated my beliefs on that before - fool for a client!)

This morning he was nervous joking with me about using his ?one call? to contact me etc.

Anyhow BM attorney tried to talk to him several times today but he stuck to his guns convinced the judge would feel for him and come down on BM.

Guess what - it worked!

BM got her azz handed to her. The judge called her 'ridiculous' and asked her to 'look out the window and see the state of the country'. He told her she has been ill advised by her attorney to take the case and it was a 'pay day' for him. He told her nobody gets money like she used to these days.

BM tried to have my wages factored in - her argument was that there is not as much pressure on DH to work ?extra' because of my earnings. The judge ignored that.

Then they brought up that we have three dogs and BM felt we should get rid of them and comtribute that money also. (this annoys me because she asked me a while back if they were expensive to feed and I told, horrible to think that while I think we are gettintg along she was gatherine evidence)

DH said the judge was furious with her and not very pleasant to her at all. He basically did not entertain her at all.

The judge asked DH all about losing his business, how hard that was for him and how his industry was the worst to be in at that time. He asked DH about the course he is taking and congratulated him. He asked him how much time he spends with SS and DH told him every weekend and he told DH he wished all the fathers that appeared before him were more like him.

DH is COd to pay LESS than he was willing to. He is currently going to pay 33% of what he was two years ago! BUT its an honest reflection and I am so happy it is now officially CO?d.

DH is thrilled! BM was furious and tried to verbally attack him after court. DH said he lost the head a little with her (means he verablly attacked her back) BUT then he just walked away.

So - there you have it! Not exactly what I expected. Definitely not what BM expected.

CFjo2010 · November 2012

I'm so glad everything worked in DH's (and your) favor!! I was wondering yesterday how things went but I didn't want to pry.

I completely understand your annoyance with BM "gathering info" from you when you thought she was being civil/friendly. BM in my situation did this same thing and after 2 years I still regret telling her anything about my job field (At the time I thought she was asking because maybe she was considering entering the same field). It baffles me how some people (BMs and BDs) think the new spouse's income should be factored into the CS amount. I'm so glad the Judge shut her down and acknowledged your husband's involvement with SS. I wish more Judges were like yours.

kimmygirl77 · November 2012

This is great news for you and your DH. I especially love that the judge praised your DH and said that there should be more fathers like him. I bet BM heard none of that though. She will go on thinking that he is the worst person ever and the judge was just as stupid. That is how it works with BMs like this. They only hear and see whatever they want even if it is made up. After we went to court our BM argued about what was said in there and what wasnt. I wanted to pull the minutes to show her that she was making crap up!!! But a big victory for you guys. Hopefully she will leave you alone for awhile. It is too bad you have to watch what you say or she will try to use friendly conversation against you.

NDSalesGirl · November 2012

jobalchak:

I'm so glad everything worked in DH's (and your) favor!! I was wondering yesterday how things went but I didn't want to pry.

I completely understand your annoyance with BM "gathering info" from you when you thought she was being civil/friendly. BM in my situation did this same thing and after 2 years I still regret telling her anything about my job field (At the time I thought she was asking because maybe she was considering entering the same field). It baffles me how some people (BMs and BDs) think the new spouse's income should be factored into the CS amount. I'm so glad the Judge shut her down and acknowledged your husband's involvement with SS. I wish more Judges were like yours.

This! Except BM coaches SS to ask questions that no 6 year old should about money and if we will have enough for things he wants. Drives me crazy! a child should never know about your finanaces.