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I'm not into Venting but I felt the need to lol

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I just want to know...why is it okay for people to be so quick to pass judgement  on others when they don't know their situation?

We as humans/women/mothers need to have as much compassion for people as we can. At one point women were not able to vote, work certain jobs, or give their opinion when it really mattered. And it seems like nowadays we are so good at putting others down instead of lifting them up. I know there are some people who really don't want to seek help or assistance but sometimes bad behavior is a call for help itself.

Let's continue to be supportive and understanding on this site. Perhaps some members are not happy with their current situation so they feel need to attack instead of engaging in a healthy conversation. I'm not perfect (no one is) but I think we should step up and be good role models when needed.

Sorry...just some things on my mind:)  Sending love, thoughts, and prayers out to everyone and have a memorable and joyful pregnancy!!

 

 

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  • dmbaf69dmbaf69
    Amen, sister!
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  • wren444wren444
    Well said!
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    If I need a "good role model" in my life, I'm not coming to the bump to get it. If I need love, emotional support, or understanding, I have real-life friends and family for that. I think maybe some people just need to take it less seriously. It's just an online message board and hundreds of strangers.
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  • BsAsKateBsAsKate

    Agree!  If you dont have anything nice to say/type, then don't bother responding. If you do decide to type something nasty, grow the F up.

    The fourm is for information and support from women going through the same things you are.  There is no reason to be nasty to those who rely on forums like this - maybe they don't live close to friends and family.  

     

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  • BoatsNHoesBoatsNHoes member
    Ok then.

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  • imoanimoan member
    Oh aren't you just a sweet little Pollyana. This is not what these boards are for. I love newbies who show up one day and try to dictate board behavior.
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  • shibby00shibby00 member
    If you need support, get a better bra.
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  • ShaylizShayliz member

    Nope, this board is here to make money for the parent company - not for support. It's the internet, you can't tell people how they can and can't respond to things or how they should or should not act.

    LOL at adding in about how women at one point couldn't vote, like that means we're supposed to hold hands and sing kumbaya together. 

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  • InkedMegsInkedMegs member

    I am the nicest person you could ever meet IRL... but this is what it is.  Nothing you or anyone else can post will ever change the way it goes down here or on any message board.  If you post something for the public to see and comment on, be prepared to buck up, grow some thick skin and take it as it comes.

    But, thank you for the weekly, "Cant we all just get along?!" post.


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  • RussianMommyRussianMommy member
    imageShayliz:

    Nope, this board is here to make money for the parent company - not for support. It's the internet, you can't tell people how they can and can't respond to things or how they should or should not act.

    LOL at adding in about how women at one point couldn't vote, like that means we're supposed to hold hands and sing kumbaya together. 

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    imagepinottoparenthood:
    If I need a "good role model" in my life, I'm not coming to the bump to get it. If I need love, emotional support, or understanding, I have real-life friends and family for that. I think maybe some people just need to take it less seriously. It's just an online message board and hundreds of strangers.

    Agreed. 

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  • lindseylovestjlindseylovestj member
    imagelliggins00:

    I just want to know...why is it okay for people to be so quick to pass judgement  on others when they don't know their situation?




    Because it's the internet, & everyone is ten feet tall & bulletproof.:)
    I'm going out on a limb here & saying that 90% of everyone on TB that is always leaving snarky comments are actually wonderful people in the real world. The way I see it, everyone has their opinions, some may not be expressed in a way I would express them, but at the end of the day, you're not going to change someone's mind & honestly, someone else is probably not going to change mine either.
    Reality is, people like the drama...which isn't too far off from the real world, actually now that I think about it! :)
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  • lliggins00lliggins00
    Well I must say that it definitely got some people's attention. We can agree to disagree.  Any how...have a great afternoon!
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  • nmb1179nmb1179
    Have a great afternoon too!  Thanks for your post.  It's too bad people can't see that it was meant with the best of intentions.
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  • ggatlantaggatlanta member

    I hope I'm not the only one looking forward to reading whatever drama got this one all upset!

    Also, tomorrow is my Friday, and I would really love some entertainment. Who is going to provide it? Anyone? Anyone? Party!!!

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  • ggatlantaggatlanta member

    Also, did anyone else notice that the OP GBCBed after this thread, but then suddenly, she found a supporter in nmb1179, who posted an intro in the OP's BMB on the same day?

    Honestly, OP, this thread wasn't so bad that I'd even expect an alter, much less a whole new identity. But I haven't looked for the original one yet... Was it that bad? Not everyone will agree with you, no matter how many new identities you take on.

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  • nmb1179nmb1179
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    Also, did anyone else notice that the OP GBCBed after this thread, but then suddenly, she found a supporter in nmb1179, who posted an intro in the OP's BMB on the same day?

    Honestly, OP, this thread wasn't so bad that I'd even expect an alter, much less a whole new identity. But I haven't looked for the original one yet... Was it that bad? Not everyone will agree with you, no matter how many new identities you take on.

     

    I am not Lila.  Not sure exactly why you thought that, but it's wrong.  I saw a post by Lila in the May 2013 board and went to this board to see what she was talking about and found this thread. 

     Also, you might note that my join date was in 2008.

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  • kfarmer92kfarmer92
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    Agree!  If you dont have anything nice to say/type, then don't bother responding. If you do decide to type something nasty, grow the F up.


    The fourm is for information and support from women going through the same things you are.  There is no reason to be nasty to those who rely on forums like this - maybe they don't live close to friends and family.  


    Telling people to "grow the F up" is pretty nasty.  

     

     



    this! I was thinking the same thing!
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    Oh..
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