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Multiples
Things you love/hate about having multiples.
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Love: There really is nothing better than having two babies smile/laugh at one time. Sometimes it feels like my heart is going to burst from cuteness. And of course, watching them interact with each other is fun.
Hate: It's so difficult not to compare...more so than with kids of different ages. We're starting to see personality differences between my girls and it's hard sometimes for me not to gravitate to the more chill, laid-back one 
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J - 9/6/09
L and A - 1/17/12
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Re: Things you love/hate about having multiples.
Love everything about it - There really is nothing better than having two babies smile/laugh at one time. Sometimes it feels like my heart is going to burst from cuteness. And of course, watching them interact with each other is fun.
its not a Hate but just a part i dislike - that with two I am not as organized or planned out as I would think I should be ( like if we have one ) . Hate that its just me and DW and we often dont get pics or are busy with kids that we kinda miss the moments. Halloween was fun but we did not get a chance to take pic really. Hate that i let things slide because we have twins.
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LOVE: Seeing them spontaneously give each other kisses. Or when one is crying the other one will walk up and give a paci or a hug. Oh SO MANY things and so hard to pick what I love the most.
Hate: Other people (besides you guys) having NO IDEA how difficult my life really is. They think because they have 3 kids too, that is the same. Yeah, NOT EVEN CLOSE!
Videos of telling my family and husbands family that we are preggo...with twins!
I could not have said this better. I would add that there is no greater moment in my day than when they hug and kiss each other goodnight. I also love that they look for each other and when they don't see each other they start calling for the other.
Unfortunately, things do slip and I have been called everything from a horrible friend to missing family. When you work 50+ hours a week and try to take care of infants there is simply no time left in the day. I look forward to my 10 minutes to shower!
Love: They are best friends and love each other so much.
Hate: Potty training.
Got poop on the brand new carpet the other night. Oops.
Love: I love that they have each other. It is so much fun to watch them play together and listen to their conversations. I love that they are good at sharing and working things out by themselves for the most part.
Hate: I hate that twin pregnancies are high risk. I hate that they are often born early and that breastfeeding two is more complicated than one. Oh, and I'm not a fan of double the tantrums. My girls seem to take turns so it seems like there are times when someone is always fussing, although it's getting better.
***Twin fraternal girls born at 35w6d in 12/2008***
Love: I love watching them play together and give each other kisses. I love having two babies crawl into my lap. I love hearing them both laugh and watching them grow together.
Hate: The fact that if I had one baby I could get more sleep. I also feel like with one baby I could have done more - maybe breastfeeding would have been successful, maybe I could have carried to term, it would be easier to go out on my own, I could have given one baby more attention, and I wish I would have been able to experience a "normal" pregnancy. And I'm not fond of double the daycare/formula/diaper costs!
3 months in if someone would have asked if I had to do it all over again if I would want twins I probably would have said no. Now, 100%, without question, yes! All of the tough stuff is well worth it, and I see that more clearly the older they get.
Love: That I get to do everything twice from baths to picking out outfits to cuddles and loves. That my husband and I don't have to share - we each get to hold a baby!
Hate: When I can't comfort one because I'm busy with the other one. I wish they could understand the phrase "It'll just be a few minutes, honey" when I'm changing one for a feeding and the other one is upset because she's ready NOW!
Love: knowing they will have a best friend for life. The continuing amazement of watching the big differences between identical twins who share so much DNA. Dressing them alike, though during pregnancy i swore i would hardly ever do it.
Challenge: missing out/having to end special quiet moments with one twin because the other twin becomes fussy or starts to cry
I agree with this 100%!
(Hi, haven't been here in a long time!)
Love: pretty much everything right now...they are 13m and this is without a doubt my favorite baby age. They are happy almost always, and love to be cuddled. Not much in life is cuter than two babies runcrawling towards you to dive into your lap!
Hate: that they are mobile enough now to not want to be strapped into their stroller when we are out and about. I wish we had more hands to let all three kids get to experience things better (like the pumpkin patch for example). They are in that in between stage where they aren't mobile enough to walk on their own but they WANT to get down/out to explore and I'm sad that we can't always accommodate that.
Edit: HOLY COW!! This was my old sign-on and TB wouldnt' let me edit stuff so I had created a new one and have used that for over a year now. Not sure how this log-in got used again! It's SpinningJess!
Here's the real me haha
Mine are still so new, but I completely agree with all of this. I find that I cry now when the baby I'm not holding starts to cry and I can't comfort him because I'm comforting the other one.
When I put the boys together in a crib or pack n play, they always end up arm in arm. It's so adorable that they already so close.
I remember you
. I'm glad to know you're not actually 95 weeks pregnant. lol.
This and this exactly! I love that they are already best friends and when together either hold hands or wrap arms. And I love the attention they get for being so darn cute. I too said I wouldnt dress then alike and now I like nothing more.
Hate: it breaks my heart that I cant hold both at once. I always feel like the one not being held thinks I like his brother more. I always feel like I am being more favorable to one than the other. I hate that I cant spend as much quiet time with them because I have to tend to the other also. We miss out on a lot of quiet time because of this i.e. reading books, rocking to sleep etc.
Love: I love Ariel and Alaina smile,they reason for life,to see the difference in two babies,to learn the different things on who develops what first. Also I love them expressing themselves to eachother. Knowing I need no more kids BC they have eachother. I love shopping for two kids. It give me reasons to b picky just in case I like both items both I can Buy. I love to see them share and I love to see my babies eat. Twins are a blessing.
Hate: the waking up eachother,not wanting to share,following eachother tantrums, crying the same time,fixing two meals,bottles and unable to satisfied both needed times. Everything cost more BC it two.
LOVE:
* Watching the way they look out for each other. Like starting when they were about 15 months, if I set out both sippy cups, whoever got to them first would give brother his first before getting his own.
And even now if I find, say, a lion book for Alex he'll instantly say, "Where's a superhero one for Will?"
* Watching them play together. They really didn't do it much until they were 3 but over the past 9 months, it's been really cool when in between the fighting we get to watch them collaborating together, making each other laugh, running around with their superhero capes on holding hands, etc.
* Having them both old enough to start preschool at the same time was nice.
Being able to drop them both off for 3 hrs a few mornings a week and go sit in a coffee shop for a bit or run errands ... delightful!
* As they get older, having them both the same age makes certain things simpler for sure! Same schedule, they can handle the same toys and (mostly) activities, etc.
* I know the twin attention can get old at times, but with fraternal 3 y/o boys it's not that crazy ... and really, I love how they make people smile.
People get a kick out of how different they are and I appreciate that they notice that and see them as individuals.
* My amazing fellow MoMs I've gotten to know over the past 4 years!
HATE:
(If we'd had a singleton he definitely would've wanted to TTC a second child.) It's tough especially as they're getting close to 4 to think I'll never get to experience pregnancy, babyhood, toddlerhood, etc., again, and that they'll most likely both leave home at the same time.
* That, especially since our only kids are our twins and DH doesn't think he wants more, that I only had one shot at each stage.
* That I've never had much one on one time with either kid; I had been so looking forward to that time with our first child when I could focus on just one before having to split my attention between two or more kids. Ha.
That was especially tough the first year or two.
* The comparisons, especially since one of my boys has delays--most notably gross motor--while the other is very athletic.
* The first year ... OK, the first two years.
The logistics and craziness.
* That when we're trying to figure out how to handle each new stage, it's times two so it's twice as crazy until we get a handle on it, and they totally feed off each other (I guess that's more about having twins first; it can be a steep learning curve at times, and we have kind of high-maintenance kiddos with clashing personalities).
Love: Watching them play together, laugh at each other, seeing them with a built in best buddy. Double hugs, double smiles. Dressing them in coordinating outfits makes me happy every time. Double the cuteness in general. Paycheck for getting TV work! And I actually do (usually) enjoy the attention they attract.
Hate: The fighting and built-in worst enemy. Also how difficult it is to get anything done, and how people really have no idea how tough it is to manage two toddlers. I just want to slap people when they tell me they think having twins is easier than two kids of different ages. The lack of sleep for the first year because we had two, not one, difficult sleepers!
Love: Reading all the responses and thinking about what to look forward to
Where do I start? I love the fact that I have not 1 unbelievably incredible child that I adore beyond what I ever thought imaginable, but 2! I love the fact that a lot of times if 1 is fussy I can put them together and he calms down. I love that they are already talking to each other. I love seeing them look, smile and laugh at each other. I love that I can already tell that they are going to be best friends. Love that I still get some 1 on 1 time with each because a lot of times they nap on opposite schedules (although that is also under the hate category lol). I love the fact that these are most likely our only kids so thankful we were blessed with 2 at once. I love coordinating (but NOT matching) outfits
I love having them both on my lap in the big recliner and reading bed time stories. I really could go on an on.
Hate- that they nap on opposite schedules most of the time means mommy gets nothing done, like ever. I hate having to listen to 1 cry while I am dealing with the other. Having to listen to 2 cry if I can't get to either one of them is even worse. Although they were precious as newborns, I really despised that stage. I did not sleep more than 20 min increments for at least 6 weeks. I get really tired of people asking "are they twins" or even worse "are they identical" (they look nothing alike, seriously people get a brain). Hate all the double costs. Oh I also hate when my family buys matching outfits for them. I wonder how long of me dressing them differently around them will it take for them to get the hint? For pictures once in awhile fine but everything else, no. They are 2 totally and completely different kids why would I dress them alike! Oh and most of all I hate that I constantly worry about A because he is doing almost everything behind O, and I mean like months behind on some stuff. So A really needs more attention to get help getting to these milestones, yet it's O that is constantly begging for attention!
Love having one of each and watching them develop their little personalities!
Hate not being able to wear both, it's hard to take them out etc and do not get me started about our boat of a Chicco carriage! I am going to trade it in for a side by side jogger soon!! Just not being able to tend to both at the same time makes me sad >:
Look at those cute little peas! Oh my goodness.
Thanks for sharing your answers, ladies. I loved reading the responses and identify with many.
Love their little non-sense conversations, especially the ones I overhear without them knowing. They are often so sweet and supportive, and downright silly with each other.
Hate the 3yo tantrums times 2.
love: double the love, kisses, smiles, and giggles. They are at the age where they are starting to "talk" and it is so cute!
Hate : at bedtime while my husband and I are each feeding and rocking a baby to sleep that my 3 year old is usually sad and pouting because she is also tired and wants someone to hold her. it breaks my heart when 1 baby wakes up after we have put them in their cribs and my daughter looks at me and says "no dont go I want you to hold ME"