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July 2013 Moms
second plus time moms out there
how many of you worried about miscarriage in your previous pregnancies? but didn't end up having one that is. i'm seriously paranoid. even though i have normal symptoms and all, it's hard to get on here and see the women who've lost their babies. plus, my mom could only have me due to eptopic pregnancies and miscarriage. so once you throw in the hormones of pregnancy on top, i'm very worried to say the least. does anyone feel the way i do?
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Re: second plus time moms out there
I had a miscarriage before I had my daughter. I will always worry. It never goes away.
And just for the record, the women here who have had miscarriages have nothing to do with you and your pregnancy. I know that may seem harsh but they don't need to feel like they can't post about their miscarriage because it makes someone else uncomfortable or worried. It's quite insensitive.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I agree, especially with the bolded. I had a miscarriage before my son and even though I've had a successful pregnancy, I'll never be able to fully enjoy a pregnancy again because the fear it always there. Just take your pregnancy day by day and know there isn't a thing in the world you can do to change the outcome of your pregnancy.
It doesn't matter what you said or didn't say about what they post. You stating that you have an issue with it because of how it makes you feel is insensitive. It makes them feel like they can't post about it. Have you had a miscarriage? If you haven't then there is no way you could ever know how it feels. No matter how sympathetic you may think you are there is NO understanding it. You just can't. I hope you never have to understand it but I am just asking you to respectfully not bring your comments about others here miscarrying and how it makes YOU feel to the board. Please keep that particular dialogue to yourself. The only appropriate thing to say to someone is 'I'm sorry for your loss'. Worry is natural but just because they have a miscarriage doesn't mean you will. Their loss has nothing to do with you or your pregnancy.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I had a loss before getting pg with my daughter. It was a missed m/c. This time I am determined to just stay positive. I know it's hard not to think about it but you have to know that you will survive if you have a m/c.
I read my mantra's daily.
* "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."* "I am pregnant until someone tells me otherwise."
* "My past does not dictate my future. A previous m/c does not mean I will have another m/c."--"Just because something sad is happening to another poster, does not mean it will happen to you. We all know m/c and complications are not contagious!
* "Hope does not make bad things happen" You cannot ?jinx? your pregnancy by creating a ticker, getting excited, or telling someone. Live in the positive!
* And this is the hardest one: "There is nothing I can do to prevent a m/c from happening. Worrying yourself sick doesn't prevent a m/c. And if (gods forbid) it were to happen again, I know I will survive."
With my first BFP, I bled the entire time, wasn't that sick, never really got bloated and was pretty sure I was miscarrying or going to miscarry all the time. I now have a healthy beautiful 2 year old.
With my second BFP, no spotting at all, tons of morning sickness, food aversions, the works. Even saw the heartbeat on the first U/S at 8 1/2 weeks. But at my 2nd u/s at almost 12 weeks to check on an ovarian cyst we discovered the baby had no heartbeat.
So with this BFP I am taking everything with a grain of salt. I have had a little spotting, but I'm not getting to worked up over it, I'm also not more relieved when I start getting nauseas.
Its in God's hands.
DD's Food Allergies: Peanuts and Rice, Outgrown Dairy!
8/09 Dx PCOS & Hashimoto's
BFP #2 12/13/11. Missed M/C at 11w5d, measured 8w6d. D&C 2/1/12
Never in my arms, but always in my heart.
No need to jump on her. All she said was that it's hard for her to read them. I'm sure it's hard for everyone to read them, including the person who wrote them.
To OP - everyone's nervous with every pregnancy. i haven't been through a loss so I'm probably a little sunshine & rainbows, but I really believe you should just decide to try to live without that fear. If something happens, fearing it wouldn't have stopped it. I didn't want my baby growing clouded by a spirit of fear, and that starts from day one. Today you are pregnant. Expecting something horrible to happen and dreading it will only make you miss out on enjoying these sweet days of having a secret and getting to bask in the excitement.
I think it's natural to worry some but you have to make a conscious decision not to let it control you. Like others have said, there is nothing you can do one way or the other so it's not healthy to obsess over it. In my first pregnancy I thought about it some but it wasn't at the forefront of my mind. In this one its been a bit different- were were caught off guard with the BFP in the first place. Then I had spotting several times that was a bit concerning. If you happened to read my intro a few days ago you heard my story about my ultrasound. In summary, the gestational sac measured much smaller than how far along we thought I should be and looked to be empty. After a closer look with a vaginal ultrasound they found a heartbeat. With this pregnancy we're just taking it as it comes and hopeful for the best.
When you come to this type of community you're going to see lots of people going through losses. People come here and share their pregnancy news much earlier than they normally would with with their friends/ family/ general public so statistically speaking it's not unusual for their to be so many miscarriages at this stage in the game. That's not to downplay the significance of the loss for those individuals, but my point is not to be so surprised or worried by it.
Agreed.
And to answer your question, yes, I was extremely worried I would miscarry. You just have to remember there is nothing you can do about it and enjoy your pregnancy. Think positive and be happy!
Part of me is worried that since I've already had two uneventful pregnancies resulting in two healthy babies that I'm due for a m/c. That's probably not rational, but that is how I feel. My much higher than last time betas are helping to assuage my fears.
I think it is normal to be a little worried until your baby is safely in your arms.
This exactly. My mom had a m/c before me and my SIL had a m/c before her first but all others have been successful... The waiting is hard, but not much you can do about it other than hope for the best.
This exactly. My mom had a m/c before me and my SIL had a m/c before her first but all others have been successful... The waiting is hard, but not much you can do about it other than hope for the best.