Pregnant after a Loss

Nov. 1 & why I dread it...(long)

First let me say how hard this week has been..many of you read my post earlier this week asking for prayers for my cousin who delivered her precious baby girl at 25 weeks. They are doing an autopsy because it was not a "cord accident"...I took this hard...maybe it was because I found out she was pregnant right after I had my miscarriage and followed her pregnancy on facebook....This still devastates me and I am so heart broked for her. They are having a private ceremony.

I say all this because it reminds me that tomorrow I will remember the Due date of my precious baby that I Iost.

My husband and I started trying for baby #2 in Jan. we later found out Feb 21 that we were expecting......I didn't tell my hubsand for a solid week and until after my first appointment...I wanted to "make sure" before I told him. March 28 I woke up bleeding...went to the dr. and was told I could or couldn't be losing my baby...Went for betas and they were good #'s...2 days later while sitting at my desk something didn't feel right...I go to the bathroom and immediatetly start losing my baby...I felt so helpless and so scared...made it to my dr. who was 30 min. away and they confirmed my worst nightmare...I lost my precious baby at 10 weeks. I felt so alone and felt like I had let my husband down because I could not carry our baby....The following monday I was still passing clots and my dr. was concerned...We opted to have the D&C...I remember my nurse telling me before my surgery you have to sign this paper because the state wants to know how many babies are born and how many babies die before birth...Those words still sting...

July 13...(friday the 13th to be exact) I found out I was expecting baby # 3 ....I remember being so scared and not really believing the test...My husband has been so supportive and my family has too...Tomorrow will be very hard for me...even when I celebrate my sweet baby boy growing inside....I hurt so bad for our precious baby that should have been due Nov. 1

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Re: Nov. 1 & why I dread it...(long)

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. The EDD is tough. I hope you are able to be with those you love and who will support you.
    BFP#1 11/25/11 EDD 08/09/12 MMC 01/30/12 D&C 02/01/12
    BFP#2 09/11/12 beta1=72 @13dpo beta2=160 @14dpo beta3=over 6000 @24dpo U/S @7w2dd hb=146bpm U/S @8w5d hb=159bpm U/S @12w hb=164bpm
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  • I'm so sorry that my birthday holds such a sad association for you.  EDDs are so hard.  (((Hugs)))  It helps to have a baby growing inside, but it doesn't take away the sting, not at all.  I wish we could all have ALL of our babies here. 

    BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11

    BFP#4 8.27.13 (EDD 5.6.14) DD born 4.23.14

     

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  • I don't have any advice, but I can give (((Big Hugs))) !!!! I'm sorry about the EDD!
    BFP #1 7/15/2012
    Natural Miscarriage 8/4/2012 at 7 weeks
    BFP #2 10/26/12 - Baby Jack - Due 7/6/13 - Born 6/7/13
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  • *hugs*
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    BFP#1 - 11/13/11, Natural MC - 12/24/11 at 12 weeks
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  • BIG ((hugs))!  EDD are always hard.  T&Ps for you, your DH, and your cousin and her LO.
    TTC #1 Since 4/2010, Cycle 30
    Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant :p
    Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
    4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
    7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
    IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
    FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
    4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
    FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
    FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
    1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB :), 2nd u/s 146bpm
    baby girl born 5/10/13

    TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
    Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28. 
    IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
    IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
    IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
    FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
    FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!!  Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss and sorry that tomorrow will be a rough date. Once again, I'm also sorry for your cousin's loss. When you have experienced a loss yourself, you definitely grieve the losses of others, especially people who are close to you.
    Me-"JB"(26) DH(29)
    Married since 2008 with 1 precious furbaby.

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    BFP #1 on 3rd round of Clomid (50mg).
  • KWilson, I woke up thinking of you.

    I hope the day is kind to you ((hugs))

    BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework

    BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower

    BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12  Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012

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  • I am very sorry for your loss.  It is a difficult time to be pregnant and pass EDD.  Sending lots of ((((((((hugs))))))))
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  • Thinking of you today.  (BIG HUGS)
  • Big (((hugs)))

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  • I'm so sorry... EDD's are hard no matter what... And i'm sorry for your cousin's loss. It's all so unfair.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of T&P's for today.

    Secondly I am so sorry you have to go through all this with your Cousin, I know that it must be difficult. No words really make anyone feel better. Sending lots of T&P's to your whole family while they go through these tough times.

    BFP: 01/08/11 EDD: 09/15/11 Natural MC: 02/03/11
    BFP: 02/14/12 EDD: 10/26/12 D&C: 03/09/12
    BFP: 04.05.12 EDD: 12.17.12 Born 11.18.12 Jackson Kane 6lbs 5ounces

    BFP: 06.08.13 EDD: 02.13.14 Baby Girl.. 2U2 Here we come

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  • Totally understandable to feel this way. My loss EDD is Christmas Eve. It will be hard but luckily we host family that night for the holiday so i will be well distracted and happy to be around family. But it will be hard to think I would have been delivering our baby boy that night. However, I will also take solace knowing that shortly after that loss I was blessed with this pregnancy and that on my loss EDD I will be holding a new baby in my belly. Doesn't take the grief away, but certainly softens the blow a bit.
    7th Pregnancy, no living kids, with a You-Name-It Loss History. Curious? Inquire Within.
    Due 8/13/16 and couldn't be more excited for our little girl! <3
  • I am so sorry for your loss.  I can understand why today is so hard for you.  Sending lots of love your way.

    Married to SAJ since 8/6/11
    BFP #1: 1/23/12 mc: 2/19/12
    BFP #2: 6/20/12 
    Oliver Stephen born 3/7/13 :)
    BFP #3: 10/22/13
      

  • Huge hugs to you as you deal with the EDD loss as well as the painful loss of your cousin's little angel. Give yourself time to grieve and rest during this very hard week. 
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    EDD 1/31/13, MC May 17. EDD 3/31/13, MC July 26. I miss you so much already my angel loves

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