MIL issues

crystalknpp · November 2012

My MIL and I don't exactly have the best relationship to begin with but since DS has been born she has been giving me a ton of unsolicited advice and criticism. DS is 2 months old and she insists he is sleeping entirely to much and that I need to keep him up more during the day. My feeling is if he's tired and wants to sleep I'm going to let him sleep! We went to their house yesterday for a visit and B always falls asleep during a car ride and plus we fed him right before we left so he had a very full tummy. She got mad that when we got to her house he was sleeping and I wouldn't let her wake him up. She then continued to stand over his car seat calling his name and touching his face to try and wake him. I snapped and say "Please just let him sleep. He will wake up when he is ready"

Eventually I took him out of the car seat while he was still asleep and let her hold him. He continued to stay asleep for the next 2hrs and woke up hungry. DS has been fussy lately with feedings and their is a certain routine I have that seems to be working well. She asked to feed him and I explained that I'd rather do it because he's been tough to feed lately and that she could hold him when I was done. She then proceeded to roll her eyes etc. and make side comments here and there for the rest of the time we were there. She wonders why I haven't asked them to babysit yet?!?!

VeilSdeGTO · November 2012

Wow, I'm sorry your MIL is so clueless. I hope you dont have to see her that often.

crystalknpp · November 2012

VeilSdeGTO:
Wow, I'm sorry your MIL is so clueless. I hope you dont have to see her that often.

I wish that was the case. She insists on seeing the baby every few days. The longest she has gone since he's been born was a week. When he first was born she would just show up at my house but I've since then made it clear she has to call first. There have been a few times where she's wanted to come over and it just wasn't a good time so I told her no but maybe another day. So she called my husband at work and asked him. Luckily I talked to him before she did so he knew what the situation was. It's very very aggravating!

adoxyinherear · November 2012

Ugh, that's awful. I am so sorry she's being so rude.

Junebug060609 · November 2012

Stand your ground and set boundaries now. You know what is best for your baby and you are the one facing the consequences if lo doesn't sleep right.

mundayem · November 2012

I agree with the PP, set boundaries now. She needs to understand you are the mother and what you say goes whether she likes it or not. D slept constantly at 2 months, they are supposed to. Maybe I'm a b!tch but I don't tolerate people messing with my kid, I don't care who they are.

Junebug060609 · November 2012

If it's any help, when my ILs wanted to wake D up at that age I was a smartass and told them to go right ahead...that I'd be happy to come get them at 2am to deal with the consequences of him being overtired.

Strangely they never woke him up ;

cmumama · November 2012

Junebug060609:
If it's any help, when my ILs wanted to wake D up at that age I was a smartass and told them to go right ahead...that I'd be happy to come get them at 2am to deal with the consequences of him being overtired. Strangely they never woke him up ;

LOL...this is how I act around my IL's. They drive me crazy. Luckily I don't see them much. Since I have 2 sons, my goal in life is to not be like my MIL.

I am sorry you have to see her so much and deal with that though. I have to agree with pp's...set boundaries and get your husband to talk to her.

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