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TTC After a Loss
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Hi everyone!
I've been reading posts on this board and think it's so amazing how supportive you all are of one another.
Long story short, I had a dc on 9/24 due to a blighted ovum. I went in for my first ultrasound when I should have been 9 weeks and there was nothing but a gestational sac which they dated at 5 weeks 4 days. I was beyond devastated. I started my AF on 10/24.
I feel so frustrated that we're back where we started, TTC all over again. Some days I feel sad, others angry and some I feel OK. I know it's all "normal" but I hate the feeling of being in limbo right now. It's also been hard because in the month and a half since this happened I have found out about two coworkers who are pregnant. It's just tough to be around that on a regular basis like that. On friday one of them told me,"don't worry, your time will come." I get that but its really not something I wanted to hear. I was doing fine and holding it together until she said that but then I lost it and had a hard time pulling myself back together. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this... I didn't realize how much I needed to vent. :
I've been reading posts on this board and think it's so amazing how supportive you all are of one another.
Long story short, I had a dc on 9/24 due to a blighted ovum. I went in for my first ultrasound when I should have been 9 weeks and there was nothing but a gestational sac which they dated at 5 weeks 4 days. I was beyond devastated. I started my AF on 10/24.
I feel so frustrated that we're back where we started, TTC all over again. Some days I feel sad, others angry and some I feel OK. I know it's all "normal" but I hate the feeling of being in limbo right now. It's also been hard because in the month and a half since this happened I have found out about two coworkers who are pregnant. It's just tough to be around that on a regular basis like that. On friday one of them told me,"don't worry, your time will come." I get that but its really not something I wanted to hear. I was doing fine and holding it together until she said that but then I lost it and had a hard time pulling myself back together. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this... I didn't realize how much I needed to vent. :
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I'm so sorry for your loss! You're right, those feelings are completely normal. Unfortunately you'll feel that way for awhile. Your bad days won't be as often, but they'll definitely show up. We're here for you when they do! You'll also here a lot of insensitive comments from people who don't know what to say. You'll learn to roll your eyes, ignore them, then come here and wish a throat punch on them!
Welcome to the board. (((HUGS)))
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BFP #4: 9/3/14, EDD: 5/16/15, Missed M/C: 10/6/14 @ 8 weeks 2 days, D&C: 10/8/14
Never in our arms, forever in our hearts
So sorry for your loss. I've realized that people never really know the right thing to say. They always try to give a positive answer like "maybe the time just wasn't right" or "maybe it was a blessing in disguise" when really all I needed to hear was "I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through, how can I help you get through this?"
I too am new to the board and am so appreciative there are women who can empathize with what I've been through, and that they are thoughtful enough to share their stories and kind words. Even my family and best friends cannot bring me comfort, though I know they try, they just can't understand what this feels like.
Wishing you the best, and welcome.
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I know what you mean, it is the worst that people don't say anything at all or say inappropriate things. Nothing is going to give you your baby back. I am rigth with you, save the "it was meant to be" or "god had a different plant for you", I am sorry that you have to deal with these kind of people.
I am sorry that you have to be here but welcome to the board. I am also new and so far this board has some great ladies here for support. I hope you find comfort here and our stay is short and sweet.
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This board is full of amazing women who have been where you are. TTCAL is a rough journey and its important to always have a listening ear. I've found that here.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. One thing I think we all take out of this experience is the proper way to console someone who is grieving. Say you are sorry, but don't try to find a "bright" side! I'm sorry that you are having to face all of this. Welcome to the board.
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Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry you had to lose your little one. Your post above is exactly how I feel, too, (I know that doesnt change anything, but hopefully it keeps you from feeling alone). I hope your stay here is short and sweet:-)