So after dinner tonight, I asked my SO if he had texted our co worker (we still work together at a sandwich shop for now until he starts his new job) to remind her to do something up at work tonight, and he said no, and asked if I could do it for him, no big deal. I texted her what I needed to. Now, normally I am not very snoopy, but the previous texts before that caught my eye, and were a tad fishy...
One was from my SO to her, saying "Did you remember to toss the bottle caps off the desk?" and her responding "duh"
so I scrolled upwards to view some of their older texts... (seriously I never look through his phone, I've never felt I needed to)
One was from her asking "Are you going to be in a better mood tonight? (:" and he responded "Of course" wtf is that supposed to mean??
So not that mad at this point, just a little confused and getting ticked...but I didn't want to avoid it, so I asked him about the bottle cap text assuming he was drinking and just said "sooo when were you drinking at work, thats not very smart." and he just responded "you want to give me my phone back, it was sunday" So I threw it at his lap and got mad. Any other response wouldn't have pissed me off...but why did he get so defensive? He knows I never go through his phone, so what else is he hiding. Never ever ever would I think he would cheat, and I don't think its anything like that, but why in the HELL is he drinking at work with our only single female co worker...
We're not being terribly friendly with each other at the moment, well I'm not. He can tell I'm annoyed with him so he's being extra rubby and trying to snuggle...but I'm just being grumpy. I'm going to talk to him once he's out of the shower and just say regardless of who's intentions are what, that I'm uncomfortable with him drinking with another girl when I'm not around, and not telling me about it...especially when I'm at home waiting for him,pregnant with his son. And that can get a number of reactions...
what would you ladies do/think? I feel like I'm handling this better than normal. In my brain I'm jumping to conclusions and beating him with all the new bottles we just got.
Re: How would you feel?? NBR kinda long
He shouldn't be drinking at work regardless of the person with whom he is working. Period. I'd probably make a bigger deal out of that.
SO DID let you look at his phone so it can't be that bad. If he'd said no you can't use his phone, that would have really!! set off alarms.
I'd let this go, stop pushing him away when he's clearly (for a man) trying to snuggle/make things better. He obviously knows you're upset so give him a chance to make good decisions in the future. If he doesn't, then go about it differently.
I find it odd that he didn't tell you he was drinking with this female employee, but if he was hiding something he wouldn't have let you see his phone, or he would have deleted the messages first.
I don't really care for flirty skinny not pregnant girls either. =/