Hurricane

Re: Hurricane

• CurlyQ284 member

  November 2012

  We live 8 hours from BM and the kids, but I have offered to have her and her BF stay if they want to spend Christmas with the girls on our year they always decline, but my door is open. Or course I would offer if power was out. Poor kiddo :

  
  

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• Jessys_Girl

  November 2012

  there was a gas leak at BM's house the other day and their power got shut off for the day/night to fix it.  Without hesitation I called BM and said "Hey, I'll swing by at 5 to pick up the kids.  You need anything?  I' can run by the grocery store on my way".  Why would someone NOT take care of their child in an emergency like that???

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• Kaeldrasmommy member

  November 2012

  Jessys_Girl:

  there was a gas leak at BM's house the other day and their power got shut off for the day/night to fix it.  Without hesitation I called BM and said "Hey, I'll swing by at 5 to pick up the kids.  You need anything?  I' can run by the grocery store on my way".  Why would someone NOT take care of their child in an emergency like that???

  Exactly this! I know that there are usually hard feelings involved, but I can't imagine that anyone would let that get in the way of something the kids need. And I know a lot of the ladies on here would extend that to the ex as well. I know I have.

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• xmaryrickx member

  November 2012

  Jessys_Girl:

  there was a gas leak at BM's house the other day and their power got shut off for the day/night to fix it.nbsp; Without hesitation I called BM and said "Hey, I'll swing by at 5 to pick up the kids.nbsp; You need anything?nbsp; I' can run by the grocery store on my way".nbsp; Why would someone NOT take care of their child in an emergency like that???

  I don't even think its about caring for your own child, as it is about being a caring human being. How someone can be all cozy in their house when they know that there is a family a few blocks away freezing and starving and they don't do anything about it, makes them a total dickwad.
  
  If SS and his mother had lost power during the storm, we would have offered them to come here. In the past SS has come here when they were without heat, and BM chose to go elsewhere thank goodness. There are so many selfless people out there who are doing whatever they can to help those who have been devastated by this storm, that I refuse to let stories of those who haven't change my view of society.
  
  I hope that you get your power back soon!

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• lookame3639 member

  November 2012

  In cases like this I would always offer to take the kiddo my parents own a generator so even if I have no power they would either let us stay with them or they would bring the generator over and hook it up so we have power. My X on the other hand would decline or hide that they don't have power.
  
  There was an incident when a huge storm rolled through and my X the day he got power back sent me a message asking how long I had power, when I told him I never lost it and if I had I still had my parents generator he dropped the subject and moved on.
  
  Does your X have any anemosity towards you? Does he make an effort to see your daughter at least on his visit days? Does he call to talk to your daughter when it's not his visit days? I think these all play a role in how he would react in a crisis situation...as in if he doesn't make an effort outside of visots then he probably won't make an effort in a crisis or if he has anemosity towards you perhaps he feels helping your daughter is helping you and therefor doesn't care to help at all.

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• kirbear member

  November 2012

  Thank you for the replies. I'm glad to see I'm not alone in my thinking!! I would def offer help if roles were reversed.
  
  My xh sees our daughter once a week for 1.52 hours. His choice. He doesn't take any of the other time he is entitled too. He and I get along fairly well, as long as we don't have to discuss anything about money he's very bitter about paying child support. But I guess we also get along because I don't really expect anything from him in terms of help with dd. we get along well enough to have had a joint visit at the playground last week without any issue.
  He never calls dd during the week. He typically sends a text everyday asking about dd, but its more of a check in than actually wanting to know. For instance if I had to contact him regarding insurance papers, bc he heard from me that day, he does not ask about dd. or this week he sent me a text about hurricane details at his work, never once asked about dd. Or if I reply that she isn't feeling well he doesn't follow up. He doesn't inquire about her chronic health issues.
  So I can't say that I'm surprised based on his daily interactions, but when you see everyone else stepping up to help others, it makes you think about the fact that virtual strangers are offering help, but not her dad. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't out of line with thinking he should have offered something.
  Thanks again!

  Kirsten DD 4-7-06

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• Littlejen22 member

  November 2012

  Do you live in NJ? I cannot remember who else does. This no power and no school SUCKS. There are so many incredible stories around that the fact that a father would not think to open his doors to his child is disgusting. Have you flat out asked? Does he know for certain you are without? In my neighborhood I am the first house on our grid without power, there is a creek and woods between us and the next house so no way to run an extension cord if we even knew the people to ask.

  Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08

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