Success after multiple losses?

rosemary&thyme · November 2012

Hi ladies. I hate my post title but couldn't really think of anything more appropriate. I searched back a few pages to see if this had been discussed but didn't see it anywhere. Basically, I came here looking for some hope. My husband and I have been struggling with IF+loss for over two years now (and TTC for 3+.) After 3 failed IVFs, I switched REs and finally got pregnant on my 4th IVF. Unfortunately, last week's u/s did not look too good. I go in for another u/s on Thursday but am already preparing, once again, for the worst. If so, it will be our 5th loss (two cp, two D&C and then whatever ends up happening with this one.)

Has anyone here had multiple losses (more than two) followed by a successful pregnancy? I know everyone is pregnant and hasn't given birth, but I guess success can be defined however you see fit. We've gone through an infinite amount of testing to no avail. Everything looks "fine." I'm looking for some hope or some crazy ideas as to how to keep my body pregnant if and when there is a next time. Or...when do we just throw in the towel?

Thank you, in advance, for sharing your stories and huge positive thoughts and energy to those of you who have made it through some awful times to get here.

Mac0417 · November 2012

I am really sorry for your losses... My neighbor had 5 losses (2 stillborns, 3 miscarriages including a twin loss) and went on to have 5 healthy kids. I can't remember the order of her losses, but I think she lost a few, had a few, etc.. Not exactly what you want to hear, but she also had a clotting disease. My good friend from college lost her baby at 20 weeks and got pregnant 2 months later with a beautiful healthy (full-term) boy. Everything went great! Good luck and keep us updated. I will be praying for you during your u/s on Thursday.

ShellBear+ · November 2012

I'm so sorry for all you have been through. I have had 3 losses but didn't have issues getting pregnant. All were first trimester and I had testing done which didn't turn up any issues. I am not a success story yet but things are going well so far and I had a hard time imagining I would ever get to this point. I felt like it would never happen. Multiple losses are so incredibly hard to handle and I can't imagine all of the ivf's on top of it. Many hugs to you.

The only thing I did extra was take progesterone when I got my bfp. I had also done that the last two pregnancies though. I also made alot of health changes and tried accupuncture. Who knows what really helped though. I suspect it was always an chromosome abnormality and this time I just got lucky.

I don't know what happened with your u/s but don't give up hope. T&P that things turn around.

BeautyfromAshes · November 2012

I'm so sorry for your many losses. I've had three myself, but my first pregnancy was healthy and I carried twins to term. Since then I've had two miscarriages and a stillborn at 20 weeks.

So far, this pregnancy has gone well, but it is ridden with anxiety and worry, and I don't think I will truly breathe until the baby is here alive and well.

The only thing I did differently with this pregnancy is I started on progesterone right away until about 13 weeks. They aren't sure if I really needed it or not, it was just a precaution and I was glad to do it.

So sorry your road has been so hard and long. Hopefully you will get some answers and your take home baby very soon!

Fitnessteach2010 · November 2012

Im pretty sure I posted something similar last week. I've had 3 m/c'sno issues getting pg, but pregnancies never seem to progress accordingly.

I'm going to my first appointment tomorrow and I'm so scared. Good luck I feel your pain

Gregermis · November 2012

oh sweetie ((hugs))... This is my 5th pregnancy (we also struggled with IF+loss) and so far so good. I'll be 14 wks tomorrow

pb&fluff · November 2012

(((hugs))) I'll be thinking of you, R&T. Please keep us updated.

Lillmommy121 · November 2012

Hi, I had 3 early mc's before my 2nd daughter was born beautiful, and healthy. Ironically her older sister was the surprise of my life, I never would have imagined that I'd have trouble ttc, or carrying a baby to term. It was about 3 years from the time we decided to have another baby, and the time we found out we were pregnant with Lilly. I had given up, and decided to focus on the child that we allready had. It was really really hard. Not to sound horrible but somehow at the same time everyone around me was pregnant or had just had a baby, it just made it hard. Had a few more issues since then, now I'm pregnant again, this is a high risk pregancy for the first trimester I went to my first ultrasound alone and didn't hear what I wanted too, they were watching my labs, called me in for an ultrasound that day and my husband was at work, I didn't have time to plan a support person to go, it was horrible, but we had better news on the follow up, which was not expected, sometimes things just work out, maybe this time it's your turn. Good luck!!

SunshinyLees · November 2012

Hun, I am so incredibly sorry for everything you've been through. This is my third time pregnant this year but I was just diagnosed with a septate uterus so chances of miscarriage are high unfortunately. I have asked a few success questions such as yours on the Parenting after Loss board and the women who could relate to my story were quick to answer. I would definitely recommend copying and pasting this thread over there as there are definitely ladies there with success stories after multiple miscarriages. Anyway I hope things work out for you and this LO sweetie. Huge ((( hugs ))) xoxo

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