Starting over

Acdett24 · September 2012

Our son just started kindergarten this year and we are now TTC. Is there anyone else out there doing the same thing or are we crazy for having such a big gap?

kllrbnny · September 2012

DS 1 and DD are 4 years and a few months apart. DD will be 5 the month that DS 2 is due. I kind of dig the gap.

angelchild24 · September 2012

DD is starting 1st grade tomorrow, and we are TTC now. It wasn't my plan to have a huge gap, but I don't mind it. It will mean not having 2 kids in diapers, and paying double for child care!

Kaeldrasmommy · September 2012

We have a 13 yo, soon to be 12 yo, and a nine month old. Now that's a crazy gap.

heyitsme · September 2012

We did the same thing. My DS was born a few months into my daughter's 1st grade year. They are 6 years apart. In some ways, the age gap makes things easier... in other ways, it makes it crazier. I think that's the case with any age gap, though. It is what you make it. We weren't done at 1 but couldn't afford 2 in daycare so that was a big part of our spacing.

Luvmy2sons · September 2012

My DD was born when DS was almost done with Kindergarten. It's not crazy. I have found he is genuinely helpful, getting things, setting table, clearing table, etc - where a 1/2 y/o can't do that. I love the age gap.

Littlejen22 · September 2012

My SD is 22, DS is 5 and DD is 3! And SD was living with us until I was PG with DD. Have another kid if you want one but I will say that most of my friend with that big a gap wih their siblings are not close to their siblings, me included.

Jinsy80 · September 2012

I would like both girls in school FT before having baby #3. I'm not thrilled with the potential age difference between DD1 and the new baby...could be 8 years. I'm fine with the 5 year difference though.

Lotsofloveandkids · September 2012

DD2 is 8 and my DS is 1. It's a big age gap but it let us prepare for having another.

neverblushed · September 2012

My next door neighbor's kids are 7 years apart. It really worked for them. We moved in when the kids were in K and 6th grade. I was surprised at how close these two siblings were at nearly every stage. I can remember big sis teaching her younger brother to ride his bike. Another funny memory is when she was going to prom and he was in middle school. He was the photographer when all the kids got into the limo. So cute!

Now, the oldest is out of grad school and married. The youngest is a sophomore in college. They're almost both adults.

myca1984 · September 2012

I feel so weird about starting all over. I am happy about having another baby I just want my 8 year old to adjust well to it due to the fact she has been an only child all her life. Any tips on how to help her adjust

UberBiz · September 2012

I'm terrified of starting over! My daughter is 7 and I wanted kids close in age, but me and her father split when she was 1. I'd been single til about a year ago. My FI's daughter is 3 now, so it was difficult enough for me to go from having a 6yr old at the time and then have to go back to having a 2yr old without going through the infant stages. I got so frustrated!

I'm excited to have a tiny baby again, but I'm not gonna lie, I'm not looking forward to going through that toddler stage. My daughter is old enough where I don't have to carry her, she doesn't cry at everything anymore, she's independent, can change her clothes and wipe her butt on her own, etc. etc... now to go back and do it all over again, I'm sure it will be a shock. If it was just her and a new baby, the gap maybe would bother me, but with the 3yr old in between, it doesn't seem so bad.

My mom had 5 of us within 8 yrs so me and my siblings are all really close and I like being closer in age to them.

teenandtot · September 2012

This is my first time on this board and I just wanted to chime in and say that DS is 13 and I'm pregnant and due in December. Sometimes I worry about the gap but for the most part I just roll with the punches. We'll be fine. So will you.

NotSharknado · September 2012

I have a 12 year old and a 1 year old. Dh and I were concerned too but it works nicely for us. We are very comfortable with the age gap.

fsumom · September 2012

My DD just started kindergarten as well and my Dh and I are ttc. I feel that the age gap will be nice as DD will really understand that she's going to be a big sister.

ginanate210 · September 2012

Ds1 is 8 dd is 7 ds2 is 5 and im due dec.02

cjbelk · September 2012

DS just turned 5 last Friday. Last Monday got surprise BFP. I wondered the same thing but when I told DS he started talking about all the things he was gonna help the baby learn (walking, talking, playing the Wii - LOL). He was so cute! It will be fine. If you are crazy- then you are among friends!

Good Luck TTC!

lollitots · September 2012

Kaeldrasmommy:
We have a 13 yo, soon to be 12 yo, and a nine month old. Now that's a crazy gap.

Built-in babysitter. Makes sense to me.

cotelarson2012 · October 2012

My daughter just started kindergarten and we decided to have a baby. The kids are old enought to understand and help out. I think the gap helps for when they are both in school because then they don't have to share things like school or bus. It also allows them to be individuals and not depend on one another. I grew up with everyone recognizing me as my older brother's little sister as if I didn't have a name except "little sister."

peacelove&mama · November 2012

SD is 9, DS is 6, and I'm due next month. I'm perfectly ok with the gap, the older two are pretty independent and very willing to be my helpers with their baby brother so they say right now, anyways.

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