DH issue with Crib/Nursery Transition

crystalknpp · November 2012

DS is a very noisy sleeper. He's constantly grunting, cooing and occasionally crying in his sleep. I've been putting him in his crib/nursery during the day for a couple of his naps or when I need to do something noisy like vacuum or blow dry my hair so I can watch him on the monitor. He does really well in the crib and really likes to be able to stretch out. One night after a feeding he was wide awake and did not want to go back to sleep so after feeding, changing and burping him I put him in the crib and turned on his monitor and went to sleep. After "talking" and fussing for a bit he fell asleep for 4hrs. When DH woke up the next morning and saw that I put Ben in his crib he got mad at me. He does not want to transition him to his own room until Ben is consistently rolling over on his own. DH is scared he will spit up and choke and we wont hear him.

DS's nursery is the bedroom right next door to ours and we have a video monitor so I can see and hear him. I personally think DS and myself and DH would sleep better if DS sleeps in his own room. I'm sure us moving around at night wakes him just as much as I wake up at every little noise he makes. Plus he's only 2 months old and already 12lbs and 23 inches long. He sleeps in the RnP right now but isn't going to fit in it much longer. I've heard from so many people that transitioning their LO from the RnP to a crib was tough because they waited to long and their LO didn't adjust well to all the extra room in the crib. So my question is WWYD? Do you think I'm right in wanting to transition him or is DH right that it's to soon? I have a crib wedge so even when LO is in his crib he is elevated slightly and not flat on his back.

Junebug060609 · November 2012

I don't think this is a question that any of us can really answer. Do what is right for your situation and your family.

FWIW, I transitioned at 4 months bc we were in a vicious cycle of waking one another up (DH was really sick and was snoring a lot, which woke DS up, which woke me up, which then woke DH up when I'd get out of bed to deal with the baby...nobody was sleeping). It wasn't the recommended 6 months, but it was right for our family and we haven't looked back. DS had zero trouble moving from bassinet to crib.

VeilSdeGTO · November 2012

I kept DD in our room for almost a year!! DH wanted to move her at 2 months and I just wasn't ready. She transitioned to the crib without any problems. She did take naps in her crib starting at 6 months, so it wasn't totally foreign. You just have to do what feels best for your family.

xleslieraex · November 2012

M was in his crib from day 5, so if that is a hang up I don't think it should be. I used the moniter for about a month, then DH wanted me to turn it off. DS was a noisy sleeper and we could hear him through the wall. Like pp said, it is your call. Do what is best for your family. Good luck.

HElizabethDU · November 2012

We moved DD at 8 weeks. I couldn't take how loud she was, I would wake up at every noise. We had an angel care monitor, and it helped ease my mind a bit. But also I have the type of personality where I feel like you can't worry about every single thing that might happen or else you will never get to enjoy having a newborn etc.

charmedgrl517 · November 2012

Well last night was DDs first night in her room but in her RnP not crib. So far so good. I wanted her to get used to sleeping in her room before we attempt crib transition and I wanted to get her in her room before I gk back to work so I'm not waking her up. Plus DH has been sleeping on the couch since he snores so loud. It will be nice to have him back in bed lol

SouthernBellaKS · November 2012

I agree that you ultimately have to do what is right for you guys; however, that being said, I'm of the mind that if my LO were down with being in the crib, that's where he'd be sleeping. And it's mainly because he also grunts in his sleep all night, which then instantly wakes me up because I'm such a light sleeper.

Have you thought about maybe investing in a Snuza Halo/Hero? That might help your DH feel more comfortable because it's a motion monitor that clips directly to the diaper. I know for me it gave me a huge peace of mind even with DS in our room.

adoxyinherear · November 2012

Is there a real threat of a baby spitting up and choking in their sleep? I guess I've never heard that before. I'm not sure what would be best... maybe you could talk to your pediatrician? GL! Disagreeing with DH about parenting stuff is the worst.

crystalknpp · November 2012

RusalkaSings:
Is there a real threat of a baby spitting up and choking in their sleep? I guess I've never heard that before. I'm not sure what would be best... maybe you could talk to your pediatrician? GL! Disagreeing with DH about parenting stuff is the worst.

DH has it in his head that if B spits up in his sleep and he's on his back and can't roll over that he will choke. He feels more comfortable with DS in our room because then we would be able to hear him. The funny thing is DH is such a heavy sleeper that DS fussing and crying doesn't even wake him up so the odds of him waking up because DS is coughing or choking is pretty much slim to none. I on the other hand can be in our bedroom and I'll hear DS fussing in the living room even without the monitor. For me it's much easier to wake up from him fussing and look at the monitor and know he's ok then jumping out of bed to turn the light on and walk over to check on him.

Karen1998 · November 2012

Can you move the crib into your room? We transitioned from the RnP to the crib at about 5m, but we didn't move him out of our room until closer to 7m. DS was the same size as your LO.

I agree with other PPers about you having to do what's right for your family. You and your DH both need to be comfortable with the decision and solution.

One thought on moving him to another room - do you have, or have you considered, a monitor such as the Angelcare monitor that monitors breathing? You can use it in addition to your other monitor and it may give you the peace of mind you both need to sleep peacefully.

Karen1998 · November 2012

crystalknpp:
RusalkaSings:
Is there a real threat of a baby spitting up and choking in their sleep? I guess I've never heard that before. I'm not sure what would be best... maybe you could talk to your pediatrician? GL! Disagreeing with DH about parenting stuff is the worst.
DH has it in his head that if B spits up in his sleep and he's on his back and can't roll over that he will choke. He feels more comfortable with DS in our room because then we would be able to hear him. The funny thing is DH is such a heavy sleeper that DS fussing and crying doesn't even wake him up so the odds of him waking up because DS is coughing or choking is pretty much slim to none. I on the other hand can be in our bedroom and I'll hear DS fussing in the living room even without the monitor. For me it's much easier to wake up from him fussing and look at the monitor and know he's ok then jumping out of bed to turn the light on and walk over to check on him.

This reminded me of something - when we first moved DS into his crib, I used the monitor to help me see him at night. He was 4-5 feet from me and in our room, but it was less sleep-disturbing to look at the monitor rather than getting up, shining a light into his crib and looking at him. We already had the monitor set up anyway, so I figured it was a good use of technology.

I can tell you that I did eventually sleep better (as did DH) once we moved DS into his own room. It took me a while to get there though. Plus, I had to learn to deal with the monitor being down quieter. I'm a pretty heavy sleeper (even with a kid) and learned to tune out the little noises he made, so I was very worried that I'd miss something important. I finally realized that I wouldn't. You'd be amazed at how fast I've flown out of bed when he coughs or makes anything similar to a choking noise.

melly918 · November 2012

We had DS in a RnP in our bedroom until he was too big for it, about 2.5 months. We moved him into his crib in his room next door and never looked back. There is no right or wrong time or place to transition. Some will put the baby in the crib in the nursery right after they get home from the hospital. It is all just a matter of comfort and preference.

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