Please tell me Im not alone.

JayandEmm · November 2012

Title: please tell me I'm not alone.

The only way ds will take proper naps is if he's swaddled and in my arms. And what I mean by proper is over an hour. I've tried to put him down drowsy like I do at bedtime, but it just doesn't work. So I hold him just so he sleeps and is a happy rested boy, and not cranky.

STMs: how long does this little phase last? Ds is 11 weeks.

danielle2583 · November 2012

I can NOT put down DD if she's even a little bit awake. She needs to be swaddled, bounced AND rocked to even get drowsy. Lately she's taken a paci so that helps, but it's ridiculous to get this kid to fall asleep. If she's dead asleep I can put her in her swing but as soon as she opens her eyes and sees me across the room she's awake. She'll totally freak if she realizes she's alone in her PnP. Self soothing/falling asleep doesn't seem to be in our future

not that I mind rocking her, but it does get kinda old.

irer · November 2012

My baby only cat naps for like 20 minutes at a time tops if we arent out somewhere. The only way he will sleep longer is if we are out walking in the buggy or if he is in the car on a drive. Luckily he is not cranky and STTN but man it is tough not having a baby who naps with a toddler running around too! Ds1 was a good napper but was not a good night sleeper...having had both, I will say having a bad napper but STTN is better, so I hope your baby is doing that for you! I hope this little guy will start napping better soon but who knows...sorry that is probably not what you wanted to hear

Keoh1215 · November 2012

This is me as I type this so you definitely are not alone. Whenever I put her down she opens her eyes immediately. I want her to sleep because its awful when she gets overtired so I just hold her. I can never get anything done around the house. I really would like to know when this phase ends too. I love cuddling with her but I just wish I could put her down sometimes and get stuff done. DD is 13 weeks tomorrow.

alrighthamilton · November 2012

You're not alone. My daughter is napping in my lap now. But I'm lucky to even get her to sleep for an hour. Usually it's no sleeping, or less than 30 minutes. This baby sleeps less than most adults. I have accepted the fact that she will only sleep in my lap and I get nothing done or she is a fussy little mess come evening.

JayandEmm · November 2012

irer:
My baby only cat naps for like 20 minutes at a time tops if we arent out somewhere. The only way he will sleep longer is if we are out walking in the buggy or if he is in the car on a drive. Luckily he is not cranky and STTN but man it is tough not having a baby who naps with a toddler running around too! Ds1 was a good napper but was not a good night sleeper...having had both, I will say having a bad napper but STTN is better, so I hope your baby is doing that for you! I hope this little guy will start napping better soon but who knows...sorry that is probably not what you wanted to hear :nbsp;

He doesn't sleep through the night. He gets up twice to eat and once to cuddle. I love that he's a good napper but I just wish he'd be a good napper out of my arms!

rp-chicago-mom · November 2012

I know I must sound like a broken record but I have decided not to care about how he naps until four months. Healthy Sleep Habits Healthy Child says the nap presents itself then and you're good if you can get some good night sleep.

Howell will nap out and about in the Bjorn. In my arms he may do an hour. It does bug me sometimes but but I try to remind myself he won't do it forever.

Cheerilee · November 2012

Baker_Bride:
I know I must sound like a broken record but I have decided not to care about how he naps until four months. Healthy Sleep Habits Healthy Child says the nap presents itself then and you're good if you can get some good night sleep. Howell will nap out and about in the Bjorn. In my arms he may do an hour. It does bug me sometimes but but I try to remind myself he won't do it forever.

Thanks for this... The pediatrician told me yesterday that DD looked really tired. Duh! I've told you at every appointment now (a total of SIX) that she doesn't sleep unless I'm holding her. We bed share JUST so I can sleep because when I set her down she's awake in 20 minutes. I was starting to think there was something wrong with her or me or both. I needed to hear this.

xxbabycakesxx · November 2012

Ughhh right there with you. I don't have to swaddle B for naps but I do have to hold him. He'll sleep anywhere between 1to 3 hours. If I were to set him down, he'd wake up in less than half an hour.
At night hes fine to sleep in his crib for hours but its the naps that are killing me.
Sad face.

DerpityDog · November 2012

Yep, pretty similar situation here. DH seems to be a little more successful putting her down in her bouncy seat or the RNP when I'm not there. She sleeps great in her crib at night, so it has to be a daytime thing.

lady_tytah · November 2012

This is why Amir is sleeping with one of my clean shirts in his bassinet. He only falls asleep with me but needs something that sleeps that smells like me to stay sleep. I'm about to start sleeping with a lovey do he'll transition from my clothes

kokokat · November 2012

you are not alone. i struggle with this same issue all day, every day. i'm exhausted and depressed about it.

LoveLo2010 · November 2012

danielle2583:
I can NOT put down DD if she's even a little bit awake. She needs to be swaddled, bounced AND rocked to even get drowsy. Lately she's taken a paci so that helps, but it's ridiculous to get this kid to fall asleep. If she's dead asleep I can put her in her swing but as soon as she opens her eyes and sees me across the room she's awake. She'll totally freak if she realizes she's alone in her PnP. Self soothing/falling asleep doesn't seem to be in our future : not that I mind rocking her, but it does get kinda old.

This sounds exactly like what we go through too!

kokokat · November 2012

Scout2005:
Dd started taking her naps in her crib around four to five months. Tbh? It was kind of sad, I missed holding her. I tried for weeks to get her in there and then it was like, oh sad. I'm trying to remember that and cherish it with DS. It's over so quickly. :::sad face:::

I know what you're saying, and I'm sure I will miss it, in part. I certainly will miss being that close to him all the time. However, I'm concerned that if I don't start trying to get DS used to sleeping somewhere other than on me (and DH), daycare is going to be a huge, painful shock to him when he starts in January. It also makes me a little uncomfortable that the only place he will sleep is on DH, on the couch. We're just trying to get by right now, but I don't think that's the safest thing. So, yeah, I wish he had a little more ability to sleep on his own.

Also, DS gets INSANELY fussy when he's overtired. If he's napped 2 hours, he can only manage about 45 minutes of awake time. FIve mintues late in putting him down, and I'm paying for it for the rest of the day. So many times, I'm pinned under him sitting in a dark nursery (which is depressing), I can't get up to pee or eat if I need to, and that gets old after a while too.

rp-chicago-mom · November 2012

Scout2005:
Dd started taking her naps in her crib around four to five months.

Tbh? It was kind of sad, I missed holding her. I tried for weeks to get her in there and then it was like, oh sad. I'm trying to remember that and cherish it with DS. It's over so quickly. :::sad face:::

Would you mind explaining that to MIL and DH? They are always trying to tell me to put him down. His aunt on MIL's side gave me the Dr. Weissbluth book which clearly explains you should not begin to think of naps until four months. If they do it, great. If not, don't sweat it.

He sleeps in my arms, the Bjorn and sometimes the stroller. I get frustrated sometimes about things like laundry and making interesting dinners. I've got countless loads of laundry and meals to cook ahead of me. How many days do I have left of holding my chubby little love while he sleeps? And you can't get that time back.

aimee1899 · November 2012

Right now, DD only likes to nap while I wear her in a sling. She just doesn't like her swing anymore.

Twizzle · November 2012

Right there with you for the last couple of weeks. He'll still take short naps in the swing occasionally. Naps in the moby are usually short too. Best naps are me holding him in the rocking chair. The really hard part is that for 2 days a week I also have a 4 year old to entertain all by myself.

azdcpa0912 · November 2012

Thanks for this post...I really needed to hear that a lot of you ladies are going through the same thing. My little guy only naps in his swing in the late afternoon after he's so worn out he can't keep his eyes open. He fights naps throughout the day and then will become a little hellion after 5 or so because he's overtired. Our ped says that its not normal for lo's to get on a good nap schedule until about four months so I feel a bit better about the situation. I've recently asked my MIL whose watching lo to try to get him in a dark room, swaddled, about three times during the day to start giving him the opportunity to get into a deep sleep. When he's downstairs with her there are too many noises (tv, dogs, etc) for him to calm down enough to get to sleep. Now that I'm back at work I don't want to come home to an angry baby every night - that is so hard. I'm PRAYING things get into a normal routine soon, for his sake and mine!

On another note...I called my MIL yesterday to see how things were going, and baby was screaming bloody murder in the background. So, of course I'm upset at work about him being upset.... I ask when his latest nap was and she says, "Oh...um, he hasn't napped yet." It was 10:00 and he woke up at 5:00!!!! No wonder he's pissed off!

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