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October 2011 Moms
btsrc5
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Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
moms of 2+
btsrc5
member
What did you do with your other LOs when you went into labor and were in the hospital?
It just hit me that sometime in June or so, I will be going into labor... and I have NO idea what I am going to do with DD. I don't have any family who can care for her and my daycare provider is pg and due in May, so I dont think we could ask her to babysit for us when she has a newborn (I have not even started to think about WTH we are going to do when she has her baby... that is a whole different issue).
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
BFP 02/02/16 EDD 10/16/16
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Re: moms of 2+
DD stayed with my mom who lives 1/4 mile away. Thank goodness too because DS was a preemie and spent time in the NICU and I have no idea what I would have done if I had to worry about DD as well as deal with ll the issues we had with DS.
Is there family that can come in when you do have LO2? Maybe you can leave DD with a babysitter until that person comes in? Otherwise your DH may have to stay with her.
Im sorry! That's a lot of uncertainty and I can imagine how stressed you are about it.
That's one of my biggest fears about getting pregnant again. My parents are 2.5 hours away, DH's are 1 hour away. We have two couples that we're good friends with, one set has two kids of their own and lives half an hour away. The other set would be perfect, but they're planning on moving way out into the boonies in the next year or so. DH's brother and sister are unreliable and have crazy schedules.
Lily was born 4.5 hours after I first noticed contractions. If it really is true that subsequent labours go faster, we're not going to have much time to get someone to care for her. I have this horrible feeling that DH is going to have to be with her and I'll be giving birth all alone.
Do you have any friends in the area? Another mother who you could offer to help out with her child care in a similar situation?
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
my parents live two hours away but they both work. I also can't really trust my mom to keep dd for more than a couple hours because she is not very attentive (she would just fall asleep on the couch while she was 'watching' dd). ILs have basically chosen not to be a part of our lives at this point and DD does not know them at all.
I guess I have a few months to try to figure something out. I am just not sure what to do. I would prefer for DD to be able to stay in our house since she will probably have a hard enough time without me (and DH?) there, but I just don't know who would be able to take care of her for us
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
BFP 02/02/16 EDD 10/16/16
DD arrived really quickly as well... had to have an ambulance meet me to get me to the hosp in time.
Most of my friends have moved away... and the ones that are here, I dont know that they could drop everything and care for DD. I dont know? I will have to talk to DH about it and see what he thinks
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
BFP 02/02/16 EDD 10/16/16
With Levi I had my mom here to watch our oldest, When I was pregnant last time we had planned on having his brother drive up when I was in labor or induced.
ANd if all else failed DH would bring levi and dylan with us (if it was a short thing) and then take the children home after I gave birth.
Do you have any neighbors? My neighbors moved here from Colorado earlier this year and don't have any family nearby. They have an 18 month old and she's recently pregnant. I already volunteered to watch the older one if she needs to head to hospital. We're not really "friends" and we don't spend any real time together, but I figured we were a safe bet for her since we're not murders, we have our own kid so we know what to do, and she knows where we live.
We had my parents come a couple days before my scheduled c/s to care for DS. Before I knew I was having a c/s, I was in the same boat as you. I don't know if you have this type of service by you, but I contacted a doula service who also had doulas that would come and stay with your child when you went into labor. I also compiled a list of friends/babysitters that agreed to help out if needed and they were available. Do you have any sitters that you could count on?
ETA: I think even if you ask friends that you think may not be able to drop everything, sometimes they're more willing than you think. My friend even told her work that she might be unavailable some days because she was "on call" for my labor. When it comes to a baby, people are willing to bend over backwards!
And congrats on #2! I'm not on TB as much anymore, so I didn't see your "I'm pregnant!" post if you posted one.
We are fortunate enough to have family near by but I have already talked to a good friend who I trust who also happens to live several blocks away about coming to stay with Olivia should we need to go to the hospital quickly. I would see if you could find maybe another mom who you trust to either come over and stay with your LO or whose house you could take your LO too.
I want the grandparents to be able to be at the hospital if they want to so I was glad to find a friend who could keep Olivia for a little while. We work together so she can't stay during the work day but Olivia will be at daycare so that shouldn't be an issue. If this friend couldn't do it, I would probably find a babysitter or two (or three) that you like who could agree to be on call come June. Between 2 sitters, hopefully you could get by long enough to deliver the baby and then your DH could take over.