Anyone waiting on baby 2 bc of your career?

Re: Anyone waiting on baby 2 bc of your career?

• DoctorWorm222 member

  November 2012

  Kinda sorta...
  I'd like to have another soon so the kiddos would be close in age, but I'm getting ready to start a new job in January. I don't think my new employer would be thrilled if I joined her group and then got KOEd right away. I figure I probably owe her at least a year of solid work before I have a baby on her dime.
  
  Unfortunately, is an issue for us, so we'd have to hold off regardless.

                                 
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• AngLK987 member

  November 2012

  Originally originally I wanted to wait 2 or 3 years between kiddos.... then after going back to work and then subsequently quitting my job to SAH & go back to school we decided to try again in October so they'd be close together, now that october has come (and gone) we've decided again to wait because school is so uncertain for next year (I may be travelling up to 3 hours away for school, and be gone up to 5 days a week) so because we're uncertain what that will mean for our family we've decided to wait until that gets closer.  We've decided to wait until June of next year to discuss it again, and if we do try we'd like to time it so that I have the baby during the summer so it won't be mid-semester since I will be in school for the next 3 years for the master's program i'm in. 

    

   

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• katecham member

  November 2012

  We are. I started my job in July and won't qualify for my short-term disability (covers maternity leave) or FMLA until July 2013. We were thinking possibly aiming for a baby fall/winter 2013, but my job is grant-funded and we won't know if we have jobs next year until December/January. If we don't get refunded I'm only guaranteed a job until June 2013, and if that happens I'll have to find a job and wait another 12 months to qualify for FMLA. So we are playing the waiting game. 

   

  That said, I do not have baby fever. At all. I love DS, but I was SO SO SICK the entire pregnancy that I came to terms with being one and done. Number 2 is still an open option, but DH doesn't want to be "old" when we have number 2 (he is 8 years older than me) and we are getting close to his "old age" cutoff for himself. His dad was old and didn't get to do as much with DH, like sports, etc. and DH wants to be active in all our kids' lives. In December we will have another baby talk.

  
  

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• sharksfan member

  November 2012

  We waited for baby #1 b/c of my career.  When we were first married, we were both in the Navy and out to sea at different times.  So, we decided to wait until I was on shore duty to try for #1.  Then, when I got to shore duty, DH deployed so we obviously couldn't try then.  When he got home, I was transitioning out of the Navy and starting a civilian job.  I wanted to be in that job for at least a year before trying.  Then, once we finally started trying, it took longer than anticipated.  So, it was a long road for us, but I'm glad we waited until the time was right career wise.  I know this isn't exactly what you asked, but I shared it b/c I'm a firm believer that if your career is important to you, you have to consider that when making your family plans.  I'm waiting on baby 2 right now b/c DH isn't home to do his part in the baby making process, but there is a possible promotion available to me in the next year (not 100% the position will be open, but there is rumor).  If there is a chance that I can go for it, I'll probably put off trying another year or so.  I'm not getting any younger, though, so 1 year delay is my limit!!

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