Do you worry about bullying when DS/DD start school?
My DS1 is 3 and will be 4 next year. I find myself worrying about him being bullied a lot when he starts school. There are some kids in our complex that get along fine sometimes, but I have seen them pushing each other and yelling, and even once "punching" the other. I know some boys rough-house, but this is not how my son plays. He's very loving and I just think if some kid pushed him he'd burst into tears.
DH says that he doesn't think kids will pick on DS1 because he's so big, which is probably true because when he turned 3 he was the size of the average 5 year old, but I just worry. It would break my heart if he was being picked on/bullied. Then, I worry that these kids will teach him to play mean. Does anyone else find themselves worrying about these things?
Re: Do you worry about bullying when DS/DD start school?
That's how my son is. He doesn't really go to daycare, and when he did it was only 1 day a week, so he hasn't socialized much. He is more apprehensive, though. Whenever we would pick him up from daycare, he'd be sitting by himself, eating a snack while the other children were either playing or at another table. I felt bad. However, he's a hugger, and as you said, many kids don't like that.
My kid has glasses and a peanut allergy. I worry about this all the time. Unfortunately being short is genetically in the future too. I may as well paint a bullseye on him. I hope ican be an involved in school and work with the teachers.
But who knows, my kid could end up being the one who is doing the bullying which is a challenge too.
I also think that social media has changed bullying from when we were kids...it is very easy to hide behind the internet & be mean to other kids when you're in your own bedroom & don't have to deal with being face to face...(kinda like snarkiness on TB to be honest--- ppl would never talk to each other IRL like they do on here). In our day, there was teasing but bullying was thought of more as the physical stuff- now the bullying is much more psychological.
I already had to have a talk with my DD when she was not even 3 about saying that's not nice, I am not going to play that & walking away from the almost 4 yr ld girls in her class when they called her a baby or tried to make her play mommy & baby and acted like she couldn't walk or talk b/c she was 'still only 2'... so yeah ,I worry about it but not based on my kids' personality, just b/c kids have to deal with that & it was already making me sad for her before age 3! But I also worry about my kids ending up being bullies or in a crowd that bullies too...at this point I don't know if their personalities will change a bit or who they'll end up being friends with, etc. I do hope they stand up for each other though.
I do worry... on both spectrums.
When I was young I got teased due to my small gap in my teeth.
Alexa has a VERY big gap like her dad had that closed once he had his wisdom teeth grow in.
But when I told my mom I was worried about her being bullied on, my mom says she's more afraid she's going to be the bully.
God forbid I allow my child to be a bully. Nip that in the bud real quick.