Lurker with a question

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• Ooglybear member

  November 2012

  Does your son need a passport for the trip? I believe you need both parents' signature for that (I could be wrong). 

  Honestly, you're not just taking him out of state; you're taking him out of the country. Does your CO address this at all? I don't know if you are legally obligated to tell him, but I definitely think you should. 

  If he tells you no, ask for his reasoning and listen. Then if you disagree with him/think his reasons are wrong, consult with an attorney to see what options you have. 

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• Marksmommy321 member

  November 2012

  He doesn't need a passport just his birth certificate with the raised seal.

  It unfortunetly does not address this. All we ever discussed was his regular visitation and holiday visitation.

  I think I may just tell him anyway just so I can keep the peace.

  I really hope he doesn't say no.

  Thank You!

   

  

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• lookame3639 member

  November 2012

  Let him know and give him a general itinerary. In the itinerary state where you'll be staying phone numbers you and DS can be reached at in case of emergency activities you and DS will be doing(example being if the cruise stops somewhere put the day you'll be porting and where) basically let your X know your being considerate enough of him that you want him to know Ds will be safe and if he needs to you can be reached.

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• Marksmommy321 member

  November 2012

  thats a really good idea. I didnt even think of that!

  Thank you

  

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• jaded99 member

  November 2012

  My daughters dad is deceased, but on one of two cruises I've taken her on I was asked for a letter from him giving consent.  Fortunately I had planned ahead and brought his death certificate.

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• Holly_1007 member

  November 2012

  firstly, I would triple check that he doesn't need a passport. secondly, I would write up a letter to XH, state the dates you will be gone, any flight info if necessary, where you will be going on shore, the emergency contact number for the cruise line etc.  keep it straightforward, if he gets it into his head that he thinks he can stop you (although legally I'm not positive that he can) then he might try.But, if you approach it like, "hey, this is what is going to happen, I thought I would be considerate and give you the info" then he is less likely to cause a problem
  

                         
                        
  
  

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• Marksmommy321 member

  November 2012

  Thank you ladies! I'm definetly going to let him know and make sure I have everything printed out so I can give it to him. I think I'm going to have a letter printed out saying that he gives his consent to go and have it signed just so I can cover all my bases so there arn't any fights.

  Thank you for all of your help

  

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• simplaw215 member

  November 2012

  Also a lurker, but you should really check whether you'll need more than just a signed letter.  I remember when I was under 18 and my mom tried to take me out of the country, she needed a signed letter from my father stating that he authorized her to take me out of the country departing on a specific date and returning on a specific date.  The letter also had to be notarized.  The airline worker would not allow me on the plane without it (and insisted I would not be allowed into the other country without one) but no one at our destination ever asked for it.  It may depend on your destination, but this would be required regardless of what your CO says.  Good luck!

  

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• Marksmommy321 member

  November 2012

  I called the cruise line and they said he does not need a pass port because it is a "closed loop" cruise. Basically we are going and coming from the same US port. We are going to be flying. is there anything special that i need for that?

  

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• twister22 member

  November 2012

  jaded99:

  My daughters dad is deceased, but on one of two cruises I've taken her on I was asked for a letter from him giving consent.  Fortunately I had planned ahead and brought his death certificate.

  If you have your child's BC and they see two parents listed on the BC who aren't married, they will often ask for the letter of consent from the other parents, since cruises are often out of the country (private island, Bahamas, etc.) If you have a passport they will not ask for the letter of consent because both parents have to sign for a child to have a passport, and it is then assumed that both parents consent to the child traveling out of the country. 

  
  

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• Marksmommy321 member

  November 2012

  His father and I were not married when he was born. So I defineetly need to get one. I just hope he doesn't refuse to sign it.

  Thank you ladies for all of your help I really appriciate it!

  

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• risadawn

  November 2012

  I don't know all the details on your relationship with XH and how well you guys get along, but I would certainly inform him of the trip.  You don't want it to come back and bite you later or him call the police claiming kidnapping and have a huge mess.  The ladies have given some great advice on how to handle the situation.  Hope he doesn't cause a problem, because it'll be fun for your little guy!

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• Marksmommy321 member

  November 2012

  We get along for the sake of DS but thats really it.  I'm 100% going to tell him. Like you said I dont want to come home to a huge mess saying i kidnapped him or anything. I really appriciate everyones advice.

  I really hope he doesnt give me any problems. It's a Disney cruise and DS LOVES Mickey!

  

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