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So, more issues...

rebeccarouse27rebeccarouse27 member
in May 2012 Moms
As most of you know from my last posts, I have an absolute horrible relationship with my boyfriends mom now. After dealing with her nasty remarks and posting a status on facebook (that I was told on for by one of her many spies) things have just gotten worse. Today was her neighbors sons first birthday party, (she is my age, with 2 boys and lives at home with her parents, kids & boyfriend, not judging btw.) but I went anyway knowing it wasn't going to be much fun for me. I sat with a smile on my face during the whole party and got ignored. By everyone. MIL didn't say a word to me or my kids. Neither did her husband. I felt like a complete idiot. Halloween got postponed in our area due to hurricane Sandy, and usually we go to her house with the kids but I figured with all the bs going on between her and I that we would do our own thing, but she's relentless and made it known that Wednesday we are going to her house to show off the baby..uhh what? I'm so glad these decisions are made without me. So what am I supposed to do, go there, to HER house, sit there awkwardly and get ignored all night?? I DON'T THINK SO! I am absolutely beside myself with this. What am I supposed to do? She told my boyfriend that if I had a problem I had to go to her, and everyday when she calls him (eye roll) she says how much she misses me and the kids since we haven't been going over e v e r y Sunday... well I'm 110% sure he made that up. It's obvious that this is bothering me and bf keeps asking whats wrong, but anytime I bring it up he just gets mad so I tell him I'm fine. How am I supposed to deal with this? I keep looking into the future and all I see is more fighting and our relationship going down the pooper. I mean she said nothing to me, not hi, not bye, nothing. Didn't ask the kids about school, nothing. Half of me wants to scream and lose my cool and the other half just wants to curl up in a ball and cry. I hate her, I really hate this woman. She's just such a witch. I can't keep doing this! What do I do??? :( 
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Re: So, more issues...

  • sapgirl76sapgirl76 member
    You got some good advice in your last thread about this. Your options seem to be:
    1. Change nothing. You'll be miserable until she dies because she's not going to go away and why should she change if she's getting everything she wants.
    2. Do that she says and talk to her about it. If my MIL treated me the way yours does I'd absolutely call her on it and let her know I won't tolerate it. If she wants to see LO she can damn well play nice.
    3. Leave. Seriously, leave. You said jn your other thread that you and your bf have a good relationship other than this but the fact that he gets mad at you when you're upset about his mother's mistreatment of you tells me he's not the kind of guy I'd want to spend the rest if my life with. As another poster pointed out, you have s bf problem, not a mil problem.

    Good luck and I'm sorry you're going through this.
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  • bellelambbellelamb member
    Everything pp said. Until you stand up for yourself nothing will change. It's a hard thing to do but you either have to learn to live with it or do something about it.
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  • kgaunttkgauntt member
    I agree with the PPs... I am very sorry you are still having issues...
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  • Jess & DrewJess & Drew member

    imagesapgirl76:
    You got some good advice in your last thread about this. Your options seem to be: 1. Change nothing. You'll be miserable until she dies because she's not going to go away and why should she change if she's getting everything she wants. 2. Do that she says and talk to her about it. If my MIL treated me the way yours does I'd absolutely call her on it and let her know I won't tolerate it. If she wants to see LO she can damn well play nice. 3. Leave. Seriously, leave. You said jn your other thread that you and your bf have a good relationship other than this but the fact that he gets mad at you when you're upset about his mother's mistreatment of you tells me he's not the kind of guy I'd want to spend the rest if my life with. As another poster pointed out, you have a bf problem, not a mil problem. Good luck and I'm sorry you're going through this.

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