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Tired of it!!

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This morning H asked me if there was anything he could do to save our marriage. My answer was a clear no.

There is no way I can expect him to change at his age. He turns 50 Saturday.

I turn 45 in March. It's time I move on and find a better life.

He made me look him in the eye again and tell him that I'm not leaving him for someone else. He's insistent that I am "acting funny" and that he's sure there's someone else.

Whatever. 

He refuses to believe that I am just flat out unhappy and that maybe - just MAYBE - his actions, or the lack of them are the reason for it.

I am growing weary and ready to be done with all of this.

Soon.

Also find out today his son was arrested. This time for battery.  Once again, I am right.  I said he'd be in jail again before the year was up.  Lucky for him he has a girlfriend who believes his crap and bailed him out.  I feel sorry for her.  And her son.  I pray for her sons sake she gets smart quick.

Going to my divorce lawyer Friday to finalize things and hopefully get the green light from my bankruptcy lawyer that divorce will not complicate things and I can finally file. 

"he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member
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    He made me look him in the eye again and tell him that I'm not leaving him for someone else. He's insistent that I am "acting funny" and that he's sure there's someone else.

    He refuses to believe that I am just flat out unhappy and that maybe - just MAYBE - his actions, or the lack of them are the reason for it.

     

    I would be so tempted to look him in the eye and tell him 'STB EH I promise you that this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with you'.

    Stay strong J, in a few short months you will be free from all this bs and you can live your life and raise your DD the way you want.

    I really do commend you J you are being so strong, well done!

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  • twister22twister22 member
    GL, I hope things go well for you and this is a smooth, quick, and easy process once the ball is really rolling.
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  • KaeldrasmommyKaeldrasmommy member
    I would have had to tell him that yes, there is someone else. You. And your DD. The both of you matter much more than he does.
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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member

    He wants to believe you are seeing someone else, so he doesn't have to accept that this is really his fault.  Douche.

    I hope you don't let him off the hook.  On anything.  Good luck to you.

     

    Mama of 2: one who grew in my womb, both who grow in my heart.
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